Brenda - posted on 09/20/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am engaged to a wonderful man. We have a 4 month old together and he has a 6 year old from a previous relationship ( I stay away from his baby mama drama, he keeps it to himself too). Everything is pretty good in our relationship, except when she comes to visit. As horrible as it sounds. Here is the deal, my fiancé has his daughter rotten spoiled! I'm talking he even allows his daughter to yell at his mother. She often gets rewarded even when she misbehaves, he even makes excuses for her behavior such as "she is sleepy" after she acts up. The thing is it seems that when it comes to her, it appears that our kid were his step-son at times (He is not). When he wants to have a "family" fun night he refers to it as "I want to take my daughter here" instead of " I want to take the kids here". When she cries it is "oh my baby, its ok (Hugs)" when our BABY Cries a lot its " It's okay, you're ok stop crying" and she sleeps in our room (she has her own room) when she stays but he wants to get our son in his own nursery room asap. He gets agitated when I ask Her to take her toys to her room, etc. , He wanted me to treat her as my own and I Initially did but now I try to ignore her at times and give my son more affection when she is around (Not good I Know). I just feel I need to show my son more affection for his dads behavior. I don't want him to grow up and see the differences. I give my son hints but don't want to tell him directly, he gets so offended so easily and lasts mad for days.HELP am I the one at wrong here? What should I do?