father trying to fight custudy and never been around in 11 years

Diane - posted on 03/14/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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hello well to start off my son father was sent to child support because i needed help from welfare.he has never seen my son in 11 years last time he seen him was when he was 6 months old never supported my son and now to get me back he is putting a petition for DNA and visitation rights.im like are u kidding me he is only doing this because he got a court letter otherwise he wouldnt move a finger.i want him away from my son and dont want anything from him my son has add socoal anxiety depression and then he wants to come now no i cant let this happen what can i do i have a court date on the 28 of march help please.my dad wants to adopt my son since my son has seen my dad since he was born that boy is my life.he was 24 when i was 16 and he got me pregnant him n his mother wanted me to get an abortion and i said no and of course my mother.please helppppppppp i cant sleep just thinking this guy can be around my bb

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/14/2014

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I agree...I don't think there should be a statute of limitations on DNA testing!

Hubby's ex didn't want support until he married me...and I had no problems with him paying it, except he had questions. And, being naive at the time of his relationship with her, he didn't realize that he could have asked for a test at their divorce. Fast forward...when we were married the child was 7, we asked for a DNA test when mom filed support and were told that, since her 7th birthday had passed the statue of limitations was up.

So, basically, we paid...full 18 years of support...for a kid that we later found out thru a private test was not even his.

Jodi - posted on 03/14/2014

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See, I think the statute of limitations should go both ways. If you want to claim support after 11 years, then why shouldn't he want to meet him after 11 years?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/14/2014

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Well, to start, if you are in the US, a DNA test at this point may not be possible, unless they've changed the statute of limitations on that. It used to be that the statute of limitations on paternity was 7 years. If, in the first 7 years it wasn't questioned, it is considered to be his child. But, as I said, the statute of limitations could have changed.

Regardless of whether or not he's been involved previously, if you want support, he will be considered for visitation at the very least. And, he does have every right to ask for that, if he's the kids father.

If you can provide valid proof that his associating with his son will be detrimental or harmful to the boy, then you could ask for any visitation to be supervised.

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