Fear of having another boy?

Nicole - posted on 04/29/2010 ( 70 moms have responded )

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I am the only girl of 4 children and last year I gave birth to a little boy, I was disappointed that I didn't have a girl but I love my son to death. I am pregnant again, and I really want a girl and I am afraid of having another boy. I have nothing against boys but I fear that I will never have the chance to share the things that a mother can share with a daughter. What makes it worse is that my boyfriend has decided that because I named our first son, if it is a boy he has decided on naming him and I will have no say. He wants to name the child Kermit Lester-Scott...I HATE the name kermit...he says that it is a family name and yes both his great-grandfather and uncle are named Kermit (ewwe) I have posed the alternative of picking a different first name and using kermit as a middle name and he wont have it, his family is proud me and mine cringe at the idea. I don't know what to do. My son is named after my great-grandfather but the namesake is in the middle...what should I do?

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Alison - posted on 04/29/2010

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Payback? Sounds like you folks need some intervention. If your husband is not willing to negotiate on the name, there are some fundamental issues in your marriage that need some tending to. If he wasn't involved in naming your first son wouldn't that be his fault?
Having another boy should be the least of your worries. If you cannot restore a mutual love and respect in your marriage, your son's name will be of little importance.

Medic - posted on 04/30/2010

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I would love to know how your husband can convince you to have a boy before a girl....just wondering...and why on earth would you need to get used to the idea of having a boy or a girl...there are lots of women who would give anything to have a child and not care either way so shouldn't those of us who have a child and the lucky ones that have more than one healthy child just be happy that your kids are healthy and happy. I mean how would you feel if your mom told you that she was disapointed that you were a girl and didn't even want to think about it.

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If this guy is so controlling about a name, I worry about what he'll feel about major issues! Don't let that happen - it's time to stand up to him NOW and show him you're just as strong! He's showing no consideration for you and his child. Tell him you're the mother, you get to fill in the birth certificate, and leave the boyfriend's name off it! Remind him how much that poor kid will be teased!
At least he's not thinking of "A boy named Sue!"

Hope things work out - I wanted a boy on 3 occasions, but I ended up with 3 girls!

Nyssa - posted on 05/01/2010

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Point out to him that your 1st born also has a namesake, and it is the middle name, so why can't this one be in the middle also? It would make it more "even" since that is how your boyfriend is making it seem.

Deborah - posted on 04/29/2010

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When i had my two children my partner and i couldn`t agree on names for either of them so for my first daughter my partner chose her first name and i chose the middle name and it was vice versa for my other daughter! try to get him to compromise and perhaps use Kermit as a middle name imstead! Having got two girls i`d have gladly swapped my youngest for a boy but i guess i`m stuck with her and both girls are completely different and only one of them is girly like!!

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Merry - posted on 08/27/2011

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So it's been over a year since this thread started, Nicole, what did you have? Boy or girl? What did you name the baby? Are you still with this boyfriend?.??

Linda - posted on 05/13/2010

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I had 3 girls. I was disappointed that I didn't have a boy because I wanted my husband to have a little boy, but he is happy with our 3 girls. They are wonderful, and he is wonderful with them. I found out with the third what I was having so I would know if I should buy boys clothes or not. As for naming the baby, it should be both of your decisions! If he insists on having kermit, then make it a middle name. The child can also go by the name he prefers when he is older. My younger brother was named Hans Douglas. He always went by Doug, even though is is otherwise on his birth certificate. My grandmother wanted me to name one of my girls her middle name, Marzette. I just didn't like the name, so I didn't, but my brother used the name with his little girl, as a middle name. It can all be worked out. These children are both of yours, and you need ot learn to compromise on the name. Good luck!

