Father making baby constipated and wont stop

Heather - posted on 10/16/2009 ( 137 moms have responded )

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ok my son is almost seven months old. I started him on cereal when he was 3 months and started fruits and veggies once a day at 4 months. He still only gets 2 meals a day that are not breastmilk. I ONLY breastfeed him, i do not give him any formula. His father started to get him for visitation. I was sending expressed breastmilk. This started back in October. He had him for 4 visits and he came home constipated the last 2 times. He did not have him for a month in which my son was not constipated anymore. One resuming visitation in september, my son was constipated again after every visitation (2x a wk). His clothes were coming back stained and the bottles were coming back smellng disgusting. I came to the conclusion that he was feeding him formula. I asked him many times to stop and tried to explain how my son was haivng trouble digesting it. He was also spitting up a lot of yellow which he had never done before. I must note that none of the fruits or veggies or cereal had caused any of this when he was not going to his fathers. His father refused to admit he was giving him anything and my son continued to come back constipated. I had to take him to the hospital one night where they confirmed his constipation and gave him a suppository to help him out. We went to court and the court ordered that he not feed him anything but water and that i stay in the area to be called upon if my son was hungry so i could breastfeed. Well he has had him 3 times so far and every time i have picked up my son, he is not hungry. My son eats every hour and a half at LEAST. he is a snacker i guess you could say. He is still constipated and still comign home with stained clothes that smell like formula and spitting up yellow. So where is his DR in all of this??? I have tired to talk to him about how to help out my son but he refuses to talk to me since i mentioned it was a court issue. He tells me that my breastmilk is the cause of the constipation and who cares what color he spits up. he said its only another 6 months that he will be breastfed anyways so its no big deal. He also said that only 1 in 10 women strictly breastfeed so its not big deal if he is given formula. He said i need to start getting along with his father and stop trying to make up things. He also told me to find another doctor if i did not like what he said. He told me that breast milk is no better that formula so who cares what he gives him. I was very upset because I knwo when something is wrong with my son and im the one that has to watch him cry and scream for hours to push out hard dark poop. I never tried to take visitation from his father but he has been told many times to stop giving him formula and now its a court order and he still wont follow it. I KNOW he is giving him formula but my lawyer says i need a dr statement saying he is being given formula before it can be taken care of. Well....that is a problem considering what his doctor thinks about it. He wont even look at anything cept for connors height and weight. I obvioulsy need another doctor but im afraid that once that doctor hears the word "court" they will do the same thing. Im trying to find somewhere to get his poop tested to prove its formula but i dont know if thats possible. I need help to stop him from feeding him formula and causing him pain. This has gone on for far too long. Just today i had to give him a suppository because he was straining and yelling on and off from 10am to 4:40pm when i gave it to him. He goes back to his fathers tomorrow and it will start all over again. Oh yeah, his father is trying to tell me that im eating something to make my breastmilk cause him to be sick when he goes to visitations. He also says i dont feed him enough.....but like i said,.....he doesnt call me to come feed him. I really dont know what to do. Im tired of my baby suffering, im tired of the stained clothes, and im tired of him lying to me. Im also tired because my son is not sleeping well anymore either, he wakes up screaming bloody murder instead of just quietly crying for me to come get him. Sometimes i have trouble getting him to eat when he is constipated. He also hits himself with his toys when constipated. How can his doctor tell me to get this out of my head??? and what can i do to prove whats going on ASAP to get this crap stopped. Please do not tell me to talk to his father about it again, i have politely asked him over and over again and he just says its my fault and denies it. Although he does say he has the right to feed my son whatever he wants to because he is the father. However, he does not have any rights because i have full custody and he has nothing but visitation rightnow PLEASE HELP



*****in response to some of the things you guys have written, he is almost 7 months old, and I do give him suppositories when he is constipated. Howver they are not supposed to be given a lot because they can create dependence on them. I have tried the juice, water, ect. and nothing seems to fix the constipation except the suppositories. I was unsure about stool samples because i have taken them to his DR before and they told me they couldnt do anything and laughed at it. Now I know i can get something like that done. Monday morning I will be contacting other doctors to get appointments. Howver, with new patients some take forever to get you in, is there a way i can get stool and allergy testing done without a doctors referral???? The allergy thing seems to make a lot of sense to me. If not allergies then I believe it is the extra iron from the formula because the stool is very dark.

As soon as I have proof from another doctor about what is really wrong with my son.....and my son is better again, I will be reporting his old doctor. Not that i hold a grudge, but no other mother should have to go through this.



Thank you everyone for your ideas and thoughts.

