Stephanie - posted on 12/08/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
Please Help!!! My husband is in the military (active duty). We have 2 children. Our oldest, who is 4, seems to take him leaving for deployments and training very hard. He left for a year (2012-2013) and it was absolute torture! She was so emotional and hard to control. If I made dinner and she didn't like it she would throw a fit. The more I tried o reason the worse it would get. If I didn't let her listen to or couldn't find a specific song she wanted to ear in the car she would have a meltdown. I am ashamed to say it, but I have yelled (red faced, steam out of my ears) at her while she was yelling at me. It was such a nightmare during my husbands deployment.
He is training for the next few weeks and she has started again. My question is, how do I prevent a screaming match with my 4 year old? It's not simple stuff that can be easily redirected. If she needs to eat her veggies I'm not giving in. I'm tired of giving her a "number of bites" to eat. She screams in the store bc I'm in a rush and won't stop so she can walk down the toy aisle, I won't let her play outside in the freezing rain, etc. I'm at my wits end. I don't feel like a mom anymore. Almost every night I cry bc it was such a stressful day. I need help dealing with her. Getting on eye level doesn't help. I feel like the only way to avoid this is to give in to her every time.....