dose anyone else have a three year old that weighs 50lbs.?

Lauren - posted on 04/28/2012 ( 58 moms have responded )

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My daughter is a tall girl but she weighs 50lbs. I feel such like a bad mom for her to weigh so much. i feed her healthy foods lots of frurit and vegies. and whole wheat things.

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Anita - posted on 03/12/2013

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I weighed my son today, he is 3 years and 9 months old, 3 1/2 feet tall. And he weighs 56.2 pounds!!!! I don't know what to do! He won't eat veges...I can't get him to drink water. Apples and bananas is about it on the healthy side of fruits.

Adriana - posted on 04/30/2012

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My youngest at 3.5 was 60 pounds ... I was shocked. We regularly see a nutritionist because my daughter has severe food allergies. But in all those appointments she was never weighed. In my house hold we don't use a scale regularly due to the fact we have 4 girls and my teens have the need to want to lose weight because they feel they are over weight, especially my oldest. So she would stop eating, so her doctor recommended I lose the scale.
So I asked her doctor about her weight, he said with her being as tall as she was and that her height percentile was 107% and her weight was 74% he wasn't worried about it. He was more concerned about her rapid growth spirts and the pain she has in her legs and feet. She just turned 4 this month. Size 6 pants are starting to be high waters on her depending on the cut of the pant leg. Size 7 is to big around the waist. But most of the 7s i find in the store don't have the buttons with straps on the inside.

Joselyn - posted on 04/30/2012

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I would say as long as your pediatrition says everything is fine, and that your daughter seems to be taking after one side of the family, and is healthy without extra fat then she's fine! My daughter is 6 & 1/2 and weighs maybe 40 pounds on a good day. My son is 3 & 1/2 and finally hit 30 pounds. They are both tall, skinny like string beans, but perfactly healthy & take after my husbands side of the family whom are all tall & skinny. Some of my friends think I don't feed my kids enough because they are so slender or don't have any "baby fat" on them, but as long as they are growing, thriving, & their doctor says they are fine then I don't worry about it! I have a friend who's daughter is 7 years old and wears sizes WAY bigger than her age & out weighs my daughter by quite a bit. My friend was worried a bit because her peds said her daughter should consider healthier foods & more exercise. I told her how this was good advice for anyone and not to worry so much becaues if you looked at the daughter, then the mom & dad, you realized the daughter was just a small version of the mom, who was short, pear shape, & a bit on the stocky side naturally. When my friend realized that her daughter was just a mini version of herself it made her feel a lot better. Kids can be all sizes but as long as they are healthy then their's really nothing to worry about. On the other hand I have a friend, who has always been on the heavier side, & has two daughters age 9 & 5. The two girls are both following in their mothers footsteps, eat amaizing amounts of food (including their favorite which is TONS of mayo) & both girls could be considered "chunky" & have bellys that hang & jiggle. I feel somewhat bad for the girls because it's hard enough being chunky or fat as an adult, but to struggle with it as a kid is even worse. & what's worse is that the parents don't see it and think their daughter's jiggle guts are cute & just part of being a kid. I'm a bit overweight as an adult, but I was always average size as a kid ...and I never had a "jiggly gut". If your daughter is tall, but proportioned well & healthy then that's probably the genes she got from your side or your husbands side of the family. If you are concerned just visit the pediatritions office. You can always ask for a blood test to have your daughter's cholesterol, blood sugar, etc. checked just to keep up & give you peace of mind. And remember, muscle weighs more than fat so if your daughter is taller than her friends then she has more muscle & mass than her shorter friends.

Melissa - posted on 05/02/2012

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My daughter is tall also, as we expected. I am 5'10 and my husband is 6'5". She just turned 4 and is 3' 7 1/2". I battle a weight problem and I dont want to pass it on to my daughter. Ive done everything I can to change my life, health and the health of my family. I am down 105 lbs and I feel great, im about a size 10 now. Anyway, because of our situation I make sure she is active and I encourage a healthy life style and activity. Limit juice, lots of water. Activity, Activity, Activity. We swim and do ballet through our local Dept of Parks and recreation.

I try to say only positive things and focus on health. I want her to have a good dialogue about herself, not the I am fat, i need to loose weight voice that I learned from my mom.

