Empty Nest. ..18 and 25 y/o

Karen - posted on 07/08/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi.. my son and his fiancé just landed jobs 2 states away..7 hour drive and left in May. My 18 year old daughter just graduated from high school and will be leaving for boot camp in 9 days...joined the US Navy. My husband and I will be without kids at home for first time in 25 years. I cried so much when my son left a few months ago...now my daughter in 9 days...and so young. We met with Navy at a parent orientation, etc but u am still so anxious about her out there. I feel sad already and she's not gone yet... I think I'm just building myself up in the wrong direction, instead should focus on all the good stuff coming down the pike.. I just miss having them nearby I guess. I don't want to bring them down on their awesome adult decisions.. I think they are amazing people. What do other moms do when their eaglettes are now fledgling? Just wait out the sadness and it gets better?

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Roberta - posted on 08/01/2016

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Sounds like we will be joining that 'empty nesters' club together :-0 I have a 22 year daughter that left for college 4 years ago and has decided to remain in her college town. Now my 18 year old son is heading off to college. My feelings are all over the place. I've worried about my daughter for 4 years and now I get to add my son to it. I'm also kinda anxious about it just being my husband and I with no buffer. It will be great to rekindle that love but I also worry that our only common interest may have been the kids. We just have to trust that we have done a great job in raising our kids and they will be fine. I lean hard on the verse that says' train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. proverbs 22:6. I though I have my doubts that they heard anything I've said in their lifetime, I have faith that they will be ok. My husband and I are gonna get our groove on again :-) Let's keep each other encouraged through this transition in our life. It won't be easy, but we will make it through with flying colors.

Karen - posted on 07/09/2016

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Wonderful support.. thank you for your post! You have great points...my husband and I were just talking about those very things. Thank you for taking the time to write. I'm so glad I joined this circle!

Michelle - posted on 07/09/2016

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7 hours isn't far at all. You can always visit them.
It's now time for you to do things for YOU. Get yourself into something that you have always wanted to do. Go on dates with your husband, take trips away. Your job as a parent has now changed, you no longer have anything to teach them and this is what you have been doing for the last 25 years. You have to trust that you have done a good job and now you get to be selfish.

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