Drowning in Depression

Lisa - posted on 10/20/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )

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I feel awful!! I have never felt this emotinaly empty during a pregnancy. I scheduled a doctors apointment for tomorrow... I can't get out of work today. However I don't know if I'll be able to stop crying to work tonight.
This kinda crept up on me. Sucks.
Just wanted to vent

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Kimberly - posted on 10/22/2011

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I've suffered from depression my whole life, been on and off of several different medications. I had horrible postpartum with my first child and went back on medication when she was a year old. She is five now, and I'm pregnant with a child that I didn't want or plan for. I was on birth control and had never had a problem with it in 15 years, but all of a sudden it quit working. I've been horribly depressed and so sick I had to quit my job, which worsened the depression because I didn't know how we were going to make it just on my husband's salary. But we are doing OK, there IS a light at the end of the tunnel. You need to find someone you can talk to that will listen and empathize with you, someone you trust. Surround yourself with people who love you, and stay away from those who make your life more miserable. And if you need to miss work, then check and see if you are covered by FMLA leave because you should be for anything pregnancy related. You'll just have to get your doctor to sign some paperwork for you. Be sure to talk to your doctor also. If you need to vent, feel free to contact me. I care about you and you will make it through this.

Fiona - posted on 10/21/2011

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Dear Lisa - while you are in depression, it seems like it will never pass. Everyday things are just too hard, and you lose all joy in things you used to enjoy. I have heard depression referred to as "wearing a lead overcoat" - possible to do, but everything is hard and joyless. Congratulations on seeking help through your doctor, and for feeling safe enough to vent your feelings in a forum full of other women, many of whom have felt the way you do now. It may not seem to help to know that it IS a short-term thing, that there is help (either medicinal or other therapies), and that you WILL enjoy life again. But it is true, and meanwhile you have a whole batch of people here who have heard you, respect you, and care about you. With love from a person who has also been there. xx

Julie - posted on 10/22/2011

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I have a history of bouts of severe depression. I had bouts during all three of my pregnancies. Talking to your doctor is a very good idea to make sure the cause isn't something that can't be treated medically. Remember pregnancy is very draining on your body. I had to make sure that I drank enough water, took proper vitamins, and ate a proper diet. Taking care of your health is a very important thing while pregnant. With my first we discovered that when I bouts of crying that I couldn't stop, my blood sugar was very low. There are many possible reasons or combination of reasons. I also attend a support group that was extremely helpful. I also made sure I took care of myself after the babies were born. I was scared of post partum depression given my history and had a plan and support group in place before my children were born. Good luck and prayers.

Vivianne - posted on 10/21/2011

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Hi Lisa, you didn't mention if you have a network of friends who you could talk to... this is one of the most effective treatments you can have; someone to talk to and vent all your frustrations, fears, hopes, and feelings. A trusted close friend who will hear what you are saying and not offer unwanted advice or judge you! Someone who will be there for you, just to listen, and let you cry on their shoulder when you need to and laugh with you when you can laugh.
Like most have said, this is not an unusual emotional response to your out-of-wack hormones. I am so glad that you have made the decision to visit your Dr. and not tried to struggle through on your own. Both your Dr and friend network are so importaint to helping you get through this tough time, use them both and never feel bad that you have had to seek suport.
If you are part of a church group, ask them to pray with you as well.
You are not alone and don't have to do this by yourself, let those around you help wherever they can. Be strong, as much as it is a trite/pat saying, it is nevertheless true, this WILL pass, you WILL make it through! even if you don't feel that way now.
Praying for you, and hope this helps even if only a little bit.

Janice - posted on 10/21/2011

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I'm sorry you are feeling that way. I too have been in the worst depression my entire pregnancy. I just let it fester for awhile but finally I started seeing a therapist and at 8 months along I'm finally feeling better emotionally. I never went on meds because I'm too nervous about the effects. I hope you can get some help soon. Hugs momma!

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Jolene - posted on 11/08/2011

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I so what mean my partner cope all time and take personly and it me being pregrant.

Antoinette - posted on 11/02/2011

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Hi Lisa
I feel your pain, I suffered something similar during my second pregancy he's now 6 in December .It started for me about 3mths into the pregancy,like you my emotions where turned inside out & upside down, with what seemed like overnight & what frustrated me is that he was planned so I kept asking the Q why is this happening to me ?.
I had two emotions which went from one extreme to the next, uncontrollable crying, or wanting to rip someone's head off. Off course I went to my doctor & asked him is this an indication that I was going to suffer from PPD, he couldn't tell, unfortunately I did, but that doesn't mean to say you will. Some doctors will offer medication while you are pregnant, my advice is don't take anything. If symptoms persist I know it will be so hard but hang in there until baby is born, or maybe you'll wake up tomorrow & feel like you've been on happy pill's.
Pregnancy is such a wonderful & frustrating experience & each one is so different, but hey just keep thinking of that little bundle you'll be holding in your arms in a few months.
Chin up
Antoinette

Uchelives - posted on 10/24/2011

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I am sorry. It kinda goes away when the arrives. Maybe because there is less time to think and happy tears evolve. Remember pregnancy is temporary. So your emotions in it are too. I gave birth 8wks ago so I kinda know what you mean. When i felt down during my pregnancy I re-directed my thoughts to planning of babies arrival. Make a quilt for her or have one made. Go shopping for baby. buy a book especially for the new baby and read a part each evening. Sing to the baby. Guess parts you can feel through your tummy, All of the above helped me to emerge from my sorry state and anticipate the arrival of another miracle. I wish you the very best. Continue to talk about it especially to your doctor.