Danette - posted on 05/12/2010

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Just to add fuel to teh fire, Lester and Clyde is a popular book (I am in Australia) used in schools and they are frogs, so it would be a double frog name!
Good luck with this pregnancy and the naming. Sending pink vibes your way (I have two girls)

Shalon - posted on 05/12/2010

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Michelle Grant:

I totally agree with you. I could not have childern, and have adopted a wonderful healthy baby boy. We didn't know what he was till the day that he was born. And we didn';t care what it was as long as the baby was healthy and happy. And We are adopting another baby and it will be another boy, and we are so excited. We would have been just excited if it was a girl.

People should just be happy with what ever they are give.

Shalon - posted on 05/12/2010

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Well to start with you should be hoping for a healthy baby, not worring about wheather it is a boy or girl. As for the name I agree with you I wouldn't want that name to be the first one my first thought is Kermit the Frog.

Brianne - posted on 05/12/2010

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all i know is i am the one who received all the paperwork for the hospital which included the form i needed to fill out for the birth certificate. i would NEVER allow my child to be named Kermit..i understand it's a family name but if you are willing to compromise and use it as a middle name i think you are being VERY generous. you BOTH need to agree on a name, and like a lot of people have previously said, you need to think about the child. and your boyfriend shouldn't hold anything against you if you weren't together for your first sons birth. that's a little immature if you ask me .... good luck!

Danielle - posted on 05/12/2010

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I really wouldn't recommend douching, every gynecologist I've been to has been completely against it. I've heard about eating certain foods when trying to get pregnant in order to conceive a girl but when you get right down to it, the man's sperm is what carries the gender gene, it's not up to you.

Robyn - posted on 05/12/2010

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Tell him you would like to agree on the name. Maybe let him put one of his desired names as a middle name. Do you think they may be just joking with you? Or, or they really serious about the name. "Lester" is not a bad name, but "Kermit" I would have to agree with you 100%.



Also, if ever trying to have a girl, there are some factors to consider in the future.

II used a vinager and water douche while trying to conceive a girl. It worked for me!!! The vagina prefers one climate over the other when sex is determined. Google it later in a few years. "Determining the sex of your child with douching."

Danielle - posted on 05/12/2010

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Well for starters...you're the one going through 9 months of pregnancy, Lord only knows how many hours of labour, and then a painful delivery to boot. And your boyfriend has "decided" that he's naming your second son (if it is a boy) and that you will have NO say? I don't think so! I'd be telling him where to go! My fiance and I have a system worked out. Maybe you guys could try it, bring it up to your boyfriend and see how he feels about it. For our son, we both agreed on the first name, I got to pick the middle name, and he got my fiance's last name. I think that's pretty fair. Maybe in your case, if he's so completely stuck on Kermit (ew ew ew), you could both pick the first name together, and allow Kermit to be your son's middle name.

About being scared of having another boy, I think that's just an issue you'll have to work through but I can pretty much 100% guarantee you that once you deliver, if it is a boy, you'll fall in love so fast that you won't be nearly as disappointed as you think over not having a girl.

Vanessa - posted on 05/12/2010

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I completely understand how you feel. I have three boys and quite honestly I cried in the ultrasound with my latest boy, not because I was happy, but because I was devastated. I, too, love my little buddies, but I desperately want a little girl.

I think your boyfriend is being unreasonable about the whole name thing. It has to be a name that you both like and agree with. You may have chosen the first name, but is it a name that will forever haunt and create ridicule for your child? probably not.... Your poor child will be CONSTANTLY teased for that sort of name. and that is simple fact. l would sit down with him and seriously voice your concerns about that. It's your child too(even more-so) since you have to deal with him growing in your belly for 9 months.

Mary Jo - posted on 05/11/2010

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I understand your feelings about wanting a daughter. I have 4 sons. I didn't find out the sex with the first one but did with the others because I needed to grieve before their birth if they were boys. I cried each time in the dr.s office. My oldest will be 17 next week and my youngest is 6. For the most part you get over not having a daughter but it creeps in now and then. I've been feeling it lately with all the mother/daughter teas. It's not fair but we can't change it. I wanted the name Spencer for my first one and my husband hated the name. When we were told our 4th was another boy, he knew how upset I was so he said you can use the name Spencer. At least I got that!! Hang in there, I swear there is a special place in heaven for mothers with all boys!!