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Michelle Albright, the problem is that this man is undermining Heather's ability to breastfeed her son and is ignoring her requests not to give him formula. The more formula the child drinks, the less he will want breastmilk, which will send a signal to her body to produce less milk. This could, worse case scenario, mean that she will have to quit breastfeeding. The point that Heather is trying to get across, and which many people are missing, I don't know why, is that this man is using the child to undermine Heather's parenting style. He is a passive-aggressive individual who is manipulating her through the child and refusing her repeated requests to co-operate with something that is good for the child. He is obviously causing the child's constipation somehow (likely by using formula) and Heather is the one having to deal with it by giving him medications. These medications have side-effects, and when these side-effects kick in, as a passive-aggressive personality that he seems to be, his trump card will be: 'See what this woman is doing to my little boy!' It will be overlooked that his giving the formula is the cause of all this, and Heather will be blamed. You are already blaming her for being stressed and passing it onto her son, which isn't helpful. With an ignorant and hostile doctor, and even more dangerous father, I don't blame her for being panicked and stressed. Given the situation, it is understandable. And she is focussed on her son's wellbeing, that point is obvious to me.

Penny - posted on 10/20/2009

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First of all, if he is coming home constipated all the time, STOP sending him over there! You can't mix breastmilk with formula! You have to do one or the other. If your babies poop is a dark color, that means it's probably regular milk or formula. If the father won't respect your wishes and won't do what the court says he's supposed to do, stop sending your kid over there. If he's constipated, get some prune juice or prunes. It'll give him fiber to make it easier for him to poop. The fact that the father doesn't care about the wellbeing of his son is pathetic!

Also, find another pediatrician and quick!

You shouldn't be reporting his old doctor, you should be figuring out a way to keep that kid from his idiot father!

PS, do NOT give your son any syrup OR sugar of any kind! It CAN make their teeth rot before they even come in. That's a BIG no no!!! I have 3 good friends who work in a dentist office... they would know! And, people may disagree with me and it may have worked for some, but it really isn't good for them to have THAT kind of sugar. Use a natural fruit sugar.

Also, if you HAVE to send your poor kid back to the father, tell him to give your son NUTRIMAGEN formula. The proteins are already broken down so it's easier to process and makes it easier for your baby to have a bowel movement. My daughter had to take it for the first year. She couldn't even drink SOY... that caused constipation too.

Good luck. I hope your boy gets better soon... if you've ever had constipation, you know the pain, imagine what he's going through... his poor little body. I feel so bad for him.

Tanya - posted on 10/17/2009

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how old is the baby? you need to get miralax and ur going to have to keep them on it for about two weeks IF the constipation hasnt been going on that long... My daughter was constipated for several months and the drs just kept telling me to give her an enima every couple of days well my daughter was so scared everytime she had to go that she would try to hide it finally i went to another dr that perscribed her miralax and told me to give it to her for 3 months bc her case was so bad and it took about 5 to get her back to normal and to get her to go on the potty so good luck to you its a very hard hurtle to cross but youll do it esp. if its not as bad as my daughter was

Bridget - posted on 10/16/2009

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If I were you, I would go back to the judge that issued the court order stating that the baby's father has to call you to feed your son & tell him that you are not getting called. Even if the father was only giving him water (which you know better), he's not taking proper care of your son if he's not calling you to feed b/c #1 your son would be going hungry & #2 you are not supposed to give a lot of water to a baby. Also. find another doctor ASAP!!! Most pediatricians 100% back up breastfeeding for obvious reasons & even if they don't they have no right to tell you "It's no big deal that the father's giving him formula". Yes, it is a big deal!!! It's making your son sick. He is probably allergic to the crap. I'd flip out if someone was feeding my child something that I didn't approve of. I do not agree with some of the people who posted stating that your son might have a breast milk allergy. That is very uncommon, plus you've successfully breastfeed for 7 months without trouble until he started going to his fathers. I'd get a new doc & have him test the stool or test your son for allergies and I'd PUSH for supervised visitation or no visitation since the jerk obviously doesn't care what he's putting your son through.

Chantal - posted on 10/16/2009

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If another Dr decides to help you out and you end up finding out that what you've been saying to your Dr now is true, then he could be in serious trouble for not believing you, when you had trust in him. If you find a good Dr let them know about how he has treated you and your son, you'll probably find that they'll be shocked. So maybe try find out why this is happening to your son and then you'll have proof that he really shouldn't be dealing with patients if he never tried to help you when you obviously had serious concerns, not just once but many times. Try and keep dates and anything else relevant as to when you saw him for your sons problems.

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Kaija - posted on 02/23/2016

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Give babies magic tea to your child and he'll never get constipated. I have used this formula for my baby and got rid of constipation and colic.

Heather - posted on 10/21/2009

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Ok everyone, I went to a new Doctor and she reviewed his x-rays and verifyed that his constipation is a result of his diet. However, my breastmilk can cause constipation if I am eating a lot of dairy products which I dont. So, she put Connor on 3 oz of juice a day for two weeks to try to regulate him. He is not a fan of it so far but im getting as much of those 3 oz as I can in him. She wants to see him back in 2 weeks. At that time she if he is still having problems, she will order that Connor stay with me and my mother at all times for 2 weeks to see if the constipation goes away. This will verfiy if his father is giving him formula or anything else that is causing the constipation. At least this Dr is listening to me and trying to figure it all out. Hopefully the juice will help him out. His father is still not calling me to come feed him. He also screams on the way home from his house when I am out of sight. (45 min drive) It is horrible, my son is one of those babies that LOVES car rides. So its obvious that his separation anxiety is kicking in. I have also contacted his Guardian Ad Litem that has just been appointed to schedule a meeting to discuss all of my concerns. Hopefully she will understand and be able to dig deeper than I can into this mess. Thank you everyone for your help and opinions. I will update any new info

