EVER GET ANGRY BECAUSE YOU GIVE YOUSELF FALSE HOPE THAT YOUR HUSBAND IS GOING TO DO SOMETHING YOU REALLY WANT HIM TO BUT HE NEVER DOES?

Jennifer - posted on 12/16/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hey ladies,
I'm having this anger issue right now... Im not sure if any of you other ladies ever get like this.....
My issue is ever month even knowing that my husband isnt going to change it anytime soon, he does the same thing everything month and I always give myseld false hope becuase I convince myself, even though he tells me "not yet, not yet". I get myself thinking maybe this month is going to be different and I'm not going to have to deal with it again...
when it turns out that indeed he still does it.... I get so angry, he doesnt understand, he says that he is open with me and tells me that he is still going to do it... but I still get so mad not so much at him just at the situation and myself for thinking that its finally going to end.....
sorry I guess I should have told you that every month he gets pain pills from his doc and I hate it and I dont think he actually needs them but he seems to think that as of right now he does....
he tells me he is going to stop as soon as he is ready. and every month I always convince myself that this month he isnt going to get them and then when he does and I get mad it turns into this big fight...
I told him that I get so mad at myself for thinking and balieving that he is finally going to change it and when he doesnt I get mad at myself for actually having faith in him...
he just tells me i am being silly and overacting, I do not see it this way..
what do you ladies think, I just wanna know if im the only one that feels like I get mad at the world when I let myself down?

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Jennifer - posted on 12/19/2012

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Hey Ladies,
Thank you for replying.... He has had 3 surgurys on is right side, he had a hurnia and then his first surgury went terrible and he got like a hymatomia and his last surgury went good but the mesh they put in to hold everything is pushing on his stomach and he says it really hurts, He went to the doctor and the doctor said that you can tell that the mesh is pushing outward, but the doctor thinks that he isnt in as much pain as he says becuase he has seen worse cases...
He is trying to go and see a different specialist in Toronto ON. becuase they have to re due the surgury, I know that he is in pain, and they help, but I jsut have it in my head that maybe he doesnt need them as bad as he think he does, I feel terrible becuase I get really upset and mad at him every month when the time comes around to get more, and i have tried really had to just be supportive for the mean time until he sees this doctor and we get everything figured out....
BUT... a lot of times he has to go 2 weeks or whatever without them becuase He runs out, and he seems fine I dont hear him complain or say anyting about the pain....
so thats where I start thinking he doesnt need them as bad as he says he does?
I just dont know if I should just be patiant with him until we get this doctor appt, or if I have every right to feel the way do?

Ashley - posted on 12/17/2012

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my mother in law is the same way. pain pills are very addictive. that is probably why he does not want to give them up. maybe you could have a talk with his doctor. let the doctor know your concerns.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/17/2012

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If he has an addiction, only he can actually DO anything about it. You can certainly voice your concern, and possibly to his doctor, but if the man is really in pain maybe it does need to be managed.

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