Feber Napping - Day 1 = 7th level of Hell

Ali M - posted on 01/26/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Okay, so it's not quite that bad but I think, I hope and therefore am pleading with the masses that someone out there can help/give some insight.

My baby is 2 days shy of 7 months. We did Ferber/progressive waiting at night and saw great results in the first 4 days. Today was the first day of doing naps Ferber style and it was a disaster.

Let me set the stage with prior nap associations: Holding and walking, rocking, reading to her and/or singing to her on the couch while cuddling until she falls asleep. I would then have to stay next to her while she slept so her nap wasn't super short. Really whatever worked to calm her and get her to sleep.

Ferber action from nap time today:

Morning nap attempt: Read her a book in the rocker then put her down. I did checks at 3, 5, 10, 10 then waited 2 more mins and went in after to end the nap because she hadn't fallen asleep in the 30 min. period.

She was awake after the failed nap attempt and we played. She started falling asleep at her 11am feeding. I got through the feeding but kept having to wake her. I figured since she was tired I would try the nap thing again.

2nd nap attempt: Same drill. No dice on the sleep front. After 30 mins ended nap and brought her downstairs to play. At this point she's obviously super tired but gets a 2nd wind for a little.

3rd nap attempt was at her normal afternoon nap time: 30 mins with all crying, no sleeping. I did the checks to console her like the book says. Ended nap after 30 mins.

She was super fussy after getting up. We played for a bit but she was like a zombie. I didn't know what to do. The book doesn't tell you this part and I seriously thought the first nap would be the worst of it. I sat her on the couch and started to read to her. She was asleep in a couple of mins. She slept approx 1/2 hour which I felt was crazy short considering she'd been awake since 7am and it was now 1:45pm.

Tried for late afternoon nap a little over an hour after her 3pm feeding. Same drill. She did seem like she was starting to settle, roll to her side like she does at night before she sleeps at the end of the 30 mins so I tacked on another 10 mins to see what she would do. She didn't sleep. I ended the nap after 40 mins elapsed.

As I brought her downstairs she was so tired I couldn't calm her down. She was crying, arching her back and just exhibiting that she was beyond tired. I laid her on the couch and cuddled with her - she was asleep in a matter of 2 mins.

I don't know how to proceed. I know that it's a lot of change for her all at once. I don't know if I just stick with it and see how she does tomorrow? My husband's idea is to keep doing Ferber at night for a week or two since she's getting good at soothing herself at night then try naps again when she has a better grasp at how to soothe herself. I don't want all her crying to be for nothing. I feel badly too because it's because of us that she has all these sleep associations. We're first timers. I have a great baby. She's so sweet and so happy when she's well rested. Sleep has just been a struggle for our little family and I wonder if anyone out there can relate/give me some feedback on what worked for them/ideas on what I may be able to do better.

Thanks!

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Sarah - posted on 01/28/2015

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So glad it is going better. :) I was in your shoes when my first was little. The first day/night is usually the hardest. I learned two things.....1. Be careful what you start as a routine/habit. 2. There is no one right way to do things. You have to do what works best for you and your child. Sometimes cold turkey works the best and sometimes a gradual transition works best.

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Ali M - posted on 01/28/2015

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Sarah, I did try cuddling her more in the rocker like she was used to from before then laying her down. Yesterday was much better - so thankful! I think that there were just more associations to change with nap time as compared to bed time. Today is going well so far and I have high hopes that it will get continue to get better. She slept through the night last night which is a first. I'm just so thankful that she's getting quality rest. Before we did the night sleep training she was waking up every hour to hour and a half and we'd go in and rock her again, wait 10 mins to confirm she was really asleep then put her back in her crib. It wasn't the best. Thanks again for the suggestion as it seems to have helped the transition :)

Ali M - posted on 01/28/2015

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Thanks Dove. I do love the bond that comes from nursing so I know what you're talking about. My little one has reflux issues so I have to keep her upright for about 20 mins after eating to help decrease the symptoms from that. I'm glad you found what worked for you and your little ones :) Thank you for taking the time to respond.

Sarah - posted on 01/26/2015

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My advise would be try two different things. First I would keep with what you are doing at night if it is working. Then for the naps I would try seeing if it would work to hold her until she starts dosing off and then lay her down. If that does not work then I would do as your husband suggested and work on the naps later down the road.

Dove - posted on 01/26/2015

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My advice? Screw Ferber... lol All of my kids nursed to sleep every nap/bedtime for the first 1-3 years (depending on which kid). My youngest is 7 years old and I wouldn't change it for the world.

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