fas, rad, autistic, and adhd child hitting my baby.

Tami - posted on 10/09/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have a4 year old adopted soon who hit my 3 month old today or threw something bc she was crying and he wanted her to stop, he has adhd, autism, rad, and fas recently dx. He tried to Stab my 5 year old last week. This is all new to me and i don't know what to do, is it going too get worse he sees atherapist, but all i can think of is what of it gets worse what will i do. I didn't do this to him and I'm trying to help him but of he keeps on hurting ppl at home and school what is to be expected. Someone please help. Its not that bad note but its getting worse at school and home. Is this normal and should i be afraid? For my other children. this is new to me and i don't know of i can do for him and him hurt my biological children. Help.

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Dove - posted on 10/09/2012

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Hitting him is NOT going to help this situation, but make it a million times worse. You and your family need to get professional help with this situation asap. His issues are NOT his fault (or yours, of course), but he needs a lot more help than you and your husband can get him alone.



I read that he sees a therapist, but what does the therapist SUGGEST? This IS 'normal' behavior for a child with his issues, but that doesn't mean you just overlook it. I don't have any specific advice for this, but an online friend of mine recently adopted a little boy with RAD and it is NOT fun. I would definitely advise you to never leave the baby alone with him. Other than that.... speak to the therapist and if he/she won't/can't help.... find another one.

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Tami - posted on 10/25/2012

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Ok.i have contacted defacs, counseling groups and his therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist, and 2 other community resources they all say bc of the autism and fas we can't help you we have 2 diff types of INS and no one can help, he has recently hit my 3 month old in the had with a car and threw a Sharp broach pin at her. These accurences are not happening everyday but getting more reg. We applied for ssi like they advised and like i said w have no resources in or area is what i keep hearing the closest is 200 miles away e can't afford that twice a week like the therapist recommends, i don't know what to do no one will help only give him meds, the dx is what seems to be the problem and i have decided i have to protect my biological children and of it comes to him being removed from the home that will be a rough decision but i have to protect them as their mother and everyone i talk to completely understands but there are just no resources in our , i really don't want to do that but of it comes to that i have to protect my babies.

Tami - posted on 10/09/2012

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He is just hitting at the moment and he to stab my five year old with ahorshue stake that was plastic but its all the same what if it was aknife. Or what if next time its a baseball instead of a sharp shirt pen that he throws at my baby. My husband says I'm over reacting am i. He whipped him and thinks that will solve it. But it hasn't at school yet why will it at home. I'm lost.

Lacye - posted on 10/09/2012

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No this is NOT normal! You really need to do something about it before it does get worse. If it continues, he could seriously injure not just your kids but you as well or somebody else.

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