Riannon - posted on 10/20/2009

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When my son was a baby he had visitation with Dad too. It is really difficult to keep a thumb on the "other" parent. Finding another DR. makes sense. I would go from DR. to DR. until I found someone who understood what was happening. In the long run this may be a sign of what is to come. Finding a compromise with the visiting parent can be complicated but it is necessary. If you find solutions together he may be more willing to stick with them. If you tell him what to do I would imagine that would cause him to feel spiteful and more likely to do the opposite of what you say. I wish I could say this gets easier but with an older child you have to agree with the movie and video game ratings, where he can spend the night, how late to stay up, etc. etc. etc. This is an opportunity for you both to learn to work together..for the sake of your child. Good luck.

Elaine - posted on 10/20/2009

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My baby is 9months and I have never had problems like that thank god. My little nephew suffered with constipation the docter never suggested suppositories or any thing like it. he was 8 maybe 9months when he started to get only naturaly things like juice. He also siad to dry and pin point the problem so to speak it was his formular it didnt suit. with change it and he was fine. never got and medication hes to young. My daughter dosent get any medication ether not us less it was completly nessccory

Jill - posted on 10/20/2009

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Although breast is best....you may need to tell the father that if he is giving formula to try not to give him one the added iron. Also, have the dad add a tsp of dark karo syrup to the bottles. I can't believe that he would want to spend money on formula when breast milk is free.

Next time your baby is constipated and you have to go to the doctor...make the father go with you so he can see the pain your baby is in. Maybe try having a talk with the dad about co-parenting this child. Remember you guys need to love the child more than you hate each other or you will have a life time of power struggles with this guy.....and the only one who will suffer is the child. Good luck!

User - posted on 10/20/2009

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Don't quote me on this one but its sounds like he is in breach of his court order. The court has ordered the father to call you when your son is needing a breastfeed and (depending on the length of time the vistitation is) he isn't following this out. I would seriously seek legal advice again. I know its tiring and expensive but worth it. The is no point me giving you advice on how to deal with the constipation because your son should not be getting it full stop if the father follows the court order.

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Problem with constipation could be caused by diary. Make sure he does not give baby regular milk. This is dangerous. Diary products often give ids constipation. There is nothing wrong with formula but it needs to be chosen for every baby. Maybe you can try soy formula?

I was taking care of few kids who every time they took dairy products they were constipated. Doctors prescribed all kids of medication to no help. People rely too much on doctors. Try to find out what is father giving to your baby. Try to give baby home made carrot juice. It helps to go.

Kelly - posted on 10/19/2009

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I bet his father is giving him regular cow's milk. That can cause constipation in little ones also.

Heather - posted on 10/19/2009

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I have found another doctor and have an appointment on wednesday, they got me in right away which is great. I did explain to them my issue in a round about way and my goal when I go in there is to fix the constipation problem by finding out what is causing it (even though I have a pretty good idea). That way they will did in to it and not only prove it is formula but prove it is not my breastmilk or anything I am doing. When I get that information I can take him back to court and ask for supervised or no visitation. Because it is court issued visitation, I am contempt of court if I deny him his visitation without proof. Howver, when I prove he is causing him harm by feeding him formula, he is in contempt of court. Then I can ensure that this does not continue because he will not be alone with him. ---I wanted to say that because some of you said stop taking him there or go back to court for supervised visitation since I have full custody--sadly its not that easy. Thankfully, we have a guardian ad litem and when I get my proof I can call her and she will get this back into court immediatly instead of it taking weeks like normal. I wil also be able to stop taking him to visitation before the court date because I have the proof to say he is causing him harm so contempt of court does not apply. I really dont like the court system, its way too confusing. Hopefully things go up from here.

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I SAY TAKE HIM TO THE ER SINCE DR &NURSE`S CAN TEST HIM THERE AND CAN REPORT YOUR EX TO DPS ALSO .THIS WAY ITS NO FILE AUTOMATICALLY .TO THE FAMILY COURT YOU DEAL WITH .YOU MAY NEED TO GET YOUR MOM TO GO WITH YOU TO BACK YOU SINCE GRANDPARENTS HAVE RIGHTS AS WELL.

Elise - posted on 10/19/2009

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Switch doctors. Every new doctor I have ever called has gotten us in that day. You're doctor can be sued for what he has said to you. I am so sorry you are going through this!

Laura - posted on 10/19/2009

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I totaly believe it is the Formula with Iron. And if you have full custoday then deny Visitation to the father. Let him have to take you back to court. Unless he is rolling in money I doubt you will see a judge. I hope you do find another Dr. And when you do don't mention to him about your court case. Just tell him you need a note for your job stating that you need to break every 1 1/2 to breast feed and take that with you next time you do go to court. I know it is a lie you would be telling the Dr. but if it works it won't be hurting anyone, only Helping your son.

