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Teeshia - posted on 11/15/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend/baby daddy is in jail right now and will be out two weeks after my expected due date(March 14th,2014) . He went in about 3 weeks after I found out I was pregnant. We've been together for about a year now and we write letters but I'm afraid that when he gets out everything will fall apart . Since we'll have the baby now and this is his and my first child.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/15/2013

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The only time it's 'hard to keep a relationship' after a kid is if the relationship wasn't solid in the first place.

Make sure you have paternity established. That way, if it does fall apart, you have the basis for support & visitation orders.

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Teeshia - posted on 11/15/2013

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We've been on and off a bit but we always come back to eachother strong, I just know the baby will bring a little stress to us both

LalaBoom - posted on 11/15/2013

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Aaaww... I will not sugarcoat it: it will be damn hard. Actually, it will be fckng hard as sht. But not for the reasons others may lead you to believe.

You will have already gone through the process of pregnancy AND childbirth alone. Trust and believe that if you don't have a support system, THAT will make sht hit the fan more than his getting out o jail. His coming home will require some adjustment for himself because he has been locked up for that long. But, it seems like he has no plans of going anywhere since he has maintained contact.

But check this out mama, you and him have both stayed committed while he's away. Actually, I would almost bet he's feeling some type of way about missing the pregnancy and you going through it alone.

I have a little tip for you though:

If you haven't done it already, involve him in the pregnancy with pictures and letting him know about what happens every time you go to the doctors. If its a girl, start calling her his "princess." And if its a boy, his "little man." Buy them matching hats or something of the sort.

Men respond more when they feel attached or when they see that this is part of them too.

You say the letters are good, I wouldn't worry about it. Enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can :)

Teeshia - posted on 11/15/2013

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No the letters are all good. But you know how they say that when people go to jail they all this " jail " talk but when they get out its a different story . And a lot of people been telling me its hard to keep a relationship after having a first child .

LalaBoom - posted on 11/15/2013

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What makes you think everything will fall apart? Is there anything he is saying now (in those letters) that has you thinking he's planning on leaving you after he gets out?

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