Fed up with the school

Kim - posted on 11/30/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Sorry for the length but I want to share some background. My son started kindergarten this year and for about the past month has been coming home every day telling me someone hit/kicked/scratched him. I have told him he needs to tell them to stop and tell the teacher or lunch supervisor. It is always the same two boys that are doing this. Finally after about the 5th time of him telling me this I decided to talk to the teacher. She basically said my son has been messing around as well and she would talk to them. I know he has not hit anyone but am assuming the boys are playing around which ends up in my son being hit. I am just wondering if she knows that they are horseplaying and if my son is involved then why she has not mention this to me so I can deal with it. To me that kind of play should not be allowed in school.
A few days after I talked to her my son came home with a scratch and bruise on his face saying a boy scratched and punched him. I was not happy. My boyfriend then talked to her and she basically said she was dealing with it and can't see everything. I help in the classroom so I know she can't see everything that happens but if this is an ongoing problem I don't understand why it's not being dealt with. I was helping at school yesterday and my son comes and tells me he was scratched in the eye(his eye was red and watering). I told him to tell the teacher and she told him that is was probably an accident and to go splash it with some water. She did absolutely nothing to correct this boy when she knows it has been an ongoing problem. I didn't say anything then as it was the middle of class but am looking for some advice on how to handle this? Any suggestions on what to tell my son he needs to do?

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Amy - posted on 11/30/2011

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I would start documenting and taking pictures of any injuries that my child is coming home with. I would also schedule a meeting with someone other then the teacher to discuss why your child is coming home with scratches and bruises. Even if your son is "messing around as well", if a child ends up with an injury I think the respective parents should be notified. Also if she "is dealing with it", I think it's time she involves all parents so that they can also "deal with it". Good luck.

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Kim - posted on 11/30/2011

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Thank you. I was planning on talking with the principal tomorrow and was looking for suggestions on how to explain myself clearly. I don't want to come across as the parent that thinks my child can do no wrong but at the same time no matter how much my son messes around doesn't make it okay for someone else to physically hurt him.

I found that when I brought it up with the teacher she immediately told me my son wasn't totally innocent( which I assumed) and brushed me off because of it.

Any suggestions on how to explain to my son to just stay away from the boy? For some reason he keeps telling me that he wants to play with him and the boy doesn't which is why he hits him. Some days the boy wants to be friends other days he doesn't. I tried telling him friends should make us feel happy and not hurt us but he just isn't getting it.

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