false allegations in court

Cheryl - posted on 02/09/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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What or how do I cope with false allegations being said about me in court/custody of my son they are very serious allegations of abuse and neglect that are completely false but the man is saying it's from my sons diary my son has never kept a diary and I see the fathers writing in it. The man also kept my son away from me the first 3 months I left and has done everything to sabatoge access and phone calls with my son I have full custody of my daughter he has completely disowned her stopped talking to her after being her only father for 13 years (he's not her biological father) she us now 16 that was her only father as her biological didn't want anything to do with her. But he's done so many things wrong but still has him. And he's just doing everything he can to destroy me. I do t understand how a man can be so evil. He was very mentally emotionally abusive and at times he was physically abusive. He right out lies in his affidavits and it's taking everything out of me it's getting harder and harder to stay strong

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Raye - posted on 02/09/2015

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If he keeps refusing to let you see your son, even though the court appointed you visitation, then file charges for parental alienation. Keep trying to see your son when you're supposed to have visitation and document the times that he refuses or cuts it short or how he is "sabotaging it" and present that as evidence against him.

Cheryl - posted on 02/09/2015

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I've been trying to share custody with my son as of this point he has custody and would not let me see or talk to him for 3 months and the court ordered access for me and he would not allow the access je would call the police and falsely accuse me of yelling at my son and forcing him to do stuff he didn't want to on one occasion he snuck him out the back door of hockey rink during my access. He's telling my son false things about me. all I want is to be able to have my son same amount if time he has him and he keeps sabotaging it. Voices of children are getting involved but it's a long waiting list. I also just found out that the referral to counsellor he said he had as I've been pushing for it since day one his Dr just informed there was never a referral.

Raye - posted on 02/09/2015

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Keep telling the truth. Ask for a handwriting sample to prove the diary is your son's. Don't disrespect the judge or the court by yelling out that your ex is a liar, wait for your turn to speak. You do have the power to stay strong. If you keep telling the truth, hopefully the court will see that he's lying and that you are a fit mother.

What I read for your post is that you left the relationship after 13 years because he was abusive to you. He is probably feeling very hurt and betrayed by you for leaving and wants to retaliate the way he knows it will hurt you the most... through your kids. Prove to him that he can't beat you down by being a strong, confident, reasonable and respectful woman in court.

Technically, since your daughter was his step-child, then he legally does not have any reason to continue being in her life. That doesn't make it right that he cut her off completely. If he had any love for her, then he should be concerned for her well-being and try to help her through this difficult time. But apparently he's a selfish jerk and doesn't care about who he hurts while he keeps trying to get his way.

As for your shared son, you should try to find a way to have shared custody. I know you probably hate your ex right now, but he is still the father of your boy, and has rights too (unless you can prove the abuse). You both need to realize how much the fighting is hurting your kid(s), and stop trying to use them in your fight against each other.

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