Melanii - posted on 05/10/2010

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Find out the sex as soon as you can so you can really enjoy picking out the right colour clothes!

Also, I don't know if this would work in your situation, but as for our kids they have my husbands last name, which truly carries on his family name, so I get the deciding vote when it comes to first names. That way the bub has something from both of you.

Good luck with your partner, men can get so weird about babies!!!!

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Krista....I was in no way trying to make Nicole feel bad,it is natural to want a baby to be the opposite sex to what you have but we cant make that happen,i just wanted to say to her to relax and go with the flow,of course i would never question her love for her child or unborn one bit and Nicole i would like to say i hope i didnt offend or upset you.I wish you the very best.

Krista - posted on 05/10/2010

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I think everybody needs to stop trying to make the OP feel bad for wanting to have a daughter. She's already said that it hasn't affected her feelings for her little boy -- she had just been hoping for a girl.

It's perfectly normal to feel momentarily disappointed -- if you envision having a girl, and you've got all of these plans and dreams thought up, and are picturing what she'll be like, it's almost as though she becomes real in your head. So when you find out it's a boy, in a way, you are kind of mourning the daughter that you'd fallen in love with. Plus, you then feel guilty and apologetic towards your poor little son. (Which is illogical, as it's not like your unborn baby knows what you're thinking, but who ever said pregnancy was logical, right?) So it's a real mixed bag of emotions, and it's perfectly normal.

What ISN'T good is when the baby's been born and the mother is letting her gender disappointment interfere with bonding with her baby. That's when it's time to give your head a shake and get over it, already. This obviously isn't the case with Nicole, so there's no need for people to be scolding her.

But yeah dude...Kermit. That's not good. But what's worse is the fact that your boyfriend is being a dictatorial peckerhead about the whole thing.

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We had 2 boys and I named BOTH of them! My husband's first name is the middle of our oldest, and mine (spelled differently) is the middle of our 2nd born. Why don't you name your 2nd born, if it is a boy, after his father who apparently is NOT a Kermit? Or I'd go with the other mums who said your namesake was in the middle. I wouldn't want to go around making fun of his family name either, but Kermit is a frog and all I can think of is lester the molester too :( Sad I know...

I too was sad when I found out my 2nd is a boy, but then I get to talk to all the folks who have daughters talking back to them and trying to leave the house in inappropriate clothes, and boyfriends and all the like and i am SOOO GLAD to have 2 boys!!! Things work out just as they are supposed to, you'll get over the disappointment if it's a boy, I sure did!

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quoting katie: "i wanted a girl first but my husband talked me into having a boy first " ... ??? is that even possible? im so confused?



and to all of you who were upset and disappointed that you had a boy: who the hell cares what the gender is? a boy is just as wonderful as a girl. i wanted a boy, but i had a girl, and you dont see me saying how upset i was because i wasnt. i was elated that i had a beautiful, healthy, happy baby. i didnt give a flying f--k whether it was a boy or a girl. and now im pregnant again, and again, i would love a boy. but if i have a girl instead, i'll be just as happy!



seriously, i dont know how you guys can even think those things, let alone write them down.



PS: Name your baby what you are comfortable with. If your boyfriend/fiance/husband, whatever doesnt like it, oh well. you gotta think of the baby, and how he's going to be treated when he gets a bit older and goes to school. thats it.

Phyllis - posted on 05/06/2010

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My husband wanted to name our son Gweebo Jafar. I almost left him over it.

Michelle - posted on 05/04/2010

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It really upsets me that people are this stressed out about the sex of their child. Do you know how lucky and privileged you are to even get pregnant in the first place?? here are so many people that would give anything to have a baby and they wouldn't care about the sex. Surely the only thing that matters is that you have a healthy and happy child.
In this case though I do hope for your child's sake that it is a girl as naming a child Kermit is just cruel!

