Exclusive pumping and family says I need to stop.

Misty - posted on 12/10/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My family says I need to "think about myself" and they don't understand the emotional connection I have with being able to provide milk for my baby. I have no reason to stop beside to free my time for her. I cry when I try to stop and get depressed. I don't want to stop deep down.

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Michelle - posted on 01/13/2016

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As Mother's we need to trust ourselves and what we decide. Yes, people will always have opinions and they are welcome to them but each child is different and we know our babies better than anyone else.

Misty - posted on 01/13/2016

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That took me a long time to write and I cried my eyes out doing it. Looking iv become such a strong mother!

Misty - posted on 01/13/2016

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I just read this again and want to thank u again. My daughter is 21 months old and has no health issues. Thank u for supporting my decicion

Misty - posted on 12/10/2014

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Thank you so much. They had me questioning if I should stop but I tried and felt terrible. Now that I'm pumping more I feel so much better and that's what I need to hear. So I know I'm not crazy!

Michelle - posted on 12/10/2014

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Tell them to mind their own business. If you want to keep going then do it.
Until it gets too hard or you go to work etc then keep giving the best gift to your child. Breastmilk is better than anything else for her having such a rough start it will be beneficial for her.

Misty - posted on 12/10/2014

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I have an eight month old girl and I'm 23,my first child. Im a stay at home mom. We had a rough start and were in the Nicu for almost a month but she's problem free now and healthy so we're doing great. Perfectly I must say. I have just been pumping this whole time and people think I'm crazy. My family and boyfriend (my baby's father) think I have pumped long enough and need to stop so I can start "thinking about myself". I almost let them convince me an started to wean myself down but felt terrible and still do. I started pumping just in mornings and through the night now. I don't want to stop. when trying to stop I couldn't sleep thinking about my baby on formula. I cried to myself. Like I missed it, just cutting down. I felt like I was failing her. She does fine with formula but I don't like it. I was so depressed. I have no reason to stop, my supply is great I don't work.Yea it's really really hard she's crawling now and Its not easy doing dishes pumping lugging my pump every where and pumping as many times a day as I want.but i love being able to provide for my baby. Why does everyone want me to stop? What should I tell them to make them believe that I should continue?

You don't have to ready this it just feels good to get it out.

A little about our rough start:
My baby was born at 9lbs 3oz. Complications were deff. Not due to prematurity, the docter actually said I was at least a month overdue. I had a stupid midwife and I thankfully didn't deliver at home like I wanted to. We left the Nicu at 13pounds. She had sever shoulder distocia? Somthing like that. She was very stuck and I pushed so hard. Her head was extreemly swollen and she didn't breath for 4.5minutes. She took her first breath and went back in. No lie. I was mortified. My mother law was they who just so happens to be a minister I have never prayed in my life or went to church. I grabbed her by the shirt and screamed oray for my baby right now she screamed to God to put breath in my child and and the docter said I have a heart beat. It was like somthing out of a movie. They whisked her away and I yelled to my boyfriend go with my baby! I've never felt so helpless as I did that day. I had an all natural labor no medicine except plutocine (I'm a horrible speller) to start labor. She was in a cooling cap for 72hours. They prepared me for the worst possible situations, I didn't sleep for three days till I saw my baby miles and miles away with her daddy. A month later she came home perfect. She was on phenobarbital and kepra. We're alomost on no meds at all now. No issues whatsoever now. You would never know what we went through. Now we go to church every Sunday and she has been baptized.

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