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I guess I am the odd one out in regards to early intervention. It does not seem to be working for us, at least not the way we had expected. My twins will be 3 years old Feb 1 and were referred for early intervention by their pediatrician because they were not speaking (this was 1 year ago) So basically we needed speech therapy, but when they came to do the evaluation we somehow ended up w/ 4 different kinds of therapy and therapists, coming to the house twice a week, plus once a week playgroup. At first it seemed okay, I learned some new techniques, the kids seemed to enjoy themselves. But after a while I noticed there was NO improvement in their speech at all, and at times the therapists in my opinion were "heavy handed". When I express my concern I am told they "have to" learn these things, and made to feel I am in the wrong for questioning the therapists techniques. I am a very laid back mom, I did the same with my older daughter and she has turned out perfectly. I don't believe in in "forcing" a very young child to do anything, but that seems to be the norm in early intervention. In fact the therapists told me, show them once how to do something then "make" them do it. The therapists seem to ignore cues from my children that clearly say they've had enough. Which results in violent temper tantrums and extreme distress for my children and myself. The last episode ended up with my extremely upset and tired daughter vomiting, not once, but three times while being forced to do a task she clearly was not up to doing at the moment. I have never felt so helpless in my life while watching my child sob and make herself sick. I felt like a horrible mother and all the while the therapists were saying it was okay that we HAD to do this. Why?????? I will NEVER treat my children this way, I don't care what the "experts" say. Regarding playgroup, the kids enjoy the playtime but hate being forced to engage in circle time (singing, etc) and I am told I must force them to do it as they will have to be able to do this for preschool. So all this makes for a miserable playgroup experience for everyone. At this point I am planning on removing my children from the program, I am pretty confident I can work with them myself and find other activities that aren't so hell bent on "rules and regulations". Has anyone else had a negative early intervention experience? I just am left feeling like this whole experience was a very negative one and that the "experts" don't always have the best answers.