Vicki - posted on 05/04/2010

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As a Mother of FIVE sons... I suggest, like one of your other posts, to find out ASAP the sex of the baby and deal with it. It is not fair to a healthy beautiful baby boy for his Mother to be disappointed on his birth.
I have never heard a "person" with the name, Kermit... I think of a green frog-who we all know and love. If you don't plan to use his given name.... why give it to him to begin with? He will hate it, too. I love family names, find another family name on his side, you can both be happy with.
I hope you have the daughter you are wanting. May all go smooth.

Vanesa - posted on 05/03/2010

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I can totally relate to you. I have 3 boys! I dont really want to have anymore kids but want the girl so bad. But i'm also scared if I go for the girl one more time it'll be another boy not to say I dont love my boys or wouldn't love my baby if it turned out to be a boy. I love my kids to death but there is still that little thought in my head on how much I want a girl. As far as the name I agree ewww but hey if you have to then all the power to you. Best of luck.

Christel - posted on 05/03/2010

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If I were you I would not worry about the name just yet! Because it could still be a girl many times the doctor is wrong! And for the Name I would not use it I frankly never would let my husband or boyfriend name my child because you do all the work to have this little bundle of joy and when they cry the Dads are no where to be found! and when they are growing the dads are still not real helping they dont want to know whats happening in school the MOMS do all the work all the way till they are married and so on! He is too controlling dont marry him either. He should let you name him or her anything you want you are going through all the pain. I hope you find out in your own way whats going to happen I wish you luck!

Kerry - posted on 05/03/2010

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Hi There, congrats on having a son and being pregnant again. I have 2 children a boy and a girl. My husband and I only ever wanted to have 2 children and we got a boy first and then a girl, It all comes down to luck. If we had 2 boys or even 2 girls that would have just meant to be that way, things happen for a reason. If you have another boy you can always try for a 3rd but then you might have 3 boys. My dad has a big family and his parents (my grandparents) kept trying until they got a girl so there is 6 kids in the family my dad and his sister (my Auntie) are 18 years apart in age. Just be blessed that you can have children and that you have a healthy son, I know its hard to say that as I have a boy and a girl but I did have the same fear when we were trying for our 2nd child, and I thought if we are meant to have 2 boys that's the way it will be. We only ever wanted 2 children and we got a boy and girl so we are very lucky. You always see people in shopping centres or the park with 3 kids most of the time that is because they have 2 of the same sex and have tried for another child to get the other sex sometime they are lucky and sometimes they are not, or because they intended to have a large family. If we had 2 of the same sex we would never have gone for a 3rd child just to try and get the other sex because that doesn't always work out, and then we might have ended up with 3 of the same when really we only wanted to have 2 children in the beginning. Regarding the name issue you are having I think you and your partner have deep issues and are not together for the right reason, you both have a right to choose a name and if anything you more so because you have to carry the baby for 9 months, you say he is picking the name because you picked the first boy's name, who cares who picked what name first, you both have to like the name and so does your child because they have to be called that name. Has your partner thought about when the child starts school and what the other kids will say about a name like "kermit" I'm guessing not and only thinking about himself. My suggestion is put all the names you and your partner like in a hat, shake it around and then get someone else to pull out a name from the hat, and whatever name is on that peice of paper is what you call you child. Well best of luck to you in the upcoming birth of your child and may your wish come true of having a girl.

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Don't let him name your son Kermit!! i am extremely concerned that if he is that controlling about a name, then what else is he controlling about? It bothers me immensely that he is TELLING and not ASKING.



HOWEVER, it is not my place to judge. I am not one to go telling strangers to break up with their boyfriends over names. I am sure you love him a lot and you know why you love him...which is no one else's business but yours.



I hope that you get what you want. Be strong!!

