Embarrassing Needs!

Rose - posted on 04/09/2015 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Hello, ladies.

I've been to this website many times to read the forums looking for advice, this is my first time posting however.
My son, 15, recently was in a car accident and very unfortunately broke both of his wrists, along with several minor injuries. (Thank god he's alive and relatively undamaged.)
His doctors say he will be fine a few weeks, but until then I will need to take care of all his needs, which I've done it before, so I will do it again. Sure it's awkward helping him pee, and cleaning him after he deficates, but lately he's been getting non stop erections, and it's got to the point of me needing to help him step in to the shower, leaving, and coming back after it goes down so he can pee.
His doctor says he may need relief, but ethically can not offer any advice on how to do this.
Mothers, please help, is there any way for him to get relief that doesn't involve me helping with it? If not, is there any way to make it less embarrassing for us both?

Thank you all so very much in advance.
Rose.

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Jodi - posted on 04/09/2015

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Lucitta, I am perfectly aware of what blue balls are (and at 15, believe me, he will expel that stuff in his sleep)....my issue is that a doctor has recommended this, which has to be total bullshit.

Rose - posted on 04/09/2015

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Hello.
We do not have any insurance nor can we afford any of the services mentioned. Our doctor, whom is a family friend and saw us out of hours to help us in our time of need, is doing the best he can. He recommended several services that could help us, but all of them are out of our price rang. To the people sayig it is a disgusting though, I absolutely agree with you. This is the last thing I would ever want to do. However, if he is hurting, as he says he is, I can't stand by and let him suffer until his hands are free again.

Please, I am not a troll, and I need help. Has anyone had to do anything similar or has anyone known anyone in similar circumstances, or does anyone have any advice at all that can help?


Please.


Thank you.
Rose.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/09/2015

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I call troll. Physicians will have made arrangements for occupational therapy and alternative methods for him to adapt to whilst healing, if he had such an injury. They also would have offered to set up a home health aide for his personal needs.

Sarah - posted on 04/09/2015

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Like I said, he's 15, does he really need his hands to masturbate? Think. I don't know, I never heard of anyone physically suffering from lack of sexual activity

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/10/2015

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well, if it's NOT a troll (highly unbelievable), then they aren't in the US, as no doctor here would 'see someone after hours' and not charge for a visit. That brings possible lawsuits against the physician.

Second, as Jodi says, no teen has ever died of blue balls. I've raised 2 boys, and happen to be married to a very sexually active man, and never has this been an issue. I'd tell the OP to get a grip, but...in this case, that's an extremely inappropriate comment.

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Rose - posted on 04/10/2015

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We are in Nigeria, and not a very well part. We are fortunate to even have a doctor that profesionally helped with his wrists.
I have decided to do nothing for now, and hope things happen naturally at night. If not, I have decided I can't help him with it.

Thank you ladies for your help.

Lucitta - posted on 04/09/2015

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Rose.
I have no idea where you could go to get help for this situation, and I highly recommend NOT doing the obvious.
The ONE and ONLY, WORST case scenario, LAST resort, would be to get a male adult toy for him, that can be mounted on to a piece of furniture such as a bed, desk, table, etc. I recommend this one only SLIGHTLY LESS then the other idea, because it will still be extremely embarrassing for him, as he would need to request it be set up, and extremely gross for you, as you would need to clean it after words. Also, since money seems to be an issue, this wouldn't really be possible, as I recall the one my husband forced me to get him cost over $150, if I recall.

Everyone else.
While I still think this is a troll, it could be real.
The suffering from lack of sexual activity in boys, in slang, is called "blue balls". I don't know what the medical term is. Basically what it is is a build up of semen that if not expelled will start to become very uncomfortable, and then painful.

I really hope this is a troll, but if not, I hope my comment helped at least somewhat.

For the record, another possible solution would be to have his girlfriend come over for a while, and let her take care of this. There are massive flaws in this as well though, namely, promoting extremely underage sexual activity. The only reason I bring it up is so that I can voice my opinion against it.

Jodi - posted on 04/09/2015

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Oh for goodness sake, this has to be a troll post. No doctor would ever say this to a mother. I agree with everything the other ladies have said.

Raye - posted on 04/09/2015

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He doesn't need your help to get "relief". That would be abuse for a parent to participate in sexual activity with their child, and I hope you would go to jail for it. Even considering it is sick. I had a friend that broke both her wrists in a bicycle accident. She could pee on her own and wipe relatively well (her husband helped with the back end if she really needed him). So your son can (and should) do some activities on his own.

Sarah - posted on 04/09/2015

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I don't buy this. It is not unethical for a doctor to discuss masturbation with your child. While the doctor won't tell you to "help" your child, he can certainly speak privately with your son and discuss his sexuality. Also, if he has broken both wrists, I would presume he was sent to a occupational therapist to help him find ways to complete his activities of daily living. There are lots of adaptive tools that can be used by people with casts on both arms to help them dress, eat and bathe. I would expect a boy that has not been masturbating to have nocturnal emissions (wet dreams). Finally, he is 15, does he really need his hands to masturbate? If you find bathing your son embarrassing, hire a home health aide.

Michelle - posted on 04/09/2015

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I hope this is a troll but if it isn't I agree with Gena.
His dick won't fall off if he doesn't get "relief".

Gena - posted on 04/09/2015

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Is this a serious question?? His dick wont fall off if he doesnt "get relieve" for a few weeks. You are a troll right? No normal mother would even think of doing such a thing to their son. Sick!

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