Toni - posted on 06/19/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )
My ex is getting married in 3 months, after 2 months relationship. She will be moving into the family home that my 2 sons (10 and 12) visit every second weekend. They were brought up in that house and it has been just them and Dad every weekend since I left 5 years ago.
I have been invited to his wedding so I can look after our boys as he wants them there. I don't want to go, as I don't think it's right, even though her ex will be there.
My sons don't want to go if I'm not there because they've only met the new lady twice, though they like her and her 2 daughters. My ex is now annoyed saying I'm trying to ruin his wedding as he really wants the boys there.
Am I being selfish by not going? Our relationship was built on me doing everything to make him happy and now we are divorced I am no longer that person.
I understand my kids feeling uncomfortable if I wasn't there, though. Do I go for their sakes, again giving into my ex's emotional blackmail.