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wow, i have six boys and the last one is a girl. if you need a girl for doing girly things, why not look in your family and borrow like a niece or some other young girl.
you can not change the sex of the child, and what do you think how does your unborn child feel that his/her mother rejects the baby or is not so happy because it might be a boy.
with the name, i am sorry. have no idea what to tell you about that. i must say it is a lousy name. and your boyfriend is what he is your boyfriend only, therefore legally he has no saying in the naming. your son will be exposed to a lot of bulling and teasing in school with the name kermit.

best wishes to you.......and good luck
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Kelly - posted on 05/03/2010

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congratulations...and i know exactly what u mean, i am the only girl on both sides of my family and i wanted a girl myself and of course i ended up having a boy, and i know what u mean when u say theres only some things you can do with a girl, theres that bond between mother and daughter but as i believe everything happens for a reason ..i believe u will get your girl someday maybe even sooner than u expected but as long as its healthy what more could u ask for? but really...i know exactly how u feel i would give anything for a little girl..good luck!

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When I was pregnant I so much wanted a little boy, just because I thought I could dream everything for him. Let's just admit it, we can't get as far as men, not because we are not smart enough, but for many social, and antropological reasons (I myself can't dedicate so much to my career, because I want to be a good mother - is that possible?-). Anyway, my point, any child is welcome in the family, girl or boy, they make you fall in love with them.
About the Kermit issue: it is a creature that should come out of your love, with love, for love. You just can't think that you two are having a child and not sharing everything. You should share the choice of a name, just pick up 10 each, then see if there is some that you both like, try to work it out until YOU BOTH AGREE on a name. Then think of the child, how this name sounds with the middle name and the surname. A name can be a difficult thing to carry, trust me (my name is Trinidad), you should name the child not only for what you like or to make someone happy, but to help him be identified, get a good impression. The name is the first thing you tell about yourself. Good luck, try to talk to him. You should love each other and your son/daughter.

Meilan - posted on 05/02/2010

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Don't let him pick the name like that!! You both have to agree on a name, and he has to realize that he picks the name now, but the child has to carry it for the rest of his life!!! To me too, Kermit is a frog. So, that's a big NONO!



As for wanting a girl. All I can say is: Have a sex scan. That'll give you time to come to terms with having a boy (if you're having a boy of course). We didn't have a preference either way. But my husband's SIL did. She was convinced she was having a girl (she already had one of each and she was desperate for a girl) and it was a boy. We knew she bought all girly stuff, so she didn't expect a boy. But MIL told us she was devestated it was a boy. It took her a while to get used to it. If you have a sex scan, you have time to get used to it before baby is born.

And if it's a boy you can always try for number 3. But statistically everyone has just over 50% chance of having a boy, so... :)

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A name for a child needs to made by both parents who pick it together and love it and in turn there child will be proud of there name.Don't dwell on wondering if your little one is a boy or girl we receive what we can handle and what's destiny for us.

I wish you a healthy bundle of joy and safe delivery and i hope you both can take pride in naming his little one together and be proud of the baby in every way which i am very sure you will do.:-)

Devon - posted on 05/02/2010

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i have 2 boys, desperately wanted a girl the 2nd time around but wouldn't trade my boys for anything. i expected them to be the same and not really experience anything different...i was so wrong! different as night and day and so so so much fun :) as for the names, i let my husband name the first & i named our 2nd but we both agreed on both names. you could suggest using kermit as the middle name because your first has a family name as a middle name or you could just go with it and then refer to the child by his middle name. i know several people who use their middle name. it's the beauty of giving children several names, it gives them and you a choice in what you call them :) good luck!!!

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I have an 18 month old son that we named Leonard. It is a family name on both sides. It is my Grandfather's name and this set of grandparents actually watch him during the week when we work. My grandfather was not excited about us choosing to name him after him and worse was that we were going to call him Leo which is his least favorite nickname. Now that Leo is here and growing up, Grandpa couldn't be more proud and we couldn't be happier that we did it. All 3 of our children have family names and I think that it is important. For me, if Kermit is the family name, I would go with it and call him by a nick name.