Mary Ellen - posted on 10/19/2009

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yeah sweetie you are doing the right thing, i would really suggest supervised visitation with the dad.the baby can tell and feel how he is that is why he cries when hes with him and that he doesnt like him.all kids do that when they dont like someone.I would strongly suggest you tell the court to start getting supervised visitations with baby because it sounds like hes giving him more then what hes supposto, and that isnt right.I think he needs to be supervised with the baby.and all breastfeeding consultants are different, same with mid-wives.they all will tell you different.Formula is as good as breastmilk.idk where she got off telling you that it wasnt.both my boys cutt themselfs off when they were 6-7 months old.my daughter breastfed till she was a year and a half.soo every child varies by how they feel, but formula isnt as bad as she makes it, call around in the different places for the breastfeeding hotline and also talk to different mid-wives and they will tell you the same.if you want to talk more just email me on my fb and i will send you my email addy soo we can talk on yahoo or msn if you have any more questions or anything ok sweetie?

Kylie - posted on 10/19/2009

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stress can cause constipation.this happened with my daughter.maybe your baby is getting stressed with the dif environment or being away from u or something his father is doing

Jenny - posted on 10/19/2009

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How dare that doctor talk crap to you and i understand your frustration with the father my daughters father is the same a complete dick who thinks he knows everything i could write all day about him, First change your doctor Today what a dick how dare he say it does not matter so angry with him find another doctor and dont worry if he hears the word court if he does his job right he wont have to worry and go back to court keep times and dates of what is happening etc and he,s too young to stay over night with his father so only visitation with someone else with him social worker etc, i do hope this gets sorted but i know with mindless doctors and careless fathers it will take a while, let us know how you get on hun x

Gabrielle - posted on 10/19/2009

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Quoting Heather:



Quoting Adriana:

I just read more of the posts, and I'm not sure how to help with the baby's father. If he is not cooperating with your requests and you have primary custody, I would invlove your lawyer. Best of luck to you and your child!






Thank you , i am talkin to my lawyer but he needs proof from a doctor to make the judge believe me.  Its his word against mine right now





Hi Heather,



 



Can i just say you poor thing.  It is no fun having a bub that is constipated let alone everything else that you are obviously going through.  Sounds like the father is trying to control you by not listening to the court order. I really hope that you can get the proof to take back to the lawyer as the baby's father should have the baby's best interest at heart and sounds like he doesn't.  I hope you find a good doctor who will do an allergy test.  It wouldn't be the breast milk as that is rare and they are going to have other allergies as well.  Plus you would have noticed within the first few weeks.  If formula was as good why do all the signs in the hospitals and advice given say that 'Breast is Best'.  Stick to your guns!!!



 



All the best. 

Maggie - posted on 10/18/2009

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FIND ANOTHER DR!!! This fool thinks formula and breast milk are the same? What an idiot! Try to get the court to only allow visitation while you are there. That way there's no way formula can be given. It's so sad the baby has to suffer because of ignorant people! Try prunes and apple juice for the constipation

Kristy - posted on 10/18/2009

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My doctor had me use an OTC medication called Little Tummy Laxative Drops. It worked wonders for my son. Hope this helps.

Adell - posted on 10/18/2009

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I would videotape your son whenever he comes home from his dad's. Starting from as soon as you pick him up to as soon as he goes again. That's the only way to prove how the constipation is affecting your son's well-being. In court, rather than taking away visitation, ask for supervised visitation. That way, if while supervised, your son's father does not feed him formula, but your son still becomes constipated, you'll know that something else is causing the constipation. And, of course, if your son's father is stupid enough to feed your son formula during a supervised visit, well, I'm pretty sure the courts will be able to take care of that. Best of luck to you!

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I forgot to add that UNICEF and the World Health Organisation supports breastfeeding up until age 2 and beyond.

http://www.unicef.org/programme/breastfe...

Your physician sounds like an incompetent idiot who should be fired for not recognising the benefits of breastfeeding and mocks your good judgment when the World Health Organisation CLEARLY underlines that it is VITAL for children's health.

Please keep us posted on how your son is doing and what progress you've made in getting that asshole to stop abusing your son's health. The more formula he is giving your son, the less likely he will want to breasfeed after becoming 'full' on it. Thus, your body produces less milk for the diminished demand, and soon you may not be breastfeeding at all! Get that man stopped! He must stop!

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Look up in the telephone directory for your nearest La Leche League breastfeeding help organisation or find a branch nearest you by going online to:



http://www.llli.org/webindex.html



They also talk to physicians who may be ignorant of the health benefits to baby and mother.



http://www.llli.org/ab.html?m=1 (see middle of page, right column!)



