Lorraine - posted on 08/31/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )




I am 18 years old had my first child when I was 17 and just found out I'm pregnant with my second child I don't have the best luck with guys and I just started college am a single mom not working at the time I am scared and don't really know what to do someone plz help !!


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B - posted on 09/07/2016




There are alot of resources available for you. Please try and reach out to a local church. Also, this link will encourage you!!!! You have a bright future full of hope and are very loved!!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/31/2016




Okay love, you are in a sticky situation. As the other ladies have mentioned, if you are going to be sexually active, you MUST use birth control. This means ANY penetration!! You should know this by now.
Anyhow, you have a responsibility to tell the father. Ultimately, the decision is yours. If you choose abortion, he needs to know. If you choose to keep, you need to put him on the birth certificate and have him pay child support. If you choose to adopt, he needs to know and agree to it also I believe (each state is different).
Now it is time to pick yourself up, and deal with it like an adult and figure out what you are going to do. If you are newly pregnant, you can potentially start fall semester, and finish spring semester in time to have the baby. The best thing you can do is get an education so you can support your growing family. Don't use this as an excuse to stop school no matter the results from your decision.

PLEASE in the future, be smarter about your choices. If you feel you don't "pick the best men" know you deserve more, and so do your children. They deserve a mom that thinks enough of herself and respects herself to have men that treat her and her children well. I know your child is young, but you are setting an example for her.

Best of luck, and know that you and your child deserve better than what you have been doing.

Michelle - posted on 08/31/2016




We really can't help you.
You need to make the choice on what you are going to do. Talk to your doctor about your options and decide what to do.
Like Jodi said, make sure you are getting child support from the first child's Father.
Please use reliable birth control as well as condoms. You know how babies happen and also how to prevent getting in this position again.

Jodi - posted on 08/31/2016




Why on EARTH are you not using a reliable contraception? If you don't have the best luck with your partners, then maybe they should also be wearing a condom, not just to prevent pregnancy, but STIs as well. Maybe after this, you will be more careful.

Firstly, I hope the father of your first baby is paying child support. If not, then file for it, as this will at least give you something to help support that baby. If you decide to go ahead and have this baby, same thing, file for child support against the father once it is born.

However, you do have options. If you feel that abortion isn't an option for you, then you could consider adoption as a possibility. Perhaps talk to your doctor about all of your options and then your doctor will be able to assist you with the resources you need.

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