Rebecca - posted on 05/02/2010

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My son's name is Meredith. A family name on my husbands side. We call him Henri (one of his middle names).

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I have 4 boys, and love each of them so much. If you have another boy , you will be over the disappointment in about 3 seconds and love him to death! As for your partner, he sounds like the real problem! He is being very immature and trying to do a power play here= tell him middle name ONLY , and if he isn't happy with that, then it's not used at all!! Dont saddle your poor little one with a horrible name. Best of luck !

Charlie - posted on 05/01/2010

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First of all i dont think making fun of his family name will help AT ALL as some people have suggested , you need to come to a happy medium i think the perhaps you could see what other names he likes , i too am having my second boy and since i named my first son i am letting my fiance name the second he also suggested some family names that i DID NOT LIKE , ive made it clear that he can pick but we BOTH have to agree on it .

Mary - posted on 05/01/2010

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look at you own family for idea for name . do not be afriad of having another boy love both boys the same.

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l like you, wanted a certain sex , l had 3 girls first , each time hoping for a boy and getting a girl but once you see their tiny face you think wow we created this together, my boy was my 4 child then went on to having a girl and then a boy last be happy in wat comes along as they all need your love and support , its a very cruel and hard world we live in. as for the name of your baby lm with everybody else phewwwwww ,it stinks tell your panrtner if he wants to name his son kermit he also should change his to kermit and see how he likes it , like you my son has a family name but l made it longer it was to be (brand ) all l could think of he would get asked wat type of brand is he ,so l put on ,on the end to make brandon and it suits him , les is better, l would call him that or scott . at school he would be called horrid name like kerm the germ and they would make frog noises not good for him hope its a girl ,and she has a pretty name

*Lisa* - posted on 05/01/2010

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I'm more concerned that your boyfriend is TELLING you that he is naming the child and not letting you have a say... what the???!!! Since when is that right??? You are the mother!!! I would laugh at him the next time he tries to say that you can't choose the name! He sounds super controlling!! Sure he can have a say in the naming, but he can't say 'that's it, I'm naming him'!! I guess if the poor kid does end up getting stuck with such an awful name, at least he will have the option of changing it himself when he is 18...
As for wanting a girl, I understand that. I was told 5 times during ultrasounds that I was having a girl (the first girl grandchild on my husbands side). I always felt it was a boy but had been told so many times it was a girl that I started letting myself get excited (I secretly wanted a girl but was like 'nah I don't care what the gender is' to everyone else hehe). I found out on the 34 week ultrasound that he was a boy (much to my mother in law's disgust). Talk about a kick in the pants. But now that I have my little boy I wouldn't change him for the world and I'm sure you will feel the same way when you have yours :) I am even wanting another boy for our 2nd baby so that they can play together! Just relax and focus more on telling your boyfriend that there is no way you are naming the child Kermit! Gosh I don't want to know what he is considering if it's a girl!! arrghhhh!

Gloryanne - posted on 05/01/2010

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As a mother of 2 - both boys, I can tell you that I would not trade them in for a girl. Boys are definately easier come the tweens and later . Don't get me wrong - they are dumb as the day is long, but at least I do not have to deal with the witchiness of girls.

Now for the name - you need to put your foot down on that one. My husband wanted to name our first son "Chauncey". I told him he would be destined to get beat up walking home from school. What parents need to consider is the the fact that a name will follow the baby through childhood and adulthood. Can you imagine - CEO Kermit. C'mon. I have not even mentioned "the frog" part of Kermit. If it is a family name, so make Kermit the middle name.

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First of all I can feel you on the boy thing. I have a 10 month old son. When we got pregnant DF and I both really really wanted a girl. I had a moment's dissappointment when the ultrasound said it was a boy, but I came to terms with it. And I love him to death and wouldn't trade him for a million girls. BUT, we were talking about baby #2 and its the same thing- both of us would like a girl. The thing is DF comes from a family full of males, which is what makes me doubtful we'll ever have a girl. He has three brothers- and his older brother who has children has twin boys. Plus our son. Since its the sperm that determines the sex of the baby it doesn't make me very hopeful and I've determined not to get my hopes up. I don't want to feel disappointed if we find out its another boy- thats not an easy feeling to wrestle with as a mother because obviously, it doesn't ultimately matter and boy or girl I will love my child.