No way is formula any substitute for breastmilk! There are so many as yet unidentified substances in breastmilk and the mother's antibodies make her child strong and able to withstand illnesses. La Leche League may be able to give you some advice on how to deal with the asshole that is your child's dad. A private investigator could video or bug his home. I am being serious. If that asshole is damaging your child's health, you have EVERY RIGHT to find out about it. Don't let ANYONE treat you like you are crazy and dismiss your concerns. That asshole 'father' needs to get busted. He is neglecting your child's wellbeing!!!

Corallee - posted on 10/18/2009

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Hi, wow sorry to hear all that, your son doesn't deserve to be going through this. My daughter (now 21months) has had constipation problems from 1 month old, so I know how hard it is to watch them struggle with it. I have what they call crones desease and they told me it couldn't be passed on to her, but looks as though it has. This can be controlled by diet and lots of fruit - and the fruit works magic with my daughter - but god help us if she doesn't have it. I have also had her in hospital with constipation a few times and "off the record" was told to give her 'Actilax' (Lactulose solution) which can be used on babies from about 4 months. You get it from the chemist over the counter. This works for her when she is really bad, but agian not a permanent solution as they can become dependant on it. My tip - as I tried everything!! - puree fruit - pears seem to work the best for my little one and incorporate this into the diet also. It doesn't really help the rest of your situation - but it may help your little boy find some relief.....

Heather - posted on 10/18/2009

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Quoting Mary Ellen:

I have breastfed three kids soo i know all about breastfeeding..It does sound like hes givign him formula and i would seek another doctors advise.that is what is makeing him constipated..what kind of ceareal and baby food is he eating during the day? and what kind and what type...did you introduce it to him one fruit at a time for one week then another the next week? starting them on food that early will do it to him but also sometimes its in need espically when they breastfeed atlot at that age..the dad needs to stop what hes doing or else hes going to confuse the baby and if that heppens he wont try to breastfeed from you.try the sugar water and less different types of food during the day, try one at a time and then go fm there and see which ones he has probs with digesting n write them down..ot ir might be what he is feeding him and doesnt want to tell you..id seek legal advise to on that..my 10 month old is eating table food and is on formula now, he use to have those probs too..try the mineral oil it works wonders too!! IT makes em go theyre business!! Just put a cpl teaspoons in hi sbottle and wait for it to kick in and then he'll go...it sounds liek the father doesnt need to be left alone with the baby and he needs to be supervised while visiting the baby..


Yes my doctor told me awhile ago to introduce one food at a time and no new foods for three days.  The majority of his new foods were givin before visitations started and he was okay will all of them.  After he started getting constipated, I would only give him new foods when his father would nothave him for three days so I knew it was not the food I was giving him.   (thats when he got him for 2 days a week).  Now that he gets him 3 days a week, I got a list form the hospital of foods that help with constipation or at least dont make it worse and I only feed him those now.  Im scared to try new foods because i dont want him worse.  He gets oatmeal some mornings mixed with breastmilk.  I tried him on rice when he was 4 months old but it made him VERY constipated.  So he has been on oatmeal since 4 months.  I do not give him any food besides breastmilk before and after visitation days to try to help cuz i know breastmilk has low waste volumn.  Yes my lactation consultant is very worried that my son will wean himself because of the circumstances.  He stil has not bonded with his father and screams when I give him to his father until I get him back.  Plus the bottle feeding can cause issues too.  I try not to think about that happening though.  I cant fix everything.  Thats the courts job.  All I can do is tell them whats going on and hope someone will start listening,

Heather - posted on 10/18/2009

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Quoting Susan:

Heather please change the heading to your post so moms will quit giving you the karo syrup suggestion! Constipation is not really what you need help with. Although the Mirolax is what my sons doctor has us on and it does work. I am shocked that the court ordered water only when with his dad! At this young age he needs either the breast milk or formula for proper brain developement! You do not want him to only get water! Please keep a clear mind in all of this. You do want what is best for the baby and that is you when he is with you and formula when he is with his dad. Proving his dad is giving him formula will do nothing but prove he is a fit parent! Regardless of constipation since that can easily be fixed with Mirolax. If this goes to court again a new judge will likely look further into this and rule that "water only" was an unfit judgement and detrimental to the health of the child. If you keep trying to cram the "water or me" only down the dad's throat you may end up losing your child under a child endangerment ruling so please be careful! No judge is going to allow you to run over to breast feed every hour and a half while visiting his dad, it's crazy. Please don't appear like you are not all there because it sounds that way in your posts. Not trying to be ugly, seriously I'm not but you obviously need some real help and all these posts taling about karo syrup are just worthless. HANG IN THERE!



