Elizabeth - posted on 05/30/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
I'm a nervous wreck. I have a neighbor whose son my son's age. They are friends and get along reasonably well. My problem is not necessarily with him but with her older son who has impulsivity issues (my son also has ADHD) and "feels bad" (or so she says) when he does not get an invite to come over and play with the two boys. The problem is, every time the older child comes over, SOMETHING of my son's gets destroyed. He also produced a drawing of him stabbing a cat at one point (and I have two cats.) The mother offered no consequences that I know of for the breakage of toys or the drawing (chalking it up to "boys will be boys") that I know of (she also has another smaller child in the home.) I dread it when the weekend rolls around and I get the communique for a "play date." Another thing that bothers me is that the child who is my son's age is a bit nervy and disrespectful and asks to come over ALL THE TIME. He addresses me by my first name--even after he's been asked by his parents to add "Miss" to the name. I've gone out of my way on some occasions to deliberately avoid them after school so I don't get the "I was thinking about having a play date..." (YES, SERIOUSLY!) and "when can I come over?" I really like mom, it's just some of the behaviors of her children that I cannot handle. I'm afraid to say anything because people have tried to do so before and she sees it as an attack on her children. Help!