Fathers son wants to return after being absent 11 years

Whitney - posted on 07/07/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My sons father wants to now be apart of my sons life. I've allowed then to talk on the phone for the last week. Hes been saying things like well maybe not this summer but next summer you can come and stay with me. I asked him to not have conversations like that with him because he has autistic spectrum disorder so he doesn't fully understand and he hears hes going to live with his dad. I expressed this to him and his father told me basically to f*** off and he would talk to his son about whatever he wants because hes being real with him and telling the truth and he doesn't trust me about my son having autism because he doesn't have medical record proof. Hes never paid child support, is in debt to me $4,000 and i thought i was being nice about letting them talk to each other since his dad is the one who chose to stay away all these years. Ever since I let them start talking all he does is boss me around and is extremely rude and brings up all of mine and his past. Should I just take this to court and stop letting my son and him speak? idk what to do. i took my son away when he was 2 months old because of the life style his fathers family and himself chose to live. Drugs, lies, going to jail all the time, my son was 2 months premature and they wouldnt stop smoking around him, his dad being arrested, cheating on me and the fights that happened. I left to have a better life.

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Dove - posted on 07/07/2016

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If he's been awarded supervised visitations... you would need to go to court to get that amended even though it's been 10 years... OR... you could let the father know that supervised visitations means he can talk to his son on speaker phone and if he keeps bringing up topics that upset your son... the conversation is over.

If he wants to challenge that then let him be the one to take you back to court and explain to the judge why he hasn't bothered to see or contact his child in almost 11 years.

If he is talking you to about topics from the past... hang up the phone. That is the beauty of phone contact. You always have the power to hang up and ignore the calls.

Imyourangel1978 - posted on 07/07/2016

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I just want to say I'm proud of you mama for continuing to raise and support your son despite the father's bad choices. Don't feel guilty over trying to do the right thing for him and if the father doesn't like it, then let him go to court and do the necessary actions to be apart of his sons life again! I been a single mom for over 14 years with my girls and their father never supported them and was sporadically a part of their life when it suited him. It's sad that the kids are the ones that suffer bc of it. But keep your head up, follow your gut instinct as a mom, love on your child and STAY strong 😊

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Whitney - posted on 07/07/2016

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we went to court and in 11/06 i was awarded sole legal and physical custody. He was awarded supervised visitation and to pay me $30 a month in child support because even though i had refused it Michigan law had to make him pay something and that was the minimal amount being we could prove he was working since he was getting under the table pay. After that he disappeared, just was gone. Every two or three years Ive sent him pictures of our son and emails through FB and he never responds, hes spoken to him a few times through the years and after about a week of talking to him he just vanishes again.

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