the only reason the court ordered him to give him water was if he was fussy, he was supposed to call me to breastfeed him because he would not properly feed him before.  The court has ruled that he is to not feed him ANYTHING.  Lets keep in mind that why i was supplying him breastmilk, he refused to feed it to his son.  Giving formula to an exclusively breastfed baby is not being a good parent.  I have a breastfeeding consultant who verified this in court.  The answer to this problem is not letting him keep putting formula in him, making him constipated, and then me having to give him other crap to make him poop.  And well the jusge ordered me to stay in the area to feed my son when he is hungry because that was the only way to ensure my son was not getting formula or anything else.  Howver, his dad does not want to call me and is still givingit to him.  He knows it makes him constipated as I have been telling him for 2 months now.  No one will take my son from me, I supplied breastmilk for every visit and now I sit near his house in my car for two hours so that my son can be fed properly.  Not to mention, I raised my son five months by myself and he had not even had a cold.    But yes i agree i really dont need any info about karo syrup.  However, mirolax is not the answer either, the answer is stopping the source of constipation so that it does not happen in the first place.   Im not trying to be rude her either I am just so sick of everyone (not you guys) not listening to me and telling me who cares if he is constipated.  I do want whats best for my son thats why I am fighting so hard to stop him from  getting constipated.  Everyone needs to enderstand that he is constipated 3 times a week.  I have to unconstipate him 3 times a week.  This is not healthy for his digestive tract.  And lets remember some babies cant handle formula at all no matter what kind.  My son cant handle rice cereal either. 

Mary Ellen - posted on 10/18/2009

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I have breastfed three kids soo i know all about breastfeeding..It does sound like hes givign him formula and i would seek another doctors advise.that is what is makeing him constipated..what kind of ceareal and baby food is he eating during the day? and what kind and what type...did you introduce it to him one fruit at a time for one week then another the next week? starting them on food that early will do it to him but also sometimes its in need espically when they breastfeed atlot at that age..the dad needs to stop what hes doing or else hes going to confuse the baby and if that heppens he wont try to breastfeed from you.try the sugar water and less different types of food during the day, try one at a time and then go fm there and see which ones he has probs with digesting n write them down..ot ir might be what he is feeding him and doesnt want to tell you..id seek legal advise to on that..my 10 month old is eating table food and is on formula now, he use to have those probs too..try the mineral oil it works wonders too!! IT makes em go theyre business!! Just put a cpl teaspoons in hi sbottle and wait for it to kick in and then he'll go...it sounds liek the father doesnt need to be left alone with the baby and he needs to be supervised while visiting the baby..

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Heather please change the heading to your post so moms will quit giving you the karo syrup suggestion! Constipation is not really what you need help with. Although the Mirolax is what my sons doctor has us on and it does work. I am shocked that the court ordered water only when with his dad! At this young age he needs either the breast milk or formula for proper brain developement! You do not want him to only get water! Please keep a clear mind in all of this. You do want what is best for the baby and that is you when he is with you and formula when he is with his dad. Proving his dad is giving him formula will do nothing but prove he is a fit parent! Regardless of constipation since that can easily be fixed with Mirolax. If this goes to court again a new judge will likely look further into this and rule that "water only" was an unfit judgement and detrimental to the health of the child. If you keep trying to cram the "water or me" only down the dad's throat you may end up losing your child under a child endangerment ruling so please be careful! No judge is going to allow you to run over to breast feed every hour and a half while visiting his dad, it's crazy. Please don't appear like you are not all there because it sounds that way in your posts. Not trying to be ugly, seriously I'm not but you obviously need some real help and all these posts taling about karo syrup are just worthless. HANG IN THERE!

Angela - posted on 10/18/2009

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little brown sugar in a baby botttle with warm boiled water should help it through

Stacy - posted on 10/17/2009

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Kayro syrupe can have a taste your child wont like. I used epermint water. I took a little peice of pepermint and let the water desolve it, and my son liked it, and it seemed to help.

Firebird - posted on 10/17/2009

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Oh I forgot to mention, when you get an allergy test done also tell the doc you suspect he's getting too much iron and ask them to check baby's iron level, that should be able to tell you if he is getting too much.

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Really the only advice for you I think is just keep searching for a doctor who will help you.... when you go to make appointments with new doctors, if you mention you're concerned about your infant having allergies, it might get you in sooner. If dad's not following the rules maybe push the courts for supervised visits with the father? I don't know if you'll need a doctor's note for that.... wish I could be more helpful. Good luck.

Haley - posted on 10/17/2009

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water !!! i know if your breastfedding now they tell you no water but my advice is water or a few drops of coloxal drops if its really bad mixed with a small amount of water works almost instantly but use sparingly.

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I know a lot of people are saying prun and apple juice and they both work wonderfully for the constipation, however, so do grapes! I know he's not old enough to eat them but perhaps just the fresh juice will work as well. And as far and the spitting up, it's propably just reflux. My daughter had it really bad and little did I know, she was milk protein intollerent. If his dad refuses to stop gibing him formula suggest that he try giving him soy instead.



Good luck with everything and hang in there...things will get better.

