Family issues

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Hi, my name is Jamie! I'm having a difficult time dealing with tlsome issues with my family! I got pregnant with my oldest son when I was 19 and had him at 20! I was in an abusive relationship with his biological father who also did drugs! So I decided it was best to place him with my mother until I got the courage to leave! Well a month later my sister moved back to live with my mother and took over caring for him! They make threats to me non stop about getting an attorney now that I'm doing better in my life and married to an awesome man who I have another child with! I would like to get my oldest son back but I fear I've waited to long to do so!

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Jodi - posted on 04/09/2016

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WTF? 11 years? Now I'm even less impressed. I'm with mum and sister. I'd be trying to prevent the child going back too.

My question is, what does the child want?

Jodi - posted on 04/09/2016

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So you didn't actually go and get your son back when you left your abusive relationship. It sounds like instead, you moved on with YOUR life, found another man, had another baby (without sorting out your first one before having another one) put them ahead of the child that you left with your mother, and only NOW want your child back. You haven't mentioned how long it has been, but I can understand why they may want to remove custody from you for your oldest child. Why DID you wait so long to get him back?

SOrry, but once you have a baby, you don't GET to move on with your life without that little person. When you got yourself out of the abusive relationship, it was your responsibility to then get that child back. That was the only reason you placed him with your mother in the first place. But no, you left him there.

As it stands at the moment, unless there are papers in place, you most likely still have legal custody over the child. However, perhaps it is time to get a lawyer rather than dithering around over it.

Sorry, it annoys me that you've gone and had another baby but can't get your shit together on the first one first. You had no right to have another child if you can't look after the one you had.

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Jodi who r u to tell anybody if they have the right to have another child or not! I will pray for u Cuz u obviously need god! Thank u have a blessed day!!

Dove - posted on 04/09/2016

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How long HAS it been? Does the boy know that you are his mother? How much time have you been spending w/ him during all of this? Does your mother or your sister have legal guardianship papers?

Speaking to a lawyer would be a good idea.... as well as speaking to a child psychologist about the best way to transition the child if that is going to happen.

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