DROP DUM DUM OR POTTY TRAIN FISRT

Jen - posted on 11/26/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

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my son turned two on tuesday he is showing no signs of ready to potty train n still has a dummy at night. which one do i start on first? what age did u start both?

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Kellie, with most kids, if you start potty training before they are ready, it can make it take longer. There is a huge difference between babies and puppies. Puppies don't employ the critical thinking skills required to fully grasp the reasoning behind going to the bathroom in the toilet. A puppy relies on instinct and training. I just find the analogy completely ridiculous, comparing children to dogs when it comes to potty training. Also, a dummy is a pacifier. You might want to find out what something is before you advise a mother to "take it away". Just sayin'.

Amanda - posted on 11/28/2010

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Poor Kellie. Actually Krista, her ideas are for some a good plan. My children are all potty trained between 2-2 1/2 years old with no tears shed, barely any accidents, and no mommy melt downs. And I also go by Kellies theory, parents are the parents,and make the rules and time lines. So something must be right about that theory, as I have 3 children who been using the potty long before their peers. Potty training is a parents job to intorduce and inforce, if a parent doesnt do this you end up with healthy 3-4-5 year olds still in diapers. Disgusting.



Btw my 2 1/2 year old can make a peanut butter sandwich (this doesnt make me a bad parent actually it makes me a good parent, because even at 2 year old my children are learning how to be functioning adults, of course she didnt learn because i didnt want cook, she learned because she showed interest so i taught her).

Kellie - posted on 11/27/2010

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I say take the dummy (what ever that is) away and start potty training. You are the parent and if you are ready then so be it. I didn't wait for my kids to tell or show me when they were ready I was tired of changing diapers so I just stopped. My son was a week past his second b-day and my daughter was 20 months. Think of it this way you wouldn't let your puppy decide when he/she should start going potty outside, why would you wait for your child to decide.

Jen - posted on 11/28/2010

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dana ive never deleted it but stupid people should wear signs wasnt answering my question.so admin did, thank you for all your great answers im closing my question if i left it open i think there will be some kind of cat fight n thats not what i attended.i got the answer i needed big thanks to joy tht list was a great help.

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Jen - posted on 11/28/2010

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thanks joy had alook he only does two of them get toys n follows me to bathroom so i guess his not ready but i will still introduce the potty in the new year

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I just wanted to add that a child being ready to potty train IS important. They are children, and understanding what they are doing and why is critical. Some kids are ready earlier than others. Any doctor or article you can find will tell you that the age of readiness varies from child to child (anywhere from around a year to 3, sometimes later). I think if a child is ready at 2 years old, or sooner, then great! But I would never teach him to do something, simply because I'm tired of doing it. That's not fair to him. That's like expecting a child to be reading by the age of 3. Some kids do, most don't and to expect otherwise is just asking for a child who feels like they've failed.

Krista - posted on 11/28/2010

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If there were no tears shed and barely any accidents, then your kids were ready. The fact that you were ready at the same time was a happy coincidence. But if the child is patently NOT ready, then the parent deciding that they're just not changing diapers anymore tends to only result in even more delay, and a lot of tears and anxiety on the part of both parent and child.

Introduce? Yes. Encourage? Absolutely? Enforce? That I have a bit of an issue with.

Krista - posted on 11/28/2010

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I didn't wait for my kids to tell or show me when they were ready I was tired of changing diapers so I just stopped.

Good plan. Heck, I'm tired of making meals for my 15-month old, so I think I'll just stop.

Jar of peanut butter's over there, kid. Good luck.

Jen - posted on 11/28/2010

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thanks ladies part from one i cant potty train unless his ready if only it was simple as trainning a puppy. i haev 12 months too get him potty trainned else he dont get into nusery which he really needs he isnt round alot of children. so im going to leave the dummy or diddy watever u wana call it for awhile n concentrate on the potty training in the new year ill buy him some pants n sit him on the potty after breakfast lunch n dinner if he does something great if he dont i guess his not ready n will just have to wait n if he misses a year of school i will take him to lots of toddler groups so he gets used to be round kids for when his 4.

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My son actually did show signs of potty training close to his 2nd birthday. So, we bought potty rings to sit on and got potty books from the library. Each morning we watched a portable DVD on the potty and read! But he was NOT ready to let go of the binky! Pee-pee potty training, day training really was accomplished by 2 1/2, so then it was time to work on the binky. That was easier than I thought and I gradually took it away until night time. About 2 months before his 3rd birthday, he was completely potty trained during the day and no more binky! Shortly after his 3rd birthday, he was night potty trained.

