Father trouble

Kelsey - posted on 02/01/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi! I am new to the group and need some help. I left my husband over a year ago for being severely emotionally and mentally abusive. We have a 6 yr old boy together..I have always had problems with him and his family talking bad about me to my son, calling me a bit** and trying to turn him against me. My ex is still very mean to me. I had to get a restraining order against him for harassing me and blackmailing me... He is very very negative and extremely hard to deal with.. I do not want him in my life at all- my son before I left was very moody, upset all the time.. After we left he got happy and people noticed..no felt bad because I want my son to have his dad in his life so started letting him see him again.. He is not as happy again. I don't know If it is best to keep him away from our son or not- his dad is constantly saying bad things to me- he would flick me off in front of our son when I would drop him oFf.. He is telling people I am on drugs and my son is in a bad home and needs to be removed.. This is not true but hurts in a small town.. I currently have full physical and legal custody. My ex has not had a job nor paid a dime in child support. I want my son to be in his dad's life but I hate it when he goes there... I feel it's hurting him more with the mind games.. The constant negativity and swearing.. I have anxiety attacks when he goes there wondering what they are saying to him... Tonight my son came home crying because my ex told him he would be having surgery and may die so I should let him come over again.... Please please advise.. I feel like I am going crazy.. My mom and friends absolutely do not want my ex in my sons life and I don't either.. But what is right??


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Jodi - posted on 02/01/2015




What do your court orders say about visitation?

The fact that your son cried because he was concerned about his dad (and no, what he told him isn't okay, but clearly your son loves his dad). If you decide to cut his father out of his life, he may not forgive you and you have to be prepared for that. He will blame you (your son) that his dad was never in his life if you take that choice upon yourself.

Maybe consider getting your son some counselling and get some advice from that perspective too.

Ana Cristina - posted on 02/01/2015




In this moment you need to be very strong, and put your heart in another place.first the kid,they need trust,joy,peace,love,play,they need to be only children.he need to grown in
another place,a new begin for you and him.think in that,Life is not easy but with love and calm we always give big steps.You no what is the best for him.fall your heart and do what you have to do.

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