As for the name... OMG, I'd put my foot down. Or compromise with that as a middle name, at most. I can't believe he'd be so stubborn about it. Tell him how much the poor kid will be made fun of growing up.

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I agree with the others. It's bullshit that he's being a dictator on this and telling you that you have NO say in the naming of your own child. Why should you put up with that, especially where YOU'RE the one doing all the work of giving birth?



If you want to give him the middle name of Kermit to make his family happy, then that's fine. But do NOT saddle that poor child with the name Kermit Lester-Scott! Fair or not, names really DO affect our impressions of people. And this is a name that would put your child at a serious disadvantage, both socially and professionally.



If your boyfriend likes the name that much, point him towards a lawyer and tell him to get his OWN name changed.

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Oh second thought, so what if it is a girl & he says since you picked the first name he gets to name the second baby even if it is a girl & he whips out Bertha Betty-Joe, Ethel, or Gertrude?

Kermit Lester-Scott is really bad, down right hill-billy trailer park! Yes, I reserve the right to say hill-billy no offense to anyone, but I was raised in a trailer with tin foiled windows, and it just reminds me of the trailer park.

Please go with your gut, this is your baby. If he is this controlling, I 'd hate to see how he is in other areas of your realtionship.

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FYI, at least here in the US they bring the mom all the info to fill out the birth certificate, he can not tell what what your gonna name this baby.



It is easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask permission if you know what I mean. You kid will be angry at you for the rest of his life if you don't go with your gut and listen to the voice of reason in your head. Can you imagine the kid trying to be taken seriously as a lawyer with a name like Kermit?



You have all the say in the world. I understand it is a family name but it is 2010 & back then they didn't have Kermit the frog. Might as well ask him if he likes the name Melvin or Cecil.



Just make it a middle name, and don't ask for premission, just do it. Tell him when he spends 10 hours shooting a baby out of his who-ha then he gets to pick the name..oh wait he doesn't have a who-ha so that makes it simple.



Good luck!

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well like all great moms... that in todays life the name kermit will give a child many more reasons to be teased right off the batt and you cannot belive as a wonderful great father he would do that to such a innocent lil baby..and start the whole tear eyed water work guilt trip while also making sure say what great guy / dad he is! this dont work do like i did on third child i refused to name her unless he came to dession we both liked we had baby snyder for 5 days...and if u have school age kids specially boys while he is sittin among them tell boys the name asked them how many ways could tease a kid with that name...

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Congratulation - you sound as though you need "mum" time - I am sure your son is georgeous and the name problem will disappear naturally after you give your "new" baby a cuddle and welcome party into the world - good luck!!

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Tell him that Kermit is a frog. That kid will be destined for a lifetime of torture. Life is about compromise and neither one of you should hate your child's name. Good luck on that!



As for not wanting another boy.... I NEVER wanted a girl. Not because I couldn't love a girl, but because of everything I went through AS a girl and also not having an open relationship w/ my mom and desperately not wanting any of that for my kid. Well.... I got twin girls and they were the first girls born on my husband's side of the family since his aunt. ;) When we found out they were both girls (25 weeks) I cried and cried. Mostly because I was glad they were still ok, but a big part of the tears were from the fact that they were girls. I got over it rather quickly though and couldn't imagine my life w/out them being girls. :)

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OK, so you're pregnant, and pregnant = hormonal, BIG time. My family ran to girls, most of my cousins were girls and their children were girls; in my husband's family, most of his cousins had had girls; so we honestly expected to continue the trend. Sure enough, our first was a boy, but I found out at 20 weeks and was reconciled with it because dh's grandfather died just before our son was born, and he was named after Great-Grandpa. When I was pregnant the second time, both of us REALLY wanted a girl, but the Y chromosome had other ideas, and we had our younger son - again I found out at 20 weeks so I had time to get used to the idea (and try to think of a name!)



