Ex Boyfriends

Gayla - posted on 02/09/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )




If you have an ex that you have known for 9 years, but were friends for 6 yrs before you became a couple would you stay friends with him, if the situation doesnt work out.


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Michelle - posted on 02/15/2010




Its a tricky one so to keep things uncomplicated I would say no, an ex should be just that, an ex. Remaining friends will always keep a door open to you getting back together or causing problems when either of you find a new romance, shut the door and move on.

Donna - posted on 02/12/2010




i have been in the same situation and i have managed to stay friends though sometimes it isn't easy.... we both have gone our seperate ways and we have at times come back as a couple but again it didn't last we stay better friends then as a couple....

Amanda Jayne - posted on 02/11/2010




Yes. But depends on why you seperated and if you have children together.

Tiffany - posted on 02/10/2010




Yes, I have and would. My first love was my best friend and we are great friends after all these years. The key is to take time away to make sure you are over them or you can end up in one of those back and forth relationships/love affairs that hurt just as much each time.

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absolutely. One of my exes is now a friend and his wife is one of my best friends. Don't get hung up on the past, the future is so much better!

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I would.I would probably wait awhile get over the boyfriend/girlfriend feeling and start over again as friends. I have done that with 2 in the past I think it's the best thing to be able to rise to the occasion and still be friends

Ruth - posted on 02/10/2010




It depends upon why we split, did he abuse me, is that why we split, if not then I think I would be friends. Maybe not as close as we were before.

Gwendolyn - posted on 02/09/2010




The challenge with keeping former boyfriends in your picture is … it really is not fair to the man you ultimately decide to dedicate your heart / life to. Your new hubby will never be able to compete with the friendship that you shared with the ex because the ex will always have more history over him. It is a different story if the two of you have a child together. If that is the case then you should always be civil since you must raise a child together. Can you honestly move on without comparing everyone else you date to the former boyfriend if he is still an active part of the tapestry of your life? Think hard about why the two of you are not together. If you really love someone you want them to have the best out of life even if it is not you. Is he able to fully move on with you in the tapestry of his life? Oh let’s not even talk about friends with benefits LOL it happens to people who never plan it!!

Jessie - posted on 02/09/2010




I think you could be friends, but it would depend on why you broke up, how everything ended. Also, since you guys were in a relationship you might not be able to get back to that friend place if you were really serious and didn't just break up early on b/c you were better off as friends.

Gayla - posted on 02/09/2010




Thanks ladies,
I am not married, my ex and I were supppose to get married. We broke up earlier last year and he came back when i moved on. I wasnt ready to do that and the guy got hurt in the process. I still love him but not in love because of the back and forth between us.

Heather - posted on 02/09/2010




depends on how bad things get. My ex husband was my best friend for 2 yrs before we got together. We were together 11 yrs al together- together 8, married 3. Have a son together. He was my first everything, including love. Now we can't get along no matter how much we try. Well I try all the time, only to get called all the names in the book. We will NEVER be freinds again, as sad as it is since we were soooo close before. I never thought it would end this way.

Marnie - posted on 02/09/2010




let yhe boyfriend part wear off and if yall were friends before then yall will br friends again

Terra - posted on 02/09/2010




honestly I probably would. However, if you are married it could cause problems. So, my advice is to schedule visits and talks with your hubby there.

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