Ex's Girlfriend is the one doing visitation.

Maria - posted on 01/29/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I need advice :/ My ex works out of town and only comes home once a month. In the divorce decree it states that someone else can pick up our children. So his girlfriend is picking up the children and taking them during his visitation. They dont know this family. But he is doing this to get back at me. What can I do??

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Kelsey - posted on 01/29/2013

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In my agreement; only my ex can pick up our child. If he's working or what not; he can send someone else to pick our child up. But I have the right to say no, this person isn't picking our child up. I wouldn't be comfortable with some woman taking my kids away without even knowing her or her family but that's just me.

Ev - posted on 01/29/2013

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Actually they are done that for the parents. If it was once in a while kind of thing that would be different. Sounds like you made up your mind on what you want to do.

Maria - posted on 01/29/2013

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Plus it seems as though the visitation orders are put in place for the preservation of the relationship between the children and their father.

Maria - posted on 01/29/2013

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Ok thank you. The orders say that it is his possession times. Not someone elses. He has no plans on being there during visitation at all. Do you have any idea how I could change that. I told him he needed to take me back to court and explain to the judge that I wasn't letting his girlfriend get them on his visitation times. I will be talking to a lawyer tomorrow and seeing what I can do.

Ev - posted on 01/29/2013

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If it does not designate certain people then there may not be much to say about it. It is his time and if they are with her and her family and that is how he wants it, I am not sure there is much you can do. If you take the agreement back to court and revise it to say only family can get the kids then he can not have the GF get them. That is why in the temp case the judge ordered only those family and not GF's. (Ex had too many phone calls to one woman for a while). Anyway...just a thought.

Ev - posted on 01/29/2013

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Who exactly is that someone else that can pick up the kids? During my temporary custody hearing, I was given temp full custody. The judge added that only relations such as grandparents, aunts, uncles and trusted family friends could pick up and drop off the kids if the parents could not do so and agreed on other arrangements. Even after we settled the divorce and final custody arrangements, one time my ex let a girlfriend that I did not know and who had not been around my two kids very long take them with her over two hours away instead of telling me he had to work that weekend. I told him that unless the woman was related or married to him that she would not be getting my kids on the weekends. If he needed me to keep them I would. It ended. Did you have it placed in the custody order that the child could be picked up by the girlfriend?

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