Family in turmoil

Melissa - posted on 07/15/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I got sick very sick a few years back & my sisters offered to take care of my son.I knew it was the right thing for him as I was unable to care for him in the super mom way I had before. Then I found out I was pregnant. I had not intended to get pregnant (and was using two forms of birth control) I could not get an abortion (I just knew that was not a choice for me). My family was angry my sisters where angry. After I had my son my health got a lot better. But I let him stay because I thought he was happy there. However once my health was better and my son wanted to come home to be with his momma & his baby brother I had to bring him home. I had talked to my twin sister about if she would help me by letting us stay with her until I could get our own place.Because we wanted my oldest son to stay in the same school he was in with his cousins. But if not then I would take him back to live with me & our parents.She said no she didn't want to help me, so I moved him back home with me. After that my sisters stopped speaking to me and to our parents which is braking their hearts. My oldest sent my dad a nasty letter filled with lies about me and how I'm a bad mom, but she has never said any of these things to me. Now she is about to have a new baby this has been going on for about a year. I miss my niece and nephews they wont let me speak to them. I continue to let them have monitored phone and mail correspondents with my oldest son, they don't want any thing to do with my youngest son. I just don't know what to do, it is KILLING our parents. My mother our mother feels dejected and sad, that she is going to have a new grandbaby that her own daughter wont let her share in this happy time.

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Melissa - posted on 08/28/2012

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Update she had the baby, didn't even bother to call our mom. I so mad! Mom has been crying off and on all day, this is her first grand baby she hasn't been there for or at least the with in the first few hours of birth. I still in shock that she would do this. It might not be fixable. I really don't know if all the kings horses and all the kings men and God and all his angles be able to out this family back together again!

Melissa - posted on 08/24/2012

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I wouldn't know what to say in a nice letter. I'm really sad about all the really bad really untrue things they have been saying about me. So I really don't know what I could say that would make this better. I'm at a loss. My mom is having such a hard time because my older sister is having the baby any day now and this is the first grand baby she hasn't been there for.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/03/2012

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I would just try to talk with her. Keep trying. Send her a really nice letter. I don't know what else you can do. If she chooses not to speak with you and your parents, that is on her. Just trying to get to the bottom of it is your best option. Good luck. It sounds like there are deeper issues there.

Louise - posted on 07/16/2012

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Why are they not talking to you, are they upset you took your son back after two years. I don't understand why they will not speak to your parents has something been said to them they did not like. If you really want to get your point across to your sister then write her a letter and tell her about the affect this is having on your parents. Try not to be accquising just be fair and tell the facts. Yours sister will read this letter I assure you, whether she acts on it I don't know.

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