Michelle - posted on 08/19/2016 ( 25 moms have responded )
Any ladies here who have a hard time with the step children and the ex-wife? I have been with my SO since 2009 and his ADULT children still don't see me as part of the family. When they are around they ALWAYS bring up their mother. All I hear is "Dad remember when" blah, blah, blah. I understand stand having memories but they do it to try to make him think about when they were a family. This is every time they come over. They will make some conversation about when they were a family, show him pictures of their mom, take pictures with him and the grand baby but never include me in any pics. They will take numerous pictures of only him. I feel they do this to make me uncomfortable and to let me know they will never see me as anything. They believe their parents are soulmates and need to get back together. There is another twist. The mother approved of his last girlfriend of 8 years so the kids took a liking to her and still include her in everything in their lives. Although they feel their parents are meant to be, if they can't get them back together then they want him back with her. Not only do I have to deal with them mentioning the ex-wife but also the ex girlfriend. Every holiday they invite us to gatherings which include the exes being there. It's one thing if the ex-wife didn't still have feelings for him but, I'm not attending a gathering where two exes believe he still wants them. When we do run into the ex she is always touching and flirting with him. Makes my blood boil! The ex-wife is best friends with the ex-girl friend and they have pulled some crazy things together to cause problems between us. It's like my life is a joke to these people. His family still has contact with both of them and don't really like me. I'm the bad guy to his family because I helped get him off of drugs and alcohol and quit letting his family take advantage of him when it came to money. My head is scrambled these days because I am angry and stressed out from all of it. Every time I put my guard down something new happens. I am so fed up! It's been 7 years of constant bullshit from his kids and exes. I've done nothing to any of these people and yet their goal in life is to make miserable. Any advice?