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Krista - posted on 01/28/2010
I don't plan on piercing my kids' ears -- when they want it, and I figure they're old enough to take care of the hygiene aspect of it, then they can get them done. Not to offend anybody, but I find that pierced ears on a baby just look kind of weird. Besides, their tiny, gorgeous little ears are so perfect, why start poking holes in them?
Holly - posted on 01/22/2010
I let my daughter Skylah get it done when she was old enough to tell me "mommy, I want earrings too." That was at 3. It was traumatic for a day...but she got a grape or "purple flavored" lollipop and that's what she'll tell you if you ask her. The lady pinched my ears and then I got a sucker. She lets me clean them and take care of them because she knows it will get infected and hurt worse if I don't. Though I am debating with my one year old. I want to do it earlier with her because then she won't remember like Sky does. I think if you are a stay at home mom and you can seriously take care of their ears...do it early on. Then there is no room for being traumatized.
Lauren - posted on 01/22/2010
I wouldnt have my daughters ears pierced till she was old enough to want them done and also responsible enough to look after them herself so maybe when she is in her teens.
Can I ask why people have had their babies ears pierced?
Christine - posted on 02/02/2010
I waited until she was old enough to ask for them herself, more than once (per my husbands request). We ended up getting them when she turned two. She wanted to have them like mommy did. We've never had any problems. She didn't even cry when she got them done.
My daughter was 3 months when I had hers done at the doctor's office. She didn't even cry at all (but I sure did). I still remember when I had mine done (6 years old) and it was very tramatic for me. I'm still bothered by it to this day. Hence, my daughter getting hers done early.
She does pull on them (she's 19-months now) and have lost a few earrings. But she's had no major problems with infection. I finally caved in and got the ones that screw in the back.
My husband was alright with having them done because he understood it was a mother/daughter bond and left the decision to me.
Faith - posted on 01/30/2010
I pierced my daughter's ears when she was 10 months old. I wanted to do it sooner but thought her precious ears looked far too small...then I had feeling of guilt and uncertainty but finally decided to do it. I still couldn't be in the room when it was done DH went in with her, I stayed outside and cried when she screamed but as soon as they gave her a lollipop she forgot all about it......I cried more than she did. She has had them for 4 months now with no problems.
Elicia - posted on 01/30/2010
Kim--you have invested WAY too much thinking on this...it's just ear piercing. And to all who said wait till they ask for it, will the same be true when she asks for other body piercings at 13? Or to the mom who said she didn't think it was right to make that choice for her daughter, don't be ridiculous, again it's just ear piercing. And to those who want to make a "special day" out of it when they ask, there's lots of special days in a little girl's life.
I repeat...it's just ear piercing.
My daughter had her ears pierced at 3 months of age.....should mention that my sisterinlaw asked to do it then because it was a family tradition in her family to do so. Personally I know I was going to do it but didn't know when I wanted to so I just agreed to it. To me tradition is tradition and I wasn't going to disappoint her by saying no on such a small thing I was going to do any ways.
Jeannie - posted on 01/30/2010
I pierced my daughter's ears when she was 3 months old, but with my son I waited for him to ask and he told me when he was 5 he wanted his ears pierced so I pierce them then. My oldest son I pierced his ears when he turned one.
Annette - posted on 01/29/2010
my oldest daughhter got her ears pierrced when she was 9 and i wished that i had done them when she was a baby, i have a 3 year old and did hers when she was 3 months old and i think doing them that young was better than my older daughter the 3 year old has had no issues with her ears
Lucy - posted on 01/29/2010
I think this is a surprising question, as it kind of assumes that it is necessary to pierce your children's ears at some point! I don't understand why anyone would do this to a child before they are old enough to ask for themselves and take care of them properly. The decision to inflict this uncomfortable procedure and healing process on an infant is simply vanity on the part of the parent, it certainly doesn't benefit the child in any way. Not all children want piercings, I didn't have my first (my nose) until I was 20 and have only just decided to have my ears pierced now, at the age of 29. Body modifications of any kind are a very personal decision, so if child is not old enough to make the choice they are not old enough to have it done.
And yes, Julia, I do have a consistent opinion regarding circumcision, my two year old son is unsnipped and will remain so until he decides otherwise!
Heather - posted on 01/29/2010
This is totally a personal choice. For my kids I'm going to wait til they are old enough to ask for their ears to be pierced, leave them the choice. Or if you pierce their ears before 6 months, they don't know what there ear is and they won't play with them.
