Ex's gf wants us to change our financial arrangements

Leela - posted on 06/20/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi. I have a 10 year old. My ex and I split all our child's costs 50-50. Last year my ex started dating a woman with 3 kids. She left her husband for my ex and just got a divorce. As part of her divorce agreement she agreed to pick up most of her kids' expenses. She doesn't earn a lot and depends on her retired parents. We all have mutual friends and recently I was told by them that she wants my ex and I to change our financial arrangement so he will have more money to help her. My ex isn't rich and is barely able to support our child's expenses. I have a very good job but I have my own expenses and do not think her request is fair. My ex has told me he doesn't plan to change the arrangements but is being pressured by her. Note that they do not live together or plan to get married soon. It's becoming tense as I don't appreciate her approach which is to talk to her friends and make me look like the bad guy. What do you think?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/20/2014

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Entitled little twit, isn't she? Sounds like she's always expected 'someone else' to take care of her responsibilities.

I really don't see how the courts would even consider siding with that! They'll tell her that your ex has no biological responsibility, but her ex does, and thats who needs to take care of her kids...

Ev - posted on 06/20/2014

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I agree there. You need to have your ex explain that what you guys have drawn up for your child needs to stay as is and her ex needs to be the one she talks to about expenses for her kids.

Leela - posted on 06/20/2014

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Thanks Shawn. My point exactly. Gf needs to get her ex back in court. I think it would be easier to accept if they were living together or planning to get married. Her philosophy is that she left her husband to be with my ex so he AND his family need to support her. Their choice if they want to do it but certainly shouldn't be forced on me.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/20/2014

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It's going to depend on the courts, I would think, but I also would think that he would not be allowed to claim expenses for children that are not his biologically.

His gf needs to take her ex back to court and get that equalized

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