OH AND PROCESSED FOOD!!! I am trying to eliminate it, but its hard because it makes a busy moms life easier.

The worst is people. "Oh she is so big." Wow look how big she is compared to my daughter." I figure if you can say something about my baby dont get mad when I say "She isnt big she is tall" or "She isnt big your kid is just small." LOL You should see how fast they get away from me. hahaha

Letsjust love our babies the way they are. Do our best buy them and make sure we make them know they are beautiful smart girls and perfect just how God made them

Misse - posted on 05/09/2012

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The doctors would listen to us when we went through the same thing. My husband and I are the two of the "smallest" people in our families and he is NOT a "small" man (think a 5'10" linebacker body type). They tried to tell us our daughter had an issue with her thyroid even though she was tall and had no other "symptoms" besides gaining a lot more weight between her 3rd birthday and her 4th. We tried to hold her still to have blood drawn (the doctor said she wasn't strong enough either but never explained to her that when she held the doc's hand not to let the doc move hers). If that doc had tried to hold her down, she would changed her mind! My husband is super strong and between him and three nurses, he finally said enough that he wasn't going to traumatize her any more. She had a growth spurt of at least 3 inches a month later. Doctors are too worried about percentiles and what amount of weight a child should gain that they won't look at the big picture anymore. Our daughter is very healthy, active, and just a big girl. She will never be skinny and I don't want her to think she needs to be as long as she is heathly and active. Sounds like you are in the same situation. Don't worry! (or get a second opinion with another doctors office if you are worried!)

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Misse - posted on 05/09/2012

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Sorry. Meant to say the doctors would not listen to us. Our daughter was 6.5 pounds when she was born and was considered a premie being born a month early. Every kid is different and it sounds like you are doing the right things! Now go have fun with your daughter and stop worrying!

Deanna - posted on 05/02/2012

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Have you taken her to the doctor? It could be an under-active thyroid.

Anna - posted on 05/02/2012

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My grandson is 3 years old and weighs 40-something pounds and he is very tall, too. She'll have a growth spurt soon so don't worry ... unless her peditrician is concerned about it. Don't beat yourself up about it. You are feeding her healthy foods it sounds like so other than increasing active playing time, I don't have much else to recommend other than just keep an eye on in-between-meal snacking. Hang in there, Lauren! :)

Katie - posted on 05/01/2012

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Don't beat yourself up, I have a 60 pound 4 year old, who I'm sure was in the 50 pound range a year ago. He's SUPER tall..a good head and shoulders taller than most kids his age. He wears a size 13 shoe...as long as she's healthy, gets lot's of exercise and isn't sitting around doing nothing but watching tv and eating donuts, I think you're good.
My dr. said to watch what my son eats because "next appt we might need to consider restricting his diet"...yeah right. he's tall, he's thick like my husband but in no way shape or form is he fat.

You know your little girl...you know her build, her activity level and what she eats. Don't let the drs scare you, or have anyone else judge you based on a number.

Good luck
Katie

Lauren - posted on 05/01/2012

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@ hope she has loved veggies since she has been a baby. not sure how she still eats them but she is not a difficult eater she eats pretty much anything. and thank you so much for the advice i apperiate it a lot.

Bobmusicgirl4 - posted on 05/01/2012

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Remember: Everybody in this world is different, we all aren't meant to fit in this "norm" doctors try to push on us. What may be a healthy weight for one 5'5" person, may not be the same for the other person that same height. My son was a pretty hefty baby, 99th percentile on pretty much every category and I'm 5'6" 126lbs. As long as your daughter's pediatrician finds nothing wrong with her weight, I would say she's perfectly healthy (judging from what you feed her- how DO you get your daughter to eat her veggies?? lol)

Mommy - posted on 05/01/2012

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My babysitter's grandson, who is with my daughter all day in day care, is 2 1/2 and weighs 40 lbs. He doesn't look overweight, just stocky. He's active and she feeds them healthy food, he's just a big boy.