Priscilla - posted on 01/29/2010
I think about 5 my husband couldn't handle the fact she was growing up. She was ready not him. lol So, finally at 7 we did it. I was 5.
I never understood why as a new born. To little to inflick pain on purpose. What is next, you mom's are going to have their belly buttons done too??
Lori - posted on 01/29/2010
I my daughter got her ears peirced when she was responsible to take care of her ears her self. ANd It Her choice if she wants it or not. I think it was 7 yrs when she asked me to get them peiced.
My son will not get his peirce.....
Lynette - posted on 01/29/2010
I have two girls. I had my oldest daughter's ears pierced as an infant (I was young). When I got older and had my second daughter (8 years later), I thought I'd wait until she was 8 or 9, to make it special and because I thought it was 'tacky' to do that to a baby. Well, if I had it to over again, I would have had the second daughter pierced as a baby. She's had them pierced several times now - problems with changing them too quickly, etc. The baby route (thought judged by some - who like to judge (I used to be one of them) - is the way to go (based on my experience). My oldest never had a problem!
Wow, I am amazed at the number of people who think piercing as infants saves is "easier". We let our daughter get her ears pierced at the pediatrician's office for her 12th birthday present, and she was delighted to hold still and understood the pain would just last a couple seconds. The Dr. said piercing babies is very difficult because they don't hold still the way an older child can. Plus, if you pierce them when they're too young to understand, you have denied the child the joy of ever celebrating one of the rites of passage of becoming a young lady. My advice is WAIT!!!
Benny - posted on 01/28/2010
i don't have a daughter but in our country they started to at around 4 years old or sometimes earlier than that because mommys are excited to put an earings to their daughters though.
Well, there's pros and cons..if you do it too early without wearing earing on it it might close and the cons...if you put the earings on since they are still very young they most probably pull their ears and loose the earing no matter if it is expensive or not.
Pharaby - posted on 01/28/2010
I had my daughters pierced at 4 months old...I mainly had it done because I wanted to and I wanted it done while she was young and it wouldnt bother her...she only cried for like 2 minutes and hasnt bothered her since..she is now 7 months old....But i believe every parent has their own opinions on when to have it done....you can give them reasons all day long and it wont matter cuz their mind is made up on what they want to do. it is what it is but i see nothing wrong with piercing their ears when they are a baby...and I think its cute to see a baby with her ears pierced...
Nellie - posted on 01/28/2010
Babies don't need ear rings in their ears, they don't even know why they are there, is this done for who, the child or the parents. when a child is old enough to ask for them because they want them, then that is when they should get their ears pirrced.
Angela - posted on 01/28/2010
both of my girls ears were done by the time they were 5 mths old. Then they don't remember it, and will cry for only a min or two. Take their mind off of it the it is forgetten. Also they are young that you can clean them and turn them daily and they are not aware of you doing it.
Leanne - posted on 01/28/2010
well said Julia, very true circumcision is also a form of cosmetic acceptance. it is not a must to have it done as it is rare boys get any problems if they are not. you wont find a sane doctor who tells you that you need to have your done done, it is preference thats all.
While my daughter wanted to get her ears pierced at about 10 years old, I made her wait until she turned 13. My feeling is that if kids do everything when they are so young, there's nothing to look forward to as they reach age milestones. And, if they do everything at such a young age, there is nothing new and different to do as they get older except to get into trouble. I explained all these things to my daughter when she asked about ear piercing and she accepted it. We had a great time taking her and some friends to the mall on her 13th birthday to get her ears pierced!
Trish - posted on 01/28/2010
Both my daughters got their ears pierced at age 5. They were old enough to choose to wear earrings, optional in this mom's opinion, and to take responsibility for taking care of their ears (with a few reminders). I had the lady at the jewelry store thoroughly explain and demonstrate how to clean their ears. Then I had each child show me she understood how to clean her ears. From then on, each daughter had to take care of her ears herself (with very occasional supervision). They're 15 and 17 now, and we haven't had a problem with their ears yet. :-)
Julia - posted on 01/28/2010
I hope every woman on here saying that they would NEVER put their child through so much pain at such a young age unnecessarily or that you wouldn't do that to your daughter until she asks if she can get it done....I hope you don't circumsize your sons either. At least you can take earrings out or the girls just don't have to wear them a foreskin can never grow back.
Shannon - posted on 01/28/2010
This will work unless she is involved in summer sports such as soccer, where they really prefer to have the girls remove their earrings. We tried to plan the piercing so it would no coincide with a sport that my daughter participates in.
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