family custody

Takisha - posted on 07/30/2016 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My husband sister is bipolar, and mentally retarded. The sister had a child and the father has schizophrenia. We have full custody of the 3 year old. It has been he'll having her in our home. I believe something is wrong with her. I can't take it anymore and I told my husband that he needs to tell his mother it's time for her to be with them now. The behavior the little girl display is mind blowing for a child going on 4 in 3 months. We had her since she was 1 years old. I have taken her to the doctor and it was said to me being both parents have mental illnesses 9 out of 10 she probably will too. The little girl was taken by cps right after birth and placed in foster care. The foster parent has given us problems making up lies to get the little girl back due to receiving $1500 a month for the little girl. The foster parent was not doing right by her. Taking the money using it to repair their home. So when we ended up with her they couldn't get the house completed as they planned. So, the foster mom took us to court for visitation and got it. Due to taking care of the little girl. I did not want to get the little girl because me and my husband family never got along. An interesting knew they had a lot of drama with them. Drugs, was a factor for them. Since then the sister has made threats online to me and her brother for taking her daughter in. My husband and I already have 4 children of our own. I was done with babies. Anyhow, the little girl has temper tantrums, cries about everything, destroy our things,doesn't listen, lies at 3,banged her head on floor, bites, yells, and can't keep her hands off things. The little girl talks to herself sometimes,and hits people. I have shown my husband videos of her acting out while he is at work for proof that something is wrong. I don't know what to do. I can't worry about what's wrong with the little girl because I have 4 kids of my own to raise. I'm considering leaving my husband behind the little girl. Oh did I mention she urinate, and BMW on herself all the time. None of her father side of the family wants to be bothered, and no one on my husband side doesn't ask about her or see her. My husband sister does nothing for her, she takes her skin check pays her potion of rent and buys weed with the rest. Then in February the father was murdered. It's just too much for me to deal with. Then, on top of that the mom and grandma took us to court last year for custody and lost due to living in a hotel. After the court date the mom and daughter moved to Florida but has visitation rights but never exercised it. Now they both share a apartment and still haven't made no way of getting themselves together enough to take the little girl. So, I don't know what to do. All I know is she can't stay with us. Me and my kids are scared she may try to harm one of us. I know it sounds crazy but, she is not an ordinary 3 in a half year old. I need advice on what to do before I call it quits with my husband. He don't want her to leave because he feels he is all she have. But, sees the frustration she is causing in our home. SOMEONE PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE.

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Takisha - posted on 07/30/2016

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It was never decided to give her back to her mother, but to the grandmother. I have a child with a disability and I have to focus on him first. Judge me if you want but you don't know all that has transpired. We take good care of her that's not questionable. I just can't deal with the behavior. Besides, my spouse has four other siblings with no children that should step up and take her. An her staying with us was never meant to be permanent.

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