Jessica - posted on 05/01/2012

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my 1 year old is around 14 pounds and around 28 inches and my 4 year old is 40 inches and 34 pounds. my one year old she is in 18 - 24 months and my son who is 4 is in 4-5t so dont feel to bad i have a little brute too

Susan - posted on 05/01/2012

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Most Children will gain a little extra weight before they have a growth spurt. Both of my children have been in the 90th - to 100th percentile for their height and weight since they were born. My son who is 7yrs old is almost 5 foot tall and he weighs 80 pounds, there is not an ounce of fat on him. He is solid. My daughter just turned five, and she is almost 4 foot tall and her wieght now is 48 pounds but when she was three she didn't weigh much less then that - it all works out as they grow, as long as they eat healthy and are active.

Medic - posted on 04/30/2012

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Just out of curiosity I asked my friends how much their kids weighed just to kind of get an idea and the only ones that weighed 50 were my friends 7 year old twins and they are pretty tall. My son is 5 and non of his friends weigh that either, they are all 40-45ish. I would however ask your pediatrician to do a blood work up to make sure her cholestrol levels are good.

Anna - posted on 04/30/2012

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If you are feeding your kid a healthy diet of mostly fruits and veggies and not a lot of processed food you should take them to the doctor. It could be a thyroid issue or various other things. Being over weight as a child could lead to health problems later on. But that doesnt make you a bad mom!

Adibah - posted on 04/30/2012

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As a mother of only one daughter, I can understand such anxiety & thoughts of is my child considered normal as compared to her counterparts. But I was reassured by her Pedi that all's ok. I think that you're being a perfectly normal & great mom to have such anxiety :) At the end of it all what matters is that your child is active & healthy... U can do what I did to ally my anxiety by talking to her pedi.

Tracey - posted on 04/30/2012

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I would not worry as long as the doctor feels she is ok. My daughter is 4 and weighs 48 pounds. She is 43 inches tall. According to the growth charts she is in the 97th percentile for weight and 104th percentile for height. But her BMI falls at the 50th percentile. She is not a large child, just big for her age. She wears a size 6 pants for the length which I have to have the adjustable waist pulled as tight as I can get it. She loves fruits and vegetables and is thriving well. This is the same child that fell into the 25th percentile for everything until she hit 18 months.

Merry - posted on 04/30/2012

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Ok there's no way a three year old is 4 ft 9 inches trees.

And Jill my son is 3 years old, he's 3ft 5 inches and he weighs 32 pounds. He's not underweight a bit!

He's fit and trim and healthy.

Now Lauren's daughter could also be perfectly healthy at 50lbs but don't say that a few pounds under would be underweight. I know most of my sons peers are around 30-35lbs. None of his friends are 40+ pounds. Now he is a young three, just this month' but I doubt even in a year he will be much more then 35lbs. And he's super tall!

Lauren - posted on 04/30/2012

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i just checked her bmi and she is prefectly health and fine. you know you just start to worry when you are a frist time mom and see so many things on t.v and read that you start to over worry about everything. i want to again thank of our your words ladies and guys to.

Lauren - posted on 04/30/2012

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thank you. ithe only thing i have cut back is her milk in take she loves milk and always has. since i have cut back her milk i have noticed her tummy has gotten smaller.

Lauren - posted on 04/30/2012

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thank you. i am not worried as nuch as i was before. and i honstly don't give her sweets i give her apples with peanut butter and other sweet fruits instead.

Dove - posted on 04/30/2012

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Terez, that must be a mistype? There is no way your almost 3 year old is 4'9". That's the height my kid was at 10 years old and was 70 pounds with pretty much not an ounce of fat. ;)

Lauren - posted on 04/30/2012

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thank you. she has trimed up alot then what she was since starting her per ballet classes.

Jennifer - posted on 04/30/2012

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My daughter just turned 4 in March. She is 43" and 48 lbs. She has been a large child since birth. She was born 3 weeks early at 8 lbs. 7 oz. Her growth has trended the same since birth....always off the charts for height and weight. She is still chunky, but very solid and very strong.

