Becca - posted on 10/04/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
I'm looking for advise. Be as candid as you like. My daughter is three. Her father has been an active part of her life consistently for the last year. On and off for the first two. We seperated because he was abusive and a cheat. He and his parents have manipulated her many times to try and convince her she loves her dad more, or wants to stay with him and not me. They have tried to convince her my current bf of two years is "bad" etc.... I have expressed my feelings that this can be mentally damaging to a child so young. but they have not stopped. Her father is a regular marijuana user, which I am also not comfortable with. He recently got arrested for drugs he had in his vehicle. When I found out I immediately stopped allowing her to go to his house. Which is his parents house. He does not work, pay child support, and unfortunately his parents condone his behaviour. I have always wanted her to have her bio father present in her life despite our differences, but I just fear for her safety and well being. I also recently found out he has gotten someone else pregnant and she has made contact with me. She feels like its better to have a parent present even if he is not always perfect than not around. Yes he can be loving and caring of her but he also thinks its fine to teach her about marijuana, glass pipes etc......I want to do what's best for her. Am I being an over protective parent or do I have every right to keep her from him and for how long. I would do supervised visits but he is verbally abusive to me around her and I don't want her to see that. She refuses to set up supervised visits through foc which is what I recommended.