Feedback from anyone in the adoption community (specifically intercultural adoption)

Sharon - posted on 03/12/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




I am interested to find out the thoughts and feelings of people have been adopted from overseas (including local adoptions where adoptees are from another cultural background). What do you feel could have made your adoption a more positive experience? If you feel that your adoption was a positive experience, what do you feel made it positive. Feedback from adoptees is particularly appreciated. Thank you. :)

My daughter is of Ethiopian heritage (I am Australian) and I am keen to learn from other peoples experiences. We are in contact with her birth family. She is almost five and we have been open in talking to her about her adoption, her birth mother and some basic details of her adoption story. We plan to be able to return to Ethiopia and meet her birth mother one day.


Sibs - posted on 03/13/2009




I was adopted by a british couple, I learnt absolutely nothing about my culture from them Nigerian/Irish, it was only as an adult that I learnt anything about myself.  Last year I finally manged to find all my siblings and get the opportunity to see my file for myself.  It wasnt happy reading but atleast I have a better understanding of why etc.  I travel to Nigeria in April to meet my birth fathers family for the first time.  As a black person your culture is so important please try and learn as much about it as possible.  Adoption is a very special gift to a child but its also important they are aware of their cultural and brought up to be proud of it.  Maybe you could join an Ethiopan community group, there appear to be a lot cropping up throughout the country atleast then she can mingle and learn alot herself.


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Cindy - posted on 06/30/2016




I have three children adopted from Vietnam. They are adults now. We truly enjoyed learning and incorporating Vietnamese into our daily lives. There was Chinese New Year, Vietnamese Restaurants, cooking Vietnamese food at home, watching karate movies with the kids, taking karate lessons. Participating in adoption groups. Celebrating their adoption day. The cultural exchange is only limited by your imagination! We had so much fun, when those three grew up we adopted again. This time two African American kids.

Janaki - posted on 06/13/2012




We adopted two boys (they are biologic brothers) fro Ethiopia, and live in America. We, like you, have been open with them about their origins, and heritage. We hired an Ethiopian to serve as their nanny - we had one wonderful older woman for the first year and a half of having them in our family, and then she left for personal reasons, and we hired our current nanny, who has worked out fantastically. We had hoped that they would pick up more Amharic, but that has gone about as well as it does for immigrant parents to teach their native language to their second generation children. Our kids know a few words, but haven't become fluent (yet).

Our adoption experience has been, overall, wonderful. We credit our adoption agency, who prepared us, and our kids, so well for the transition. Our kids, who are open and loving. And our community - largely the support of our faith community, which embraced and welcomed our kids, and have shown them love and support.

We also plan to take the kids back to Ethiopia. They have relatives living, although their parents are deceased. I don't ever want them to forget their roots.

I blog periodically, mostly about the adoption experience, at

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