Kelsey - posted on 02/01/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )
Hi! I am new to the group and need some help. I left my husband over a year ago for being severely emotionally and mentally abusive. We have a 6 yr old boy together..I have always had problems with him and his family talking bad about me to my son, calling me a bit** and trying to turn him against me. My ex is still very mean to me. I had to get a restraining order against him for harassing me and blackmailing me... He is very very negative and extremely hard to deal with.. I do not want him in my life at all- my son before I left was very moody, upset all the time.. After we left he got happy and people noticed..no felt bad because I want my son to have his dad in his life so started letting him see him again.. He is not as happy again. I don't know If it is best to keep him away from our son or not- his dad is constantly saying bad things to me- he would flick me off in front of our son when I would drop him oFf.. He is telling people I am on drugs and my son is in a bad home and needs to be removed.. This is not true but hurts in a small town.. I currently have full physical and legal custody. My ex has not had a job nor paid a dime in child support. I want my son to be in his dad's life but I hate it when he goes there... I feel it's hurting him more with the mind games.. The constant negativity and swearing.. I have anxiety attacks when he goes there wondering what they are saying to him... Tonight my son came home crying because my ex told him he would be having surgery and may die so I should let him come over again.... Please please advise.. I feel like I am going crazy.. My mom and friends absolutely do not want my ex in my sons life and I don't either.. But what is right??