Aani - posted on 09/11/2016 ( 11 moms have responded )
My daughter’s father and I separated whilst I was pregnant. We’d been in an unstable relationship for a few years and I fell pregnant just before the relationship ended. Deep down I was happy for the relationship to end but wanted to keep baby contrary to the father.
When we separated he’d asked if I could keep him posted regarding baby - then he disappeared off the face of the earth never to be heard of again with the exception of 1x email. (email to say he’d had a mental breakdown but could I help by sending pics of his daughter)
My daughter had her 2nd Birthday yesterday and I still haven’t heard from the father or his family whom mirror his actions. His mother (the matriarch) is a real piece of work and his sister was just like him (wanted to have contact and then ceased all communication)
When I didn’t hear from any of them, I decided to write an email reminding them of her Birthday and then suggested ways they might like to have contact with my daughter without my presence if “I” was underlying issue.
Again – no answer. It saddens me to think my daughter will grow up wondering why her father’s family choose to ignore her existence.. I’ve kept all forms of communication (other than photos) to a bare minimum. I’ve been extremely civilised through this whole process but it’s not been easy. If they don’t want acknowledge my daughter they could just say that instead of sticking their heads in the sand.
My question to all parents out there – What would you do? Would you rise above the situation and persist in continuing to send the odd photo? Would you take a hint and write them off for good? Or would you confront the family for once and for all?