Kristen - posted on 01/24/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
My ex was psychologically abusive. He used drugs and I am not sure if he is still using them. I could not take the mental abuse and I moved out. He assured me I would be able to see my children. I lost my job, ended up having to move home to live with my parents. My children are in Oregon with their Father. I am in Massachusetts. I try to call him he never answers. I try to call him to plan vacations to have my children. Every time I talk to him he controls the conversation and plays mind games. Basically, I can not see my children unless it is on his terms.
I am afraid that if I file the court will say I am unfit for leaving them. I do he know how to prove that my ex was controlling and psychologically abusive. I suffered in our relationship for 10 years. During those ten years I put up with him having a drug addiction to prescription opiates. The behaviors I received from him caused me to have severe anxiety disorder. This brought on depression episodes. I handle well with small dose/mg of ssri. My ex says that me taking the drugs for my condition is not any different from his drug addiction.
I am afraid he will say I am an unfit mother and I abandoned my children. I did not abandon my children.
I was in a psychologically abusive relationship with my ex for ten years. We move from Massachusetts to Oregon in 2006. I never new anyone (other than my one friend who I roomed with) other than within the family of my ex. My ex refused to marry me. So, choosing to leave he has no
Legal tie to having to provide for me. I chose to leave an abusive relationship. Which in the long run turned into me being punished by my ex. He would not
Let me see the kids unless it was under his conditions. He started to play mind games.
I left a bad relationship. I rented a room from a friend for some time. Then, I lost my job. I had no income. I had no money to get help from the court system. I was planning on saving so I could file for custody. Due to the economy there is a horrible wait list for housing. I had no choice but to move back to Massachusetts with my family. I did not know know anyone in Oregon. I didn't know what to do. Unfortunately, I am in a worse state. I left with my ex agreeing that I could have the children for all school vacations, until I can get on my feet. He is cutting all communication with me. I want to see my children. He says he will talk to me about it but it will be under his conditions. I don't know what to do. I am a good mother. I do not do drugs, drink. I just want to see my children. I want to have a job and provide for them and myself.