Bethany - posted on 04/30/2012

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I wish my 4 year old weighed 50 lbs. I feel like she is way to skinny! She is 2 inches shy of 4 feet tall and only weighs 43 lbs. we had her up to 46 then she got sick a couple months ago and is now down to 43. We have started her on pediasure. I took a picture of the gorgeous hair on her back in the bath and when I looked at it again later I was afraid to share it with anyone because she looks so skinny the way her shoulder blades stick out. Don't worry about a young child's weight unless clothes that are the right length don't fit around their waist. My dd is in a size 6 but unless the pants are adjustable waist they are too big and some are still too big adjusted all the way down.

Donna - posted on 04/30/2012

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My son is three and weighs 50lbs, he is autistic so he has alot of issues with eating, but he is not fat, not overweight at all. Dont feel like a bad mom, my brothers are 6'4 250 pounds and my son is following in their footsteps, its in their genes. Sounds like you are feeding her great food items as well. You are doing everything right, =)

Danielle

Jill - posted on 04/30/2012

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You need to look at the overall picture, not get hung up on a single number.



3 years old

3' 6" tall

50 lbs



Your daughter isn't remotely heavy. In fact, a couple pounds less and she'd be underweight. She's a perfect weight for her height.

Theresa - posted on 04/30/2012

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My baby will be 14 months on May 7th n @ her one yr check up she weigh 31 lbs ...don't stress

Megan - posted on 04/30/2012

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If you are really so worried about it, talk to your pediatrician. They will be able to tell you if its a healthy weight and if you need to add this or subtract that. Please don't go taking things out of her diet (except sweets, fats, and unhealthy things) as it could really mess with her development.

If you really are feeding her the way you say, I think she is probably just fine. Talk to your dr and maybe enlist a nutritionist (with your dr's recommendation) and see what happens with it.

My cousin has a 5 year old that is heavier for her age, but she had some pretty big health problems her first 2 years that have caused her to put on extra weight, plus that side of the family doesn't produce skinny kids (with my son being an odd exception for some reason). She's a healthy, active child with a screwy parental situation, but for the most part, she's where she needs to be. As a precaution, my cousin has enlisted a nutritionist to make sure that her weight is kept under control (her child's father is always claiming that my cousin only feeds her junk food and never lets her excersize and play to burn off calories, which is false) and head off any issues before they become problems.

Ann - posted on 04/30/2012

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I just looked up my daughters measurements. She has always been on the tall and full side between 80th and 95th percentile most of her life. She is strong. She picks up her 37lb brother all the time. She looks a year older than her age. However she was perportionate. Now that she is 5 1/2 yrs old, she has slimmed down. I would not worry too much as long as she is active, eats healthy and a variety, and juice and sweets are limited to once in awhile treats.

Michelle - posted on 04/29/2012

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Something to remember seeing that she is in ballet class is that she is developing muscle taking this class and muscle weighs more then fat so though she may be a little chunky under that little baby belly could be muscle my son by the age 5 was all muscle and he had been in dance for 3 years by this time. He was a little chunky when he was a toddler but because of his physical activity and healthy eating he trimmed right out. Now at 11 he is considered extremely fit with the lowest percent of fat to muscle ration that is healthy. Don't worry they all grow up and loose that baby belly. My daughter just turned 3 and she is just now starting to loose hers.

Lauren - posted on 04/29/2012

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her frist doctor she had was very honest with me and never said she had a problem. when he retired she had a new one who told me she was alittle chunky. i have since then switched insurances. so i haven't taken her to the new doctor she has. she is 4 feet i just checked.i don't overfeed her. I am just curios to know if anyone else has a three year old that weighs as much as Austyn dose.

Pamela - posted on 04/29/2012

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Your picture doesn't show her weight in distribution to her height, which makes it difficult to comment. You say she is tall....how tall?

Is the pediatrician concerned? Has any doctor told you to be concerned? Are you overfeeding her?

If not then you are being led by FEAR, because WORRY is based in FEAR. FEAR IS:
F alse
E vidence
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R eal. Why are you worrying? Is she healthy? Are YOU the one creating a problem where one does not exist?

Hopefully you will be honest as you ask yourself the above questions and find the answers in your own heart and mind. The highest and Best to you.

Lauren - posted on 04/29/2012

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I want to thank everyone for answering my post. i feel alot more better and i am thankful for you all takeing the time to post on my question.

