Ex wives joinng family get togethers

Connie - posted on 09/25/2016 ( 10 moms have responded )

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The sister inlaw has renewed a close relationship with ex sister inlaw I have been married to the sister inlaws brother 38 years

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Michelle - posted on 09/25/2016

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Well read you original post from the outside, what would you assume the person is saying?
We can only respond to what you have written, we don't know the whole story unless you write it!
So your SIL is a B**ch, nothing you can do about it. I would make sure she doesn't see that it upsets you. She can play stupid school yard games as much as she likes, she would probably be like a toddler and if she doesn't get a reaction out of you then she would drop it.

See how explaining things a bit more gets you a better answer.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/26/2016

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You didn't even actually ask a question, just made a statement.

Either way, we aren't any more psychic on this subject than we are on the whole "could I be pregnant" subject LOL

Seriously, though, after 38 years, if you are still letting SIL get to you, she has won...I like Sarah's statement about letting her have free rent in your head. You need to move past it.

Have you spoken with a counselor?

Sarah - posted on 09/26/2016

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Details? Was I to bust out my crystal ball and figure out the details? Or did you assume we all knew your story. None the less, I am a RN, MSN, but that makes me no different from the other women here! We are mothers, trying to support each other. After 38 years why do you care if you SIL likes you? Why do you let her "ugly mug" upset you? be the bigger person and move on. It is a gift to yourself. Do you think she spends time thinking about you? Why let her live rent free in your head....let it go, you'll feel so much better if you just stop caring about her or seeing her!

For the future; and I hope you stick around as we need more nursing input:
Read your OP; what were we to think of it? You could have shared much more and gotten much more in the way of responses. My first post here was about a TV show I did not like, and I was met with responses that were not supportive. I reread my post, I thought about it and I let it go! A misunderstanding, no more and the women who responded then have gone onto give me great advice and I consider them my friends even though we have not met.
When we get the global invite to Hawai; I will be there for sure ;)

Jodi - posted on 09/25/2016

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"don't be so smug you know nothing of the details"

Really? Given you GAVE no details, you are now going to be nasty about the responses? Exactly WHAT did you expect when you asked a question but gave no information? Miracle answers? You didn't exactly give any information. And now, with the bitchy response you gave, I have absolutely no inclination to bother with your question any more. No surprises your SIL doesn't like you.

Connie - posted on 09/25/2016

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I have moved on don't be so smug you know nothing of the details, it is she that never remarried that used her children for the past 38 years to get back at her Ex and as far as my immaturity, and insecurities , didn't know you were a PHD. in Psychology, My sister in law dosen't like me and so she throws her in my face every chance she gets ,I have nothing to fear as far as my relationship with my husband. I just get kinda tired of looking at her ugly mug! As a mother of six and a Registered Nurse so sorry I bothered you all!

Michelle - posted on 09/25/2016

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I'm with the other ladies, after 38 years you would think that you have moved on and not be so insecure.

Jodi - posted on 09/25/2016

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We just had my MIL's 80th birthday, and my husband and I invited my husband's ex and her husband and THEIR children together, as well as his daughter with the ex. No big deal. In fact the first thing she did when she arrived was come up to us and say hi and tell us what a great job we had done organising the event. I'm not seeing why, after 38 years, people can't just get over it.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/25/2016

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So, your sister in law has a friend. Big deal. You don't get to choose everyone's friends, and if you are THAT insecure after 38 years of marriage, you need to look in to counseling.

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