Easy way to wean your 2 year old.

Tiffany - posted on 02/21/2012 ( 17 moms have responded )

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Anyone have any tips on how to wean my 2 year old son. I've read some post and it seems to me that boy's are harder to wean then girls, My daughter was on the breast till she was 2, the night of her birthday she went to bed without the breast and never asked for it after that. It's not that easy this time around. To top it off my breast are engorged and it hurts. I don't have any idea what to do. Some advice would really help me out right now. My son and my daughter sleep in the same bed in the same room, He screams and hits the wall when i tell him no more he's a big boy. I cant put my daughter through this. I've tried the warm milk in a sippy cup, he wont take it. I even put a little sugar in it to make it taste some what like breast milk, (worked for my daughter) Isn't working for him. I also got a bottle to see if its the nipple he wants not just the milk, he wont drink out of it either.

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Tiffany - posted on 02/22/2012

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I tried the earlier bedtime the first night and he woke up 2 hours after i put him down from crying like crazy, then when i went to put him back down that's when he started it all over again, (and the MIL came and gave sugar) and didn't sleep till after 3am when i finally decided to take him in the car till he passed out. Maybe he didn't sleep long because of the whole skipping naps during the day. How do i get him to nap during the day? He will cry and say night night again but then when he notice's that i wont give him the breast he will just stay awake.

Belinda - posted on 02/21/2012

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It will get better Tiffany, just be consistent and follow Melissa's recommendations. Just realize that expressing Milk will extend the engorgement phase. Also If you just keep offering him milk in a cup then he will eventually drink it so you do not HAVE to do part milk part breast milk option. Especially if your health is suffering.



You will find that he will struggle to sleep initially without the breastfeeding, but he will learn how to do it. I can help with the sleeping part if this continues to be a problem.

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Belinda - posted on 02/22/2012

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Every day at the same time - generally between 1230 and 130, put him down for a nap, be consistent and keep trying, give him an hour to fall asleep every day. Don't give in and nurse him, just keep encouraging him to sleep. He will get it.



Nap time should be around 2 hours (dont worry if initially the naps are shorter - I think as he gets used to the ned to nap they will get longer). Bed time should be between 7 and 8 - depending when you want him to wake up. A good wake up time is between 6 and 730. Again, the average is about 11hours and fifteen minutes of sleep for a 2-3 year old

Belinda - posted on 02/22/2012

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Tiffany, it sounds like you are on the right track, I wouldn't give him chocolate Milk before bedtime, but that is just me. If you are uncomfortable with this then do not do it. Keep offering him cows milk. Now that you are not nursing him to sleep your son has to learn a new way of falling asleep, this is hard for him to do and because everything has changed he is going to cry, he wants to know why you have changed things around. This is understandable and can not be avoided. You can be there for your son and comfort him, but I wouldn't swap one habit (nursing) for a bad habit (chocolate milk before bed - especially if it is after brushing teeth.)



THe crying will get less every day, just be consistent and keep you MIL away from him if you can. Try an earlier bedtime too, this might help the situation if she is not trying to sleep when he is sleeping.

Tiffany - posted on 02/22/2012

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Belinda- what advice do you have on the sleeping, i live with my father in law and his new wife and his new wife seems to think she knows more then i do when it comes to putting him to sleep, she walked in and took him from the bed while he was crying and gave him chocolate and told him to stop, when he stopped he wanted to stay up because of the sugar she had given him, when i told her that it upset me when she walked in and did that she told me "at least i got some sleep" she keeps telling me that she cant stand the crying and screaming and i told her that i had already reminded her a week before i was going to wean that it was going to be hard and he was going to be loud with the crying and screaming. she doesn't seem to care about anything but her "sleep" So if there is an easier way to get him to sleep let me know!! I was told by a friend to give him chocolate milk in a sippy for bed but i don't want to give him sugar. i know they have sugar free but he still thinks it has sugar in it and when i give it to him he gets hyper. We do plan on moving out when we get more money saved.

Tiffany - posted on 02/22/2012

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Last night wasn't that bad!! I did make my breast feel better by pumping a little in a bottle, but i just read that it wasn't going to make anything better later lol so i wont do that again, I'll try the leaves. I will def. try to get him to nap in the afternoon, i have noticed that he does have a hard time sleeping through the night without a nap and that he does wake up EARLY in the morning even if he falls asleep at 11-12 at night. But he didn't fight me much last night when i put him to sleep, i put him in the car and he fell asleep and an hour later he woke back up but it wasn't that hard to put him back down, he did cry a little for the breast but when i pulled him close to me he just kept telling me "momma night night" and cried and then fell asleep on his own. Thank you guys so much for the info.!!!