Lauren - posted on 04/29/2012

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i would never say anything in front of austyn about her weight. She is growing more into herself now she has been in ballet classes for the past 9 months so she is looseing weight. thank you

Lauren - posted on 04/29/2012

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this is true i was lookinh at pictures of my dad at this age and him and austyn are the same. and he truned out to be 6 feet 4inches. i know she will be tall. thank you

Lauren - posted on 04/29/2012

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she plays hard like all three year olds and has no problems. she may be taller then what i said i haven't taken her to the doctor since november of last year. thank you.

Terez - posted on 04/29/2012

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My son is 4' 9" he will be three in June he weighs 49 pounds and he to eats fruits and veggies all the time. He is very healthy and energetic don't let it bother you they will grow into their bodies.

Dove - posted on 04/29/2012

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When he turned 4, my son was 39 inches and 35 pounds. 25% for height and 50% for weight for a 4 year old. Your daughter is several inches taller than he was, but I have no idea of the weight to height ratio.

Lisa - posted on 04/29/2012

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my 4.5 year old daughter is very tall for her age too and is 3'8" inches tall 45 lbs..her BMI is listed at 16.7 which is great...I think your doing fine I would just make sure she plays outside and runs around everyday...I play with my kids to make sure their being active (my daughter loves to dig in the dirt and will sit for long periods doing that) So I take her on walks and I play kickball in the yard or we go to a tennis court and "play" tennis...it's good for me and for her.
One thing I would urge you to consider is not letting her know your worried about her weight. It might not seem like she's listening to conversations about her or that it's not harmful but so many girls have issues with their weight and self esteem It would be sad to have her worried about something like this so soon in life. Activity and eating right in a happy and comfortable setting will help her be the best person she can be. It's what i'm trying to do for my kids ..hopefully 20 years from now they'll look back and feel good about how thier childhood went. :) good luck to you!

Michelle - posted on 04/29/2012

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Tall people do weight more than shorter people so I wouldn't worry about it and you certainly aren't a bad mom.

Louise - posted on 04/29/2012

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I have to say this is a bit on the heavy side for three. My daughter is 3.5 and is also very tall for her age she wears a five year olds clothes but she only weighs 37lbs. I understand you give her fruit and vegetables and whole wheat which is very good for her. May be it is the sheer quantitiy that she is eatting rather than what she is eatting. But saying that is the doctor is not overly concerned then I wouldn't worry about it. At three children become more active as their co-ordination is better. She will be jumping, hopping and skipping a lot more and she will burn up a lot more calories. If your little one is healthy and happy and her weight is not affecting her too much. Don't worry!

Lauren - posted on 04/28/2012

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I live in California. i agree with you. she eats all whole wheat and fruit and vegies. her fathers mother thoe like to give her sugar and junk food that i would never give her.

Medic - posted on 04/28/2012

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I live in Texas......it is odd to have a 3 year old that weighs less than that...I hear all the time how my kids are sooo little when in all reality they are not. Just for here they are. We eat all organic and nothing from a box, fresh fruits and veggies, nothing low fat or no fat, just all natural. Kids will self regulate when all the crap that drives them to think they are still hungry is taken out of their diets.

Lauren - posted on 04/28/2012

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thank you so much. I will talk to her new doctor. thank for makeing me feel not so bad about her weight. i really thought i was the only one with a three year old who weighed as much as she dose.

Medic - posted on 04/28/2012

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My daughter is in gymnastics and can actually do most of it by herself. She plays outside all day most days. My daughter wears a 2t so it really isn't in her tummy, she is just all over thick. The one thing the kids dr talked to me when we talk about their weight is their BMI and height to weight ratio. You really want to be between the 10th and 80th percentile.

Lauren - posted on 04/28/2012

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yeah austyn is chunky but it's all in her tummy.. but she is very strong is your daughter a strong girl to?

Medic - posted on 04/28/2012

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I was asking so that I could have a height to weight ratio in my head. My 2 year old is 35 inches and 32 pounds and she is a big girl, my 5.5 year old is about 46 inches and 42 pounds. Both kids are just under pound for inch but my daughter is chunky whereas my son is skinny.

Lauren - posted on 04/28/2012

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she is 3 feet 6 inches give or take. she is a tall three year old compare to most that i see. most peple think she for or five

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