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I feel for you, it is hard when we just want life back to normal! Hey, we just need to laugh, really, what is normal! :). Ok, laughter is good medicine, so is finding things that boost your mood. Unfortunately, when those things do not work I move on to what I am eating. I eat healthy but for some reason I am susceptible to vitamin dificiencies. My regular doctor is such a great guy and personable doctor - he listens and acknowledges what I am telling him doesn't feel right. So, he always checks my vitamin D level as it plummets badly and it affects many systems in your body as well as your immune system and moods. Also, my B-12 is usually low and it can cause anemia, feeling sluggish. Omega 3 is the other great thing as I like to say it pads the brain so to speak. EPA and DHA affect moods so much like depression, aggression, sycosis etc... So, that being said, when those are checked and on level, my doc is so compassionate, he suggested I try an anti- depressant as the weight of my world has been on my shoulders. When we have major things happen in our lives our hormones change to adjust sometimes for the bad. For now though, I recommend getting some bloodwork done to see what is possibly deficient as that would help you and the baby. Babies drain so much from our bodies as it is so we must fuel up with good stuff to be and stay healthy, especially during pregnancy. My prayers are with you! (Hugs!)

Sharlene - posted on 10/22/2011

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Hi , have you spoken to your doctor or a professional social worker or even family members.Cheers

Carol - posted on 10/22/2011

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I second the suggestion of cod liver oil, or some other source of omega 3 fatty acids. You could also have an amino acid imbalance. An alternative doctor or a naturopath may be able to help you with diet and nutrients to balance your brain chemistry. Meanwhile, be encouraged that this is fixable and won't be forever.

Tracey - posted on 10/22/2011

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Google moodscope.com. It's a great way of checking your mood and you can have buddies who receive your score daily and give you a quick call to check in you.. It's a brilliant way of recognising when there is a problem.. Good luck xxxx

Melinda - posted on 10/22/2011

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I don't think I meant tablets. You can get a bottle of it and put it in your smoothies or take it plain following a glass of water. The lemon one is good.

Melinda - posted on 10/22/2011

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oh man, that is so hard! Take some cod liver oil tablets. Those are great for depression (especially after pregnancy) and great during pregnancy for everyone! Go get some NOW. You won't regret it! Let me know how you feel!

User - posted on 10/22/2011

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Could it be that you should stop working and take it easy, go out as much as you can, that helps so much but rest is so important. Good luck to you.

Dolores - posted on 10/21/2011

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Being pregnate can be emotional for some woman and you must remember that not every pregnancy will be the same. Every one is different. Just take a breather relax. Find something that calms you and makes you feel at peace. Ask for God to help you through this time of depression. You will get through this just have faith. Take care of yourself not only for you but for your baby and your other childeren if you have any.

Alexandra - posted on 10/21/2011

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it is prefectly normal. it is your hormones. the doctor will be able to help you. and if you need to cry, then cry. crying is good, you will be able to see the good/nice things in life very soon. hang in there, your babies need you.

Melissa - posted on 10/21/2011

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I felt that way with my 6th baby for a good 4 weeks i just cried all the time. I was just about to go to the Dr. when it stopped as soon as it started

Gina - posted on 10/21/2011

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It is very emotional time right now, and it is completely normal to have short bouts of depression. I would definitely speak with your doctor though. They may want to monitor how long it lasts. Anything more than 2 weeks becomes serious. I suffer from Clinic Depression daily. I did alright on my first pregnancy; however, we have had complications with this pregnancy and some financial difficulties. After consulting with my doctors (I have more than 1 right now), we decided to put me on a low dose of meds. I do not advocate medication, and it was not an easy decision. In the end, there was concern about my ability to bond with my baby.



What I am saying is that it is normal, I wouldn't worry, but I would talk to my doctor.



I hope this helps.



Gina

Amy - posted on 10/21/2011

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I barely ever open this website and never posted a response. I can totally relate and maybe able to help you.
Email me directly if you want. I'd rather be private.
amynroom2@gmail.com
Hang in there- Amy

Lisa - posted on 10/20/2011

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This is my third pregnancy. First two were tough emotinaly but this is by far the worst. The apointment tomorrow is just for depression, I had a regular Ob apt last thursday. Thanks for your support

Christy - posted on 10/20/2011

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Maybe talk to your DR when you go and ask about this. This is NOT uncommon. Your hormones are all over the place! Maybe you can get a referral to a prenatal therapist to talk or get on meds if it's really bad (not advocating meds here, just a suggestion). I went through something similar, and it was worse during my 2nd pregnancy. Good luck and hang in there, you will have a little one before you know it.

Katherine - posted on 10/20/2011

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What do you think is wrong? What trimester are you in? I think this happens to all of us. Especially in the first trimester.

I was a mess. Work should understand. How are you supposed to function? What do you do?

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