during a melt down /temper tantrum do you either ignore it (assuming your child is safe) or put them in their time out place?
Erin - posted on 06/25/2011
I count. Works about 70% of the time. I say 1....2....3.
Usually I hit 2 and she stops. rarely will I hit 3, but when I do, its straight to time out. She hates time outs. Would rather do 100 hours of bed making than do 5 minutes of a time out. Go figure?
Safe place & ignore is what I did when he was younger. He's 3 1/2 now and when he has his meltdowns, I get down to his level and ask him to use his words. "Talk to me. Tell Mommy what's wrong." Nine times out of ten, he tells me what happened, we fix it together and move on.
Rebecca - posted on 06/24/2011
It all depends. Most times I just let her freak out and she stops. But sometimes, more so lately, she refuses to stop and screams momma uncontrollably. At this point I normally put her in the 'time out' chair ( a rocking chair she can't stand up on) and makeher sit until she's settled herself. After that I pull her off the chair and explain big girls don't act that way( she's 19 months) and ask her for sorry kisses. This method has actually cut our tantrums in half!
Tamara - posted on 06/24/2011
Yup, as long as he/she isnt where she can get hurt I just let her do her thing. 9 times out of 10 it stops fairly quickly, if I try to calm them down it only makes things worse.
Then once they are done I do some cuddling or talking to them about what happened and why they were upset, and listen and not judge, even at a young age its better to be a listener and not a fixer.
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