Exs parents, grand daughter, new boyfriend..

Rhianna - posted on 10/16/2015 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend does not like me taking my daughter to her grandparents house because they are my exs parents.. My kids dad and I were together for almost 5 years so I have a really good relationship with them not to mention they are my kids grandparents.... so do you think I'm out of line dropping my kid off to her grandparents house everyday before work? Should my boyfriend be getting upset with me over this?or do you think it's completely normal.. I think it's wonderful because she gets to bond with her other cousins which are her same age 2 and 3 years old, he aunties and her grandparents....

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/18/2015

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Unless he has a VALID reason for not working (IE: Disability preventing activity) then he's a lazy SOB who is also an insecure teenager who throws temper tantrums to get you to give in to him. You can tell him that, as well.

He has absolutely NO right to attempt to dictate how your daughter is cared for, nor who you leave her with. Personally, as I said, not only would I NOT trust him to watch even a puppy...you know the rest of my opinion. He's a loser

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/16/2015

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Like I stated in your other post: Your boyfriend is a twit. Were I in your shoes, I'd lose him...and fast.

Jodi - posted on 10/16/2015

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You are not out of line. Your boyfriend is acting like an immature brat. To be honest, if he is a new boyfriend, I'd be seriously reconsidering the relationship if he is setting these kind of boundaries and trying to control this situation.

The mother of my husband's daughter still (20 years later) visits my in laws ALL the time, calls my MIL mum, is invited to special occasions, attended my FIL's funeral and is still considered family, all to support her daughter's relationship with them. People need to grow up for the sake of the child.

Michelle - posted on 10/16/2015

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Like Jodi said, your boyfriend needs to grow up. If he's jealous then that's his problem.
I would be wary about a future with him though, if he can't handle you keeping in touch with your ex's family then the relationship probably won't last.
He can't control who you hang out with, that's the 1st warning sign of someone wanting to control you.

Jodi - posted on 10/16/2015

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Your boyfriend needs to grow up. He is obviously insecure. These are your child's family and she has a right to a positive relationship with them. If your boyfriend can't handle the fact that you now have a permanent link with your ex and his family through your daughter, then maybe he needs to cut loose.

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Michelle - posted on 10/17/2015

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So you are telling him what you posted here and then relaying the replies back to him?
Of course he is going to say you aren't telling the full story, we are backing you up and he doesn't like it.
Why would you be asking him to look after your daughter over her own family?
He should be getting off his backside and finding a job, that's why men do! They don't try and control the women in their life because of their own insecurities.
You can tell him that!

Dove - posted on 10/17/2015

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It is absolutely none of your boyfriend's business if you want your children to spend time w/ their grandparents. If he can't accept it... he's not mature enough for a relationship w/ w woman that has kids. You don't need him around.

Jodi - posted on 10/16/2015

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Sounds like a real winner - why does he not work?

And no, you still are not out of line. Your child, your decision.

Rhianna - posted on 10/16/2015

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So he thinks that I didn't relay the whole situation... he does not work he stays home and I still take her over to her grandparents house for them to watch Azaleya because they also watch her 2 year old cousin as well so I think it's better for her to interact with kids her age and her grandparents because she hasn't seen them for like I said 6 to 8 months... so is it out of line to have them watch her when he is home willing to watch her? Thank you

Rhianna - posted on 10/16/2015

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We have been together for almost a year but Azaleyas grandparents and I just got back in touch like 2 months ago after like six months of not being in touch which shouldn't matter so for the first 6 to 8 months of our relationship I was not in contact with them so I guess he wasn't expecting this maybe idk... but I agree it is a very childish thing to get angry over ... and he is childish over it telling me things like why don't you go live with them and other stupid little comments that are just out of line to say

Rhianna - posted on 10/16/2015

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Ok cool so I'm totally not in the wrong here... I think it's awesome to have a caring loving family especially since my family isn't really a family... and since Azaleya which is my daughter her dad sees her only once in a while so to have his parents and sisters all there for her and I makes it a super special circle of love for her which I think is very important to have.. thank you so much I'm going tell my boyfriend your guys opinion so maybe he'll get off my case about it

Rhianna - posted on 10/16/2015

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So you don't think that I am out of line here? What do you think about me hanging out with them? like they ask me to go to the pumpkin patch with he cousins and her two aunts.. my ex is never there he is hardly even in my daughters life so it's not like I am hanging out with my ex it's just his sisters and his parents whom love and care about me very much.. when I was with my kids father we would go over there atleast 3 times a week for football games dinner and what not so we have a close bond.. so what do you think about me still spending time with them?

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