Belinda - posted on 02/21/2012

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I forgot to add that at 2 if he is missing his afternoon nap which will make it alot harder for him to fall asleep at night (being overtired), it might also contribute to early rinsing.

Melissa - posted on 02/21/2012

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This will sound strange but, you can apply cabbage leaves to the breast and that will decrease milk production faster. Take the leaf and scrunch it slightly apply right to the breast leave it on for at least 15 minutes every few hours 3-4 until engorgement subsides. If you start running a fever that could be a breast infection and you should call a doctor in that case.

Tiffany - posted on 02/21/2012

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Melissa- So i havent BF him since yesterday, if i keep at the not feeding him for a couple more days the pain shouldn't be as bad tomorrow right?? Its so bad that when i touch them they hurt. My kids play around with me and them just playing with me hurt. I took a hot shower and it worked for like a couple of seconds but then when i got out the pain was worse. I can't lean over bc of the pain. I know if i give in now to the Half breast milk half cow's milk i'll be back to this pain once my son is on cows milk completely. If the pain is going to be better tomorrow then i dont want to give in.

Tiffany - posted on 02/21/2012

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Belinda- I did BF him for nap as well, but lately he's been passing nap time and he will stay awake till its time for bed and want to feed at night. I'm stopping cold turkey because my weight is decreasing and i cant get it to go back up. I'm at 110 and i was 130. My bones are weak and my teeth are breaking as well, In my religion we are to BF till they are two and then decide to wean if we want, i want too because my body cant take much more of it, and it's to the point where i'm not sleeping in the same bed as my husband, and even when i am my son wakes my daughter at night and they both end up in our bed and there is no room anymore, Husband is falling off the bed and my son is all over the place. So if i were to pump half Breast milk and Half cows milk in a bottle would that work and then each time i give him the bottle put a little more cows milk then breast? Also it seems to me that he just wants it in his mouth to sleep, i tried the passies but he wont take them, he also wont take a bottle really. Since he was born he never took the two. He will some what take a sippy cup but not completely, he likes to drink from cups without lids, but not sure how that will work with him falling asleep.

Melissa - posted on 02/21/2012

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I am a lactation consultant, if you really are done then you need to deal with the engorgement it should get better in about 24 hours. You could put bandaids on and say you have owes and so he can't nurse. Sometimes that helps them accept the situation.

Melissa - posted on 02/21/2012

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It sounds to me like he wants to only breast feed, if that is the case he doesn't care what is coming out of the breast just that he is latched on. Many 2 year olds are still nursing, and that is ok!

Belinda - posted on 02/21/2012

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Aah, I know it is painful and I am so sorry for that! I am not a lactation consultant so please take any advice I give with a huge grain of salt. and consider chatting to one - or to someone with more info at hand. The way I understand it is that expressing the milk will help him transition to a cup, If you pump a certain amount for example and then mix it with cows milk, gradually increasing the cows milk until that is all that is in the cup. You just make your breasts offlimits.



Is night time the only time you were BF him? Have you been gradually weaning or have you just stopped everything cold turkey?



I found this website for you:

http://www.babycenter.com/404_my-breasts...

The recommendation for cabbage leaves does work - a LC suggested them to me on a separate occasion and I have also used them on my daughters legs after vaccinations and they really seem to help in these situations.



With regards to your son, this may be something that you just have to be firm about, It will probably take a few days and you may want to remove your daughter to a different bed until this issue is resolved, that way he can't disturb her.If you do decide to continue weaning, stick with your decision, be consistent and it will get better. - although it will probably get worse first. Are you BF him to sleep?

Tiffany - posted on 02/21/2012

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Yeah i would like to just say "no you cant have it anymore you're a big boy!" and him be okay with it. I'm def. ready to just stop. Last night was the first night to start and he went crazy, Hitting me and slapping me and pulling at my chest and kicking the walls, and screaming like someone was killing him.



Expressing the milk, will it be easier for me, i'm really full and it's so painful.

Melissa - posted on 02/21/2012

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Why do you want him weaned right now? Thinking about that may help you either be stronger about weaning or wait until he is older.

Belinda - posted on 02/21/2012

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Have you tried expressing the milk and offering it to him in a cup? If that works then just keep adding more cows milk gradually until that is all he is drinking.

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