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First have evidence,is the babys daddy taking breast feed milk ready in a baby bottle,if his not yes hes feeding the baby formula and yes the formula contipte lots of babies, firsgive the dessert of plums evryday and make sure he drink at least 6 ounces of water, all babies need to drink some water that should work. good luck

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Constipated baby and no one will help

ok my son is almost seven months old. I started him on cereal when he was 3 months and started fruits and veggies once a day at 4 months. He still only gets 2 meals a day that are not breastmilk. I ONLY breastfeed him, i do not give him any formula. His father started to get him for visitation. I was sending expressed breastmilk. This started back in October. He had him for 4 visits and he came home constipated the last 2 times. He did not have him for a month in which my son was not constipated anymore. One resuming visitation in september, my son was constipated again after every visitation (2x a wk). His clothes were coming back stained and the bottles were coming back smellng disgusting. I came to the conclusion that he was feeding him formula. I asked him many times to stop and tried to explain how my son was haivng trouble digesting it. He was also spitting up a lot of yellow which he had never done before. I must note that none of the fruits or veggies or cereal had caused any of this when he was not going to his fathers. His father refused to admit he was giving him anything and my son continued to come back constipated. I had to take him to the hospital one night where they confirmed his constipation and gave him a suppository to help him out. We went to court and the court ordered that he not feed him anything but water and that i stay in the area to be called upon if my son was hungry so i could breastfeed. Well he has had him 3 times so far and every time i have picked up my son, he is not hungry. My son eats every hour and a half at LEAST. he is a snacker i guess you could say. He is still constipated and still comign home with stained clothes that smell like formula and spitting up yellow. So where is his DR in all of this??? I have tired to talk to him about how to help out my son but he refuses to talk to me since i mentioned it was a court issue. He tells me that my breastmilk is the cause of the constipation and who cares what color he spits up. he said its only another 6 months that he will be breastfed anyways so its no big deal. He also said that only 1 in 10 women strictly breastfeed so its not big deal if he is given formula. He said i need to start getting along with his father and stop trying to make up things. He also told me to find another doctor if i did not like what he said. He told me that breast milk is no better that formula so who cares what he gives him. I was very upset because I knwo when something is wrong with my son and im the one that has to watch him cry and scream for hours to push out hard dark poop. I never tried to take visitation from his father but he has been told many times to stop giving him formula and now its a court order and he still wont follow it. I KNOW he is giving him formula but my lawyer says i need a dr statement saying he is being given formula before it can be taken care of. Well....that is a problem considering what his doctor thinks about it. He wont even look at anything cept for connors height and weight. I obvioulsy need another doctor but im afraid that once that doctor hears the word "court" they will do the same thing. Im trying to find somewhere to get his poop tested to prove its formula but i dont know if thats possible. I need help to stop him from feeding him formula and causing him pain. This has gone on for far too long. Just today i had to give him a suppository because he was straining and yelling on and off from 10am to 4:40pm when i gave it to him. He goes back to his fathers tomorrow and it will start all over again. Oh yeah, his father is trying to tell me that im eating something to make my breastmilk cause him to be sick when he goes to visitations. He also says i dont feed him enough.....but like i said,.....he doesnt call me to come feed him. I really dont know what to do. Im tired of my baby suffering, im tired of the stained clothes, and im tired of him lying to me. Im also tired because my son is not sleeping well anymore either, he wakes up screaming bloody murder instead of just quietly crying for me to come get him. Sometimes i have trouble getting him to eat when he is constipated. He also hits himself with his toys when constipated. How can his doctor tell me to get this out of my head??? and what can i do to prove whats going on ASAP to get this crap stopped. Please do not tell me to talk to his father about it again, i have politely asked him over and over again and he just says its my fault and denies it. Although he does say he has the right to feed my son whatever he wants to because he is the father. However, he does not have any rights because i have full custody and he has nothing but visitation rightnow PLEASE HELP

*****in response to some of the things you guys have written, he is almost 7 months old, and I do give him suppositories when he is constipated. Howver they are not supposed to be given a lot because they can create dependence on them. I have tried the juice, water, ect. and nothing seems to fix the constipation except the suppositories. I was unsure about stool samples because i have taken them to his DR before and they told me they couldnt do anything and laughed at it. Now I know i can get something like that done. Monday morning I will be contacting other doctors to get appointments. Howver, with new patients some take forever to get you in, is there a way i can get stool and allergy testing done without a doctors referral???? The allergy thing seems to make a lot of sense to me. If not allergies then I believe it is the extra iron from the formula because the stool is very dark.
As soon as I have proof from another doctor about what is really wrong with my son.....and my son is better again, I will be reporting his old doctor. Not that i hold a grudge, but no other mother should have to go through this.

Thank you everyone for your ideas and thoughts.


 

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My son had constipation from the time he was born. We tried so many different formulas without much help. A couple of things that did help was the "cocktail". It is one third prune juice, one third juicy juice punch flavored, one third applejuice. We used it daily for a couple of months when he was around 10 or 11 months old. He's five and he still gets a cocktail a couple times of week. When he was a baby the only way we could get him to have a bowel movement was to take him to the changing table when he would cry with abdominal pain and remove his diaper and hold his legs up while he pooped. Sounds crazy but it worked. Hang in there. I know its hard. Makes you feel helpless for the little ones.

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From the looks of it, u have gotten enough suggestions about the physical problem; however, I would suggest u call ur pediatrician first before using any. The second is more critical --the child's father. If u have an attorney in regard 2 child custody, talk with him/her about father's apparent dosregard 4 health & well-being of ur child. Even a case worker may be able 2 help u. Good luck! God bless!