Quanika - posted on 11/26/2010

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I've been potty training my daughter on and off since she was 9 months the more i stay on her with timing her eating and drinking and putting her on the pot after she eats and drinks the more progress i see. i hope this helpsand my daughter was off her pacifier at 9 mths shes smart healthy and perfectly fine without it i didnt wait to see any signs i was just tired of buying diapers when she was old enough to take off her diaper she was old enough to sit on the potty and do her business if you start to show him this is a potty and this is what it's for he will get the point 3 years old is too long to be wiping a baby's butt by time they're 2 they smell grown! if you dont have to change that stinky diaper then why would you but you must have paitience when you start this journey cause baby it's a long ride

Nalleli - posted on 11/26/2010

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Well I have three boy's. My first one started when he was around 18mo. The second one at the same time, but both went to a day care. My middle one wasn't ready at all.My youngest one is 2 years and 3 months old, and I can tell him and I are not ready get. I"ll like to wait until summer, just because it's to cold right now. Don't push yourself and the baby just because books and regimens tells. Make sure you are ready also, if you seem him at interested don't ever badder. My middle one we pushed and he struggle. if you really want to start, as soon he wakes up sat him in the potty every morning at the same time, you could star from there. Hopefully this help!!!

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If he's not showing signs of wanting to potty train, start with the dummy. But honestly, I didn't really worry about that too much. I took it, but if she needed it, I gave it back. She decided on her own to drop it a few months ago (she's 2.5).

I also just let her take the lead with potty training too. I started with introducing the potty and putting her on when I changed her diaper. Once she was comfortable sitting on the potty, I tried training for a day or two each month. If she was getting frustrated, I just left it at that and tried again the next month. One day she literally walked in the living room with her pants around her ankles and said, "Mama pee pee!" I took her to the potty and she went! She was 2 years and 4 months and has been trained since. Not accident free, mind you!

The point, just kind of take his lead, and don't stress. Kids can feel the stress of their parents and that is counterproductive.

Sara - posted on 11/26/2010

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hi, my little girl was 2 last month and she has just got out of nappies in the day. i first tried b4 she was 2 but she wasnt ready at al x but this time shes doin so well. i guess if u just keep tryin ur son will let u no when he is ready. and as 4 the dummy my little girl loved her it up untill 2 nites ago we started tackin it off her in th day and she only had it at bed time and 2 nite ago we cudnt find it so she had 2 go with out. she cryed 4 about 10mins and since hasnt asked 4 it. so guess im quite lucky really x hope ive been ov help and gud luck with ur little boy x

Amanda - posted on 11/26/2010

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I would call the school and find out if he needs to be potty trained. My 2 1/2 year old is starting pre-school next september (age 3) and has to be potty trained to attend other wise she has to wait until Jr Kindergarden (age 4) to go to school. If a child isnt potty trained they arent ready to handle pre-school (at least that is their theory here).

As for the soother, I have no comment, as I dont see eye to eye about late use of soothers.

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Definitely don't start potty training if your child isn't ready. That can make the process take much longer. My son is 3 and we're just now getting started on potty training.



As for the dummy, in a way, that also depends on how ready your son is to rid himself of it. If he's only using it at night then I don't think it's a problem to let him keep it. As for the starting preschool at 3? We looked into getting our son into school this year (age 3). At age 3 it's called Early Pre K (or something like that...it's called different things in different areas). The school here that does early pre k is basically a daycare and he was not expected to be potty trained. It's once your child is in actual Pre K (age 4) and if they are at a public school, that he would have to be potty trained. Good luck Momma. You've got more time still, on both of your questions :)

Erin - posted on 11/26/2010

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He is only taking the binky at night, he will get rid of it soon enough. As for the potty, if he is showing no signs at all then it will only be a losing battle to get him to do it. My son got rid of the binky on his own at 26 months and just recently got interested in the potty. He just turned 3 in October. It will all come together! Good luck!

Laura - posted on 11/26/2010

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If your son isn't showing any signs or interest in potty training, then wait. Loureen makes a good suggestion about at least getting a training potty for him to become familiar with. Other than that small step you can go by his cues for readiness.

The dummy bottle at night is neither a right or wrong thing to have. If it is working for you then you can "wait and see" with that as well. I, personally, never used a dummy with my daughter--we used pacifiers at night. That is just personal choice however. Keep an eye on your son and work with him as he starts to show interest in the potty or signs of giving up the dummy. Then you can work on creating some new routines to refect these developmental changes. Good luck!

Jen - posted on 11/26/2010

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thanks ladies my bf was just moaning say he will be in school in a year his gotta be potty trainned he will only be attending for 3hrs aday so i think it dont really matter because some boys are not potty trainned til 3 or 4

Charlie - posted on 11/26/2010

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I would just leave both for now , it sounds like he is gradually weaning off his dummy and at just two he will show his own interest i potty training when he is ready , perhaps get him a potty , show him what it is for and when he expresses interest then slowly start to potty train .

Louise - posted on 11/26/2010

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If your son is showing no signs of potty training then leave it he is still very young. As for the dummy thing if he is only having it as a comforter at night then I would not take this from him either. He will give it up himself in time and it is far kinder to let him make that decision than put him through the stress of having it removed. My daughter also turned 2, 2 weeks ago and she still has a dummy at night and is not yet ready for training. My elder sons were 2 years 5 months and 2 years 3 months when they were potty trained and they gave the dummy up themselves when they felt that they did not need it any more. My eldest gave his dummy up around two and my other son liked to have it for comfort until 3 not necessarily in his mouth but just there incase!

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