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Sarah - posted on 01/20/2016

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I found the age from the profile page. So i am guessing that is the girl in question.

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Sarah - posted on 01/21/2016

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i hope the lawyer can help clear things up. Often it is the bruises of varied shades of healing that are the most concerning as they show more than one time of injury. DCFS is not out to get you, nor are they going to be played by your child's father or grandmother. If you really believe that then have your lawyer request a secondary review of the case. If dad has never parented then what is his role in this? If she has never been with anyone but you and DCFS finds abuse or neglect has occurred,then you will be the one accountable.

Jodi - posted on 01/20/2016

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Oops, I must have missed the age.

In that case....maybe she said something about someone hitting her. Like your partner. That might be why it was reported, not just the bruises alone. But there is definitely something more to this than just a few small bruises.

Sarah - posted on 01/20/2016

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I keep coming back to the term used in the reason for removal of the child. That her injuries were "inflicted". These terms are not used carelessly nor are they interchangeable.
Inflicted by definition means;cause (something unpleasant or painful) to be suffered by someone or something or impose something unwelcome on.
If her injuries were to be found accidental, incidental or unintentional, then the case may have take a different path. I am not accusing you of besting your child, but at 3 she can tell or show someone how she got hurt. Also, the location of the bruises is a factor in defining the cause. Who lives in the home with you? You allude to pointing fingers at your partner and not being able to tell your side.
Why do you think she was removed? If she had only a bruise or two and no other marks, was she examined by a physician, was she interviewed by a play therapist what did they ask you about her?

Jodi - posted on 01/20/2016

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I think there is more to this story. Has the father been trying to see his child and you have refused? I'm not saying that makes this all okay, but your posts are a little difficult to decipher. If you have refused dad being able to have time with his child, he may have seen this as a way he could do that (when really, he should have just taken you to court). What have the fights between you and dad been about?

You also have not indicated how old your child is, despite having been asked.

Ev - posted on 01/20/2016

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Nicol--WHen they take kids out of a home where suspected abuse or neglect is thought to be happening, they do not ask the parent/s who they would prefer to put the child with. CPS will look for willing family members and place the child with them. You do not get that choice. They look at the best interest of the child. All they need to do is to tell you and give you in writing what is being suspected and looked into or investigated and when they want to go over it in court. You do not get to request things from them. Its not how it works. Once a child is taken into custody by CPS they lay the ground work of what happens in that case with the courts.

Sarah - posted on 01/20/2016

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If your daughter can talk well, what she says and acts out with the behavioral and play therapists will be the most telling. Was she placed with family? What do you mean by DCF has made move without speaking to you? If possible abuse was indicated, then DCF must act for the safety of the child and make sure she is safe. What they mean by "inflicted" is that she got the bruises at the hands of someone else, not that she fell or had a bike accident.

Sarah - posted on 01/20/2016

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I am a school nurse and unless there was more than two tiny bruises I would not have called. How old is she? Is she able to say how she got the bruises? For a child to be removed form the home, they must be in imminent danger or being neglected. Have you had DCF issues before? When the removal happened you should have been given a written assessment of why she is being taken from you and a short term safety plan. Call the caseworker and ask to see her, even supervised at this time it better then not at all. Was she placed with family? There has to be something else that warranted the removal.

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