Ex husband remarries, has a new kid and is neglecting our children. What can I do to protect my kids from the hurt??

Anna - posted on 07/23/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




We divorced over 3 years ago and my ex husband remarried just over a year after the divorce and now has a new baby with this new wife. I have no issues with the remarriage or new baby save for the fact that as a result of both, the ex is neglecting the children severely. He moved away to another country promising to visit often and hardly did so. He kept telling the kids that he plans to move back but that has yet to marerialise. The last straw was when he recently came back for the birth of his new baby and the kids were counting down the days to his return so that they could see him but he's here and h says he is too busy with the new baby to see the kids. I want to protect the kids from this hurt. I don't want them to feel anymore pain because of this man. Need some advice please!


Deanna - posted on 07/23/2012




I'm not sure how old your kids are but we have similar situations from my ex and my husbands ex. We basically just reinforce that this is there home where people will always be there for them and love them. I live in Arizona and my ex moved to NY 2 years ago. He tells my son he's coming but then things come up or no money etc. Last time my ex came to town I didn't tell my son until the morning of, because I didn't want to disappoint him if something happened, so then when he did see his dad it was like a bonus. Also when he does come, I dictate how much time they spend. He'll want to just take him for the weekend but I usually don't allow it. I don't want my time taken or their routines inturrupted. So I say well friday night you can have him til 9. Saturday noon-6 etc. My stepson's mother is a drug addict, she can't take care of him. We haven't told him this for a year but recently tried to explain it all, he's 8 and thought he deserved the truth why his mom no-shows when she says shes coming to see him. I think you have to do the best you can to protect your kids. They know they have a dad, they know he's far away so just keep it that simple. Make sure they know that you are there for them and always will be.

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