Emancipated Minor... Is It a Good Idea????

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So I was talking to my boyfriend/baby daddy last night over the phone and he brought up the marriage thing. Currently, I am 15 and 3 months pregnant. My boyfriend (and child's father) is 16, turning 17 in October. He's been considering joining the Army after senior year and he was saying that maybe when I'm 16 or 17 (or possibly 18) we could think about tying the knot. We have the money to get our own place right now, and he says that we should just move in together now before the baby is born. We are both still minors. Would it be a good idea to become and emancipated minor now? Or should I stay with my parents for emotional support, etc.?

Confused,
Kayla Charity :)

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Ashley - posted on 03/05/2014

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I dont know where you live but here in Missouri i became emancipated at 17, when I had my first child. But I did not move out intil 19 with my second baby on the way. Its very hard being a young mom, especially on your own. Do what you feel best for you and baby. Dont rush Iinto being on your own tjough. If your parents are willwilling to help and support you then let them. I say if they are not kicking you out then stay at home and accept the help while staying in school. And continue to save money for the baby and for when you do move out. Take your time on this. I know it sounds good to have your house and with your boyfriend, but reality is its much harder than you think. Taking care ofa child, your bboyfriend, yourself, going to school, having a job to pay the bills, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry and only being 15 is going to be very overwhelming and tiring. It might even put a damper on your relationship and definitely will take time away from time with your newborn baby. Take all the help you can get, finish your education and enjoy your baby. When you have finished school and he has too, then start talking about marriage and moving. If you keep saving money til then you should be ok.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/05/2014

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Good idea. Sounds like you have a level head about reality. Also, you having a family member in the military gives you an honest perspective of matters.

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thanks! that's what I was thinking. I wanna be with him and I want us to be a family, of course, but I know it would be hard. My father served in the Army for 20 years and did countless tours of duty overseas and he would be gone for up to 15 months at a time. I couldn't imagine having to go through that AND be pregnant AND be in high school. so I might wait on the whole moving in and marriage thing. Thanks Again!!!!!!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/05/2014

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I think you should stay with your parents. It is wonderful that you are planning your future together, but having a baby is ridiculously difficult the first 3 months. Having your parents to help you will be priceless. This doesn't mean you should stop planning your future, but this way you will both still focus on finishing school and looking forward to graduating and starting your lives together. Best of luck!

Also if he is going to join the army, that means a LOT of time away....you will need your parents help during his training. Might as well stay put.

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