We then had a 7 year gap, but both dh and I were horribly broody for a little girl, so we decided to have another one. I was convinced it would be another boy, and even at 20 weeks, when they told me they couldn't see any boy bits, I didn't quite believe them. (Dh, on the other hand, chose to think pink with a vengeance!) When Willow was born I was face-down in a pillow, and as they told me "It's a girl!", I was sobbing "Really? Really a girl?" So we got our daughter. But if she'd been another boy, I would have loved him just the same. Your fears are partly your hormones messing with you; even if it's another boy, focus on the fact that you have a healthy baby and the girl thing will become less important. I'm not saying you won't feel wistful pangs every time you see a beautiful baby dress - I did for 7 years - but you'll be more focussed on bringing up your LO to be the amazing person he'll turn into. (Feel free to throw up - I'm not normally this sentimental!!!)



However, if my dh had insisted on calling our son Kermit, there would have been hell to pay. If your fella insists, just refuse to use the name. I agree with the others that it sounds a bit dodgy, this being 'payback' - no-one should use their child for an act of vengeance. Pick something you're comfortable with, even if it's not your absolute favourite, and use that on the birth certificate instead...

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You give birth so you have the right to choose the name. I understand your feeling to respect your boyfriend's choice, but you have the right to naming the child. I would not use either name and if you feel compelled to use Kermit or Lester than use one as the middle name and call by his first name OR use as the first name and call him by the middle name. YOU do have rights in this matter - you carry the child the whole time and your boyfriend should not add stress or negative issues to your pregnancy. Do what you feel is right. A child is precious whether it is a boy or girl so just see the blessing that God has for you.

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When I got pregnant, I also so wanted a girl! My husband has a son from a previous relationship (whose mother is no longer in the picture, so he is my son : ) ) and I thought it would be great to have a little girl so we could have one of each. I was not disappointed when I found out I was having a boy, because I also found out my baby was healthy and today is a very happy 10 month old! : )

As far as the name, if you are not happy with it, do not name your child that! When it came down to picking out names for us, I made a list of boys names and girls names. My hubby looked it over and crossed out ones he didnt like and circled ones he could handle. lol. In the end, we did get his top pick (wasn't mine) but I still love the name! And his middle name is the same as his daddy's. I did let my husband have more of a say in his name as he got no say in his oldest son's name (he was not with the ex and didn't even know the baby existed until after he was born, but that is a whole different story!). So we have our 2 beautiful little boys, Christian Alexander (2) and Tristyn Joel (10 months). Good luck!!!

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Dude...your boyfriend??? He is not even your husband...can get up and leave any minute a (not like husbands can't..just making a point) and he is expecting you to carry his child for nine months with all the aches and pains...push the child out of you...breatfeed...raise the child,...and he has the nerve to not let you name your own child? What a douche..you do what you want! If you are willing to have it as a middle name...tell him that! Absolutely get your way with this..it is not the 1930's where a women has to do what the man says. Good luck! I hope it is a GIRL!!!!! Keep us informed!

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Yikes. If my husband pulled this crap on me, well, he wouldn't be my husband anymore! Seriously, this isn't just a little thing...this is your child's name which he will have for the rest of his life. Its a big deal, and its not healthy that he isn't compromising with you on this. Do not give in if you don't want to! Come to a compromise that you BOTH agree on. And then, go buy your husband a pet frog he can name Kermit.

Hope you have your girl! But if not, just remember how much you love your little boy. And then, you will have two mommy's boys...twice the fun! :)

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lol tell him to kiss your ass :)

Kermit is a frog.

I had a friend named Lester.......we called him Lester the molester.

mean I know but kids are just that!!

good luck with that!!

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