Frances - posted on 02/26/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )
I have two children ages 16 and 6. I am a college student and we live in the Universities Apartments and Family housing in a 2nd floor flat (all they had left when I applied). We moved in in the middle of the semester and I might have opened a can of worms by asking her if they can hear us. She said yes some. But a week later she asked nicely if we could keep it down because she needed to study for finals. I worked very hard on that one. The kids were to be quiet and all or go outside. Well after that we would get bang bang bang even when I did dishes at 5:30 pm or when I dropped a casserole dish on the table at 5:30 on another day. It feels like they are poised under us just waiting for a sound. My children are in bed by 8pm most nights. One night my little girl was crying around 10pm cause she was upset no more than 5 mins after she started we got the bang bang bang. My only thought was what kind of person complains when a child is crying (she was not throwing a temper tantrum or anything she was just crying). The most recent episode was at about 6pm when she was throwing a little temper tantrum because of not getting her way again about 5 mins after it started we got bang bang bang, then a few mins later the neighbor lady was at our door complaining saying she needs to study and that we are always loud and its every day. Sorry but she does not throw a temper tantrum everyday because I pick and choose my battles so to not have the noise. This lets my daughter get away with anything just to keep the quiet.
My question is how quiet should we be during the DAY. We walk very carefully most of the time, we are afraid to clean (yes I got the bang bang bang while vacuuming around 5pm one day). Granted they were here first but we need to live too.. I don't want to mess up her studies but mine are suffering as well in the attempt to keep everything as quiet as possible. We are meeting with them and a community adviser later today and I am hopeful that goes well.