Michelle - posted on 12/16/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )
I should preface this by saying that I do NOT have a problem with picking up my children earlier, as I would rather them be with me than with some stranger.
This may be more of a control issue on my ex's part than anything, and I do not know how to best handle it.
Per the latest court order, ex is temporarily getting the children 3 weekends each month for 4-5 hours each day. The visits have to be in a public place. Ex tries to communicate with me at every exchange which is why I started having other family members come with me to the exchanges. My lawyer has told him that any communication needs to be done via email, which he was complying with until this latest court order. (Exchanges used to be done at a third party facility.)
Now, he just tells me the morning of or the day before that he needs to change the return time of the kids. I ask for email confirmation, to which he does not reply. Of our last 9 exchanges, he's been an hour late returning the kids to one and changed to an earlier return time for five. This past weekend, he wanted me to pick up the children an hour earlier on Saturday, but after I left to pick up the kids, he called to tell me that he would be about half an hour late. Then, he said he needed to return the kids 30 minutes to an hour earlier on Sunday. When I asked him via email to narrow the time more specifically (so I'm not just sitting out there at the pick up location for half an hour, with another 15 minute grace period), he didn't respond.
Granted, I know in the grand scheme of things, these probably shouldn't be things to get worked up over. At the same time, does anyone have any ideas on how to deal with this? I feel like I cannot go anywhere because my schedule is always contingent on his schedule, and I'm "on call" all the time.