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I have read a few of the post and seen the karo syrup.. that helped my daughter out ALOT, prunes yes, but try this.. it seems weird but when he first comes home from dads...start doing these things and don't wait... but you can try when his belly starts hurting laying him on a warm running dryer..vibrations and warm help...or laying the baby on your bare tummy to his bare tummy.. too...its weird but it does work.
as for the rest... yea start calling other Dr.. that is totally crazy.. sounds like he is friends with the dad or something

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prune juice works great ....different water will cause constipation as well..going from town water and well water just a sugestion maybe try just bottled water....formula should be ok for ur son the kind hes drinking might be the problem...too much iron will not help out in ur sitution with constipation.....i had to switch formulas for my son due to the iron amount in certain formulas..good luck

Ashley - posted on 10/17/2009

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My son, who is now almost 5 had the same problem and is actually has to take a laxative everyday. When he was old enough as a baby I had to feed him prunes, applesauce and juice. I put karo syrup in his bottles and I even had to give him enemas (in the bath). I hated it, but I couldn't let him scream and be in pain forever.



As for the father, go for sole custody and supervised visitation until your son is older. The doctor, get a new one.



Hope this helps

Stephaine - posted on 10/17/2009

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I know you want to breastfeed but you should get the dad if possible to put him on a gentle formula like enfamil nutramigen. my 5 month old also had trouble going but when she started this formula her poop comes out runny. i like it better runny then hard.

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I know this is going to sound weird because doctors think they know it all and want you there 80 times for the money. When my 5 year old was 8 months she was very constipated to the point where she passed out while pushing. I did an old trick where i gave her a warm bath and shaved off a piece of soap from a bar of soap and stuck the piece of soap up her rectum about 1/4 inch. After that she went and i had to do this a few times when she got like that. Soap is not going to hurt your child because that is what is in an enema.. Good luck. If no result i would go to the hospital as soon as possible.

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Karo syrup or my pediatrician use to tell me that I could take the bulb syringe and fill it with warm ( sm amt of soap ) and give them a enema, and that work as well.

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Wow that is so sad :( I can't believe the father would do something that would cause the baby discomfort. If I thought for a second something that I was doing was causing my son to be constipated I would immediatly stop. First, switch doctors. You don't even have to give an explanation, they are there to serve you, not the other way around. Next, ask for an allergy test, say that you suspect he may be allergic to formula. If that comes back positive then you need to go back to court. If not, then maybe it is just the fact that he is going back and forth between breastmilk and formula in an erratic way. I nursed and supplemented with formula. My son always got a even amount of both on a regular schedule. (I just couldn't produce enough milk to nurse alone) Maybe that's why it didn't bother him. Either way, occasional constipation doesn't seem like a big deal but what you are describing is a big deal. When my son or nephew were having trouble pooping we put them in one of those vibrating baby chairs and it seemed to help. I don't think I head anyone else mention that one. But, the other methods mentioned are supposed to help too. Good luck! I hope you are able to get this figured out. BTW...that Dr. is a jerk!

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Hello, have you tried Karo syrup in a bottle of juice or in with his cereal? If you take and add about 1-2 tablespoons to even the milk,then he should be ablr to go without being constipation.You can also make sure he is relaxed before he tries to have a bowel movement..You can massage his lower back and his tummy before you think he has a bowel movement.hope this helps,you can add more each time till you egt the right amount for it to become loose.

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Quoting Adriana:

I just read more of the posts, and I'm not sure how to help with the baby's father. If he is not cooperating with your requests and you have primary custody, I would invlove your lawyer. Best of luck to you and your child!



Thank you , i am talkin to my lawyer but he needs proof from a doctor to make the judge believe me.  Its his word against mine right now

Carla - posted on 10/17/2009

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Quoting Heather:

Constipated baby and no one will help




When my daughter was youngers she is 8 months now. I would give her prune juice or feed her some kinda berry. We also use stool softeners for babies they make her go to the bathroom pretty fast if constipated. Have you tried talking to her doctor it might be her formula that is making her constipated. My daughter had acid reflux and we would get constipated until we got her on the right formula. I have hear some not good things about karo syrup, I know older generation used to give ti to there kids but I would not.

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I just read more of the posts, and I'm not sure how to help with the baby's father. If he is not cooperating with your requests and you have primary custody, I would invlove your lawyer. Best of luck to you and your child!

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First off, limit the things that can make your baby constipated - bananas, Vitamin suppliments that contain Iron, those sorts of things. Make sure your child is drinking enough fluids and increase foods with high water content like applesauce, mashed prunes, you get the idea. Also apple juice is great to help those stools going again, but do not give it straight. Dilute 50% with water. Hope this helps! Every little one gets constipated every now and again, but if it goes on for 2 days or more, call your pediatrician.

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when my son was constipated i used baby suppositories just cut on in half the long way and use ky lub and after u insert it make sure u put a diaper on right away and wait a few minutes u will know when its working :)

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