Emergency Custody of my girls who live in another state

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My ex husband and i have shared parental responsibility according to Fla divorce law that was changed back in 2008 which is when we were divorced he has them luving with him. I moved to Pa in 2010 bcause he threw me out on the sreet to move the girl that he decided to marry into my house with my children hes now 50 and shes 26 my girls now are 14and 15 INEED TO GET MY GIRLS OUT OF THAT HOUSE NOW!!!!!! THE STEPMOM IS TELLINGY GIRLS THAT THEY ARE STUPID THAT THEY HAVE NO FRIENDS RHE WILL NOT LET THEM GO ANYWHERE TALK TO ANYONE THEY HAVE TOLD MY GIRLS THAT I WANTED NORHING TO DO WITH THEM FOR THE LAST 6 YRS.RHEY REFUSED ME ACESS TO THEM AND THEM ACCESS TO ME THEY TEFUSED ME VISITATION.I AM IN FEAR FOR BOTH OF THEM MY OLDEST SARAH SAYS THAT SHE IS A MONSTER ACCORDING TO HER STEPMOM THAT THAT IS WHAT SHE HAS TOLD HER STRAIGHT TO HER FACE. THE OTHER DAY SHE STABBED HERSELF WIRH A PEN IN THE CHEST SHE WAS SAYING TODAY THAT SHE WANTED TO GO WIRH THE ANGELS. THERE IS SO MUCH GOING ON DOWN THERE AND I NEED HELP SOMEONE PLZ HELP ME SAVE MY GIRLS I JUST STARTED TALKING TO THEM AGAIN ON THURSDAY AFTER YRS OF ALL OF US BEING LIED TO AND THEY EVEN HAVE TO HIDE THE FACT THAT THEY ARE TALKING TO ME SO WE TALK WHEN THEY ARE IN SCHOOL STEPMOM IS TURNING THE YOUNGER ONE AGAINST THE OLDER ONE AND THEIR STUPID ASS FATHER IS SITTING BACK AND ALLOWING THIS IT BREAKS MY HEART TO SEE MY GIRLS IN THIS SITUATION RHERE IS NOTJING IN THE DIVORCE THAT STATES THAT I CANT HAVE THEM IT DOESNT STATE ANYWHETE THAT I CANR HAVE THEM FOR A HOLIDAY OE THAT I CAN'T TAKE THEM OUT OF THE STATE.BUT I AM AFRAID OF MY EX AS WELL I SPENT 24 YRS OF HELL WITH HE WAS VERY ABUSIVE IN EVERY WAY NOW HES ALLOWING HIS WIFE TO BE MENTAL VERBALLY AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE TO MY GIRLS .I AM NOT GOING TO PUT UP WITH CRAP ANY LONGER SOMEONE PLZ HELP ME I WANT THEM OUT OF THERE NOW .I WOULD NOT GO ALONE I WOULD TAKE A SHERIFF. DEPUTY WITH ME .HELP

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Jodi - posted on 11/04/2015

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I agree with Raye on the custody and visitation - you really should get a lawyer and deal with this.

However, I will say that if this child self-harmed you should report it immediately to CPS. As a mandatory reporter myself, if a child self harms, even if they did not intend suicide, we are required to report because they will then investigate, ensure supports are in palace, and ensure it is a safe environment for the child.

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Ev - posted on 11/04/2015

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I also have to agree with the others. It was up to you to get changes done when things happened as they did. You made the choice to move far away not the girls. Get your evidence together and get it to court and go back to Florida and fix it if you can.

Raye - posted on 11/04/2015

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First, all caps is considered yelling. That and the lack of punctuation makes it very hard to read your post.

Your divorce papers should include custody orders and visitation schedule. If he did not abide by the court orders while you were in FL, then he could have been charged with contempt. Since you moved out of state, the custody/visitation orders would need to be changed and you have to go to court and file for what you want. Then the judge will decide what you actually get. This should have been done a long time ago.

If you were in FL, and he kicked you out, you did not have to move to PA. You chose to move to PA and to be away from your children. You may have felt that you had no other choice, but it still really was your choice to go. If you are supposed to have shared custody, then you either have to live close-by, or agree on visitation where you have them during the summer or something like that. They can't be pulled out of school to visit with you in another state. And if you didn't have contact with them for 6 years, that could be considered abandonment. If you can prove that their father kept them away from you during that time, then he may be guilty of parental alienation. Either of these scenarios would have an effect on the custody case and who ultimately would get primary custody.

Sounds like you need to hire a lawyer and go back to court to get this all hashed out. If you fear for the children's safety, call Child Protective Services or similar agency in FL. Tell them that your daughter has threatened suicide and request an investigation into their living conditions. If CPS finds any evidence of abuse, then you can submit that in court to try to win custody.

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