Marti - posted on 08/30/2016 ( 10 moms have responded )
OK.. I am a ftm with a 1 month old son. I am looking for advice because idk how to go about this. Any advice will help! I had decided to get a part time job, in the meanwhile, I had my bfs mom babysit our son while I was at work. Mind you I just got this job, and I loved it! One day when she picked me up from work with my son, I got into the passenger seat, and asked her if he had a blanket on him? Not thinking she'd be this dumb! But it was 86° out, and she has no a.c. and all the windows weare down! She said yea, I glater at her in disbelief, and quickly reached back and pulled it off of him! I asked her why she out it on him? And she told me "it was a mistake " that it was cold in her house before she left to get me, that she thought he would be cold. Now, my son could've died! From getting over heated. When we got home, I took him out of his car seat, and his hair, and one she I put on him was soaked in sweat! I stripped him down, and gave him a cool bath. Now.... another thing that really has been bothering me is, she has precisely told me, that she DOES NOT need my permission on where she takes my son while she was watching him. That if my bf is in the sane vehicle as her, that she doesn't need my permission cuz he is there with him. That she knows what she is doing, and that she's his grandma, that if "anything bad was to happen to my son, "that is when she will give me a call". Idk wth to think about this! I need outside opinions.. I have brought all this up to her, about how pissed off I am about her putting a blanket on him in hot weather, she just tells me over and over she knows what she is doing, that she has 3 degrees in being a medical assistant,.tthat she has 5 kids. She goes behind my back and messages my bf saying, that "I'm no expert on how to raise an infant!" In which I haven't tried to be. She's sending him messages, asking him to come over, so "they can talk" another thing.. the last day I let her watch him, she told my bf that he drank a 6 to 10 oz bottle. I told him bs! That he gets full on only 4 oz! And he knows that. (Another thing) my sons car seat has always been behind my seat in her van when she picked him up to watch him. One day last week, I opened the door to her van to see it sitting behind her seat? I asked my bf why she moved it? And he said Idk. I brought ALL this stuff up to her, and she responded very rudely to me. She even had her 12 yr old daughter message me, asking why it was such a big deal? OMG! it's only a seat! I'm over protective, that I need to take it down 20 notches. Another thing, is that I don't even know until after the fact, that she takes my son places, one day when she picked me up from work, she was going about saying how she took my son to village inn with her.and her bf. But yet i dont hear anything from her all day! doesn't even ask me. Instead she messages my bf at work, about how he's doing anad everything, and I don't hear a peep! Sending him pictures of our son to him while watching him, and not me. I get nothing. Anyone go through any of this with your mil?? I need another persons perspective, please!