Family Drama

Lacye - posted on 08/09/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My family is pissed off at me. It all started with my niece and her husband. My niece's husband has been physically abusive towards her for a while now and my niece has left him and is filing for divorce. While I in no way condone what he did to her, I have to admit that my niece is not innocent in all of this either. She yells and screams at him all the time about the littlest things. All in all, it was a bad relationship and they both needed to get out of it. When this first went down, I told my sister (the mother of this particular niece) that I wanted to stay out of everything because I was worried about my unborn child (I'm 14 weeks pregnant). The doctors were telling me that it was possible that I might not be able to carry my child full term or I could possibly have a miscarriage. At first my sister says ok. Then my husband writes a stupid comment on my niece's soon to be exhusband's page and now my family is pissed at me because of something my husband has said. I have told them many times that I can't control what my husband says and that his opinions are not mine but they still don't listen to me. Now I have them going all over Facebook going on and on about this whole thing and they are calling me a "drama seeking hater" even though I have tried my best to not get involved. So I'm the person that is getting dirty looks and I decided that I'm not going to take my 3 year old daughter around them while they are acting like this. They might not like what my husband says (hell they don't like him anyways) but they shouldn't take it out on my daughter or myself. I have debated on deleting them off my friends list but if I do that, it will just add fuel to the flame. I just don't know what to do about it anymore.

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Lacye - posted on 08/09/2012

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Sarj, I have tried that before all of this blew up and I was still the person getting dirty looks. As for my daughter, my family never comes to see her anyways. The only time they want to see her is during holidays. They have gone on trips with each other and purposely left myself and my daughter out. I wish we could be civil after all this but I just don't see that happening.

Sarj - posted on 08/09/2012

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WOW. My heart goes out to you. I have two sisters and two brothers and we fight like cats and dogs but we have never got our kids involved. There was a time when my sister didn't speak to my brother for almost a year but her relationship with his daughters was never effected. We are a close family and spend a lot of time together - so she saw him many times throughout the year. But they were both civil to each other and that is what grown ups do. Tell your siblings that your sorry for what your husband said and it hurt their feelings but it wasn't you did and that it can't be undone. Your relationship is stonger than a few unkind words. If that doesn't stop them, then only time will heal whatever "wounds" have been inflicted.

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