Ex baby father

Desnna - posted on 09/05/2016 ( 15 moms have responded )

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Dated my ex less then a month got pregnant fast my whole relationship was based on lies little did I know he was in Craig's list and back page ads buying boilers and women from narcotics anonymous. He started getting aggressive and abused me physically and mentally he never signed the birth certificate and he threw me and my daughter put in a steroid rage and have me a std my 8 month of pregnancy. I ran away back to my family. The past 6 months he has done nothing but torture me demoralizing me callimg me ugly and worthless and the child isn't his. He was telling me he loved me and to come home. Then I found out he has had 3 relationships with 18 Yea old girls and he is 50 I'm the past 3 months. I am embarrassed and disgusted I'm a young 27 year old mom and life is ruff. Know he's telling some one who he has only known a month he loves her! I'm trying to block him.and trying to be the best mother to my baby I am disgusted and hurt. My daughter deserves a dad not a father ! Please help me on being a better mom. I do not want this sycotic man with different women around my baby!

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Michelle - posted on 09/06/2016

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All the more reason to go to court. If he doesn't show up then that will go in your favour. Like Dove said, he can just turn up and take her and no one will be able to do anything about it.
Get yourself a lawyer, tell them what you have written here and go to court.

Desnna - posted on 09/06/2016

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Court orders are for her protection absolutely. But also for him threatening that he was going to come up here and kill me and would violently rape me and made sure I was dead it's for my protection as well as my daughter's first.

Desnna - posted on 09/06/2016

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I understand what you are saying but he never signed the birth certificate. It says father listed unknown. He's excuse was he didn't want to pay for a paternity test. And had the same situation with another son he had to pay back taxes to the government and wasn't aloud to see his son for years
Until he saw him and just gave up on him because he had a troubled child hood and my ex didn't want to deal with him. It's Sad I gave my ex plenty of opportunities to come see her since i felt frightend for my lige to go back down south. Since he comes from a family of money and I am scrapping pennies. With a 6 month old. Going back to school in spring. So it shows me he wants nothing to do with her when he's spending all his money on women steroids and protein powder. And wouldn't even come up here and show he would do anything for her and to fix all the harm he
Has caused

Dove - posted on 09/06/2016

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Because he is her father... and unless you go through the court process to determine custody and visitation... he could up and decide to take her and disappear and there would be nothing you could do about it... other than to pursue it in court. Court orders are for HER protection...

Desnna - posted on 09/06/2016

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How could he have a right to be with her when his behavior is out of control bringing multiple women around his home that use drugs and people who use and are on probation parole and police are looking for. Letting prostitutes use drugs in his home. I ready went to court and that wouldn't do an order of protection I showed multiple harassment threats and conversations of him with prostitutes they said he's in a different state and hasn't caused violence so they can't do anything.. So when he comes up here with a gun and kills us then they will take action. Crazy!

Desnna - posted on 09/06/2016

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These men are phsycotic narccistic manipulators they do exist.. This man has repeatedly said she is a Bastard child and didn't want her.. but been demoralizing and torturing me for the past six months I left him because I was being abused physically mentally emotionally having 3 huge pit bulls which bit me when he out put his hands on me when he threw me and our daughter out.. wouldn't any women have ran away to? He doesn't want to go to court and ready said he wasn't going to pay. With no job and living off his mom .. When my daughter was born he was gone all day and night cheating on me with hookers and actually had one of them around my daughter when I wasn't there.

Desnna - posted on 09/06/2016

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I'm talking about something serious and your worried about my spelling? That's encouraging why comment at all

Dove - posted on 09/06/2016

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If you have good evidence of the harassment towards you then you might have a good chance at filing a restraining order against him. You need a court order for custody, visitation, and child support concerning the child. If you think he may be a danger to the child you can present your evidence to your lawyer and see about pursuing supervised visitations. He does have a right to a relationship w/ his child regardless of anything between the two of you, but you BOTH also have a right to be safe.

Desnna - posted on 09/06/2016

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Thank you every one for the feed back. Its nice all of us women support each other and have truthful positive feed back

Michelle - posted on 09/06/2016

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It is a parent's right to prevent the other parent from taking a child out of the state.
He hasn't "trapped" you.
If he isn't seeing his child and you have the orders then do something about it.

Angie - posted on 09/06/2016

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well my husband actually has me trapped in a state without my family. he placed an order in the court in 2012 and i am not allowed to relocate out of state. so if you are not from the state that he is from i suggest you file an order with the court where your family is. because he can trap you. this may not even be your situation but i tell evey mom i come across whom are dealing with a deadbeat

Angie - posted on 09/06/2016

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wow this is like you telling me my life. i am in kind of the same situation.for your daughters sake i suggest you run like hell.

Michelle - posted on 09/06/2016

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You need to get yourself a lawyer and go to court.
I suggest having a read through this pinned post for helpful information:
http://www.circleofmoms.com/welcome-circ...

Unless the judge thinks he will be a danger to his child then it will be very hard to stop him getting visitation though.

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