ex wife and current girlfiend. Who,s right

Leanne - posted on 01/30/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I was married to a man for 6 years. My friends and family advised be against this, because the man for from another counrty. And my parents feared that the love was not preciptated on both sides.



During the fifth year my husband was granteed the right to British Citzen ship. Shortly after he left me to live with a women and her two children. I found out that he was in a new relationship, because the children kept talking about, this one particular lady.



My children used to stay with there dad on the weekends. My ex used to ask to keep them till monday and take them to school. He contiueously took them late to school. Due to having to commit to his other family. ie take her school to school.

One day i thought i'd introduce myself to this other women. As she had not made any attempts to introduce herself too me. During the conversation the women described be a bitter and me having no boyfriend is the reason she gave for this. I simply told the lady, that when i sent my children to stay weith there dad. Its his responsability to ensure they get there on time. And he should not be taken her children before he takes our. She told me, that now his living with her. He has a duty to look after her and her children. Am im being selfish when i say i dont want my children too be in her company.

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Leanne - posted on 02/03/2012

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Arr,Thanks for that. I did this that the lady was rude. Because if i went into a relationship with a man. I would like to introduce myself to the mother over the phone or in person. Its just respect.

Lorri - posted on 02/02/2012

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No. You are not being selfish. You are being a mom. And you were right, it is his responsibility to make sure they get to school on time. If he is not resposible enough to do this simple task, I would make sure they were home on Sunday. Almost had a similar situation and that is what I had to do. And you showed your maturity for introducing yourself to the woman who is around your children, you have every right.

I wish you all the best!



Lorri

Leanne - posted on 01/30/2012

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thanks the advice. I did tell my ex that i will be taking the children to school from now on. I did feel as though she was putting her own needs before my children.

Michelle - posted on 01/30/2012

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You are right to feel the way you do but realistically you can't chose his partner nor who he has around your children during his time. I would however insist the children come home on Sunday evening so you can ensure they get to school on time. Inform your ex that you understand he has other children to get to school so you will be taking on the responsibility of getting your kids to school on time all of the time. Your kids will still get to have a relationship with they father but you can ensure that they are getting to where they need to be on time.

Tina - posted on 01/30/2012

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I don't think so. It's clear that your children mean very little to her. Why can't she take her kids to shool. He has a duty to his own kids before hers. It is unfair for your children to be pushed aside on her account and they will resent that in time. When they realise her needs come before theirs.

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