Feeding 3 mon bananas mixed w a bit of rice cereal and formula

Barbara - posted on 09/20/2016 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Im a first time loving grandmother of the mist adorable 3 minth ild i fed her a small skaice of banana mixed w rice cereal and formuka today. My son is very strict and thinks this will hurt her so u tried ti hide it from him unfortunately he seen the open fruit 3 hours later and called me freaking saying shes vomiting. My son has a tendancy to over exsagerate!!! She was fine for for well over 3 hours after she loved it. Shes always hungry and wants a bottle so i decided a bit of real food to fill her. Im worried sick that she is sick over this noone will call me back i imagi e if she was that bad i woukd of heard by now but i think depriving a baby of real foifoodd or a year is just insane. I knkw shes not sick iver this im just worrued it will effect her in the long run somehow. Shes a very chubby baby big and thought the bannans woukd fill her . some thoughts and advice appreciated

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Melissa - posted on 09/23/2016

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WOW! So first off its understandable you just thought you were "helping" but as everyone is stating its not your decision its the child's parents. I fed my son at 6 months old and that was my decision as a mother. How would you have liked people making your parenting decisions for you when you were raising your son? Be respectful. Any pediatrician will tell you feeding a child at 3 months of age can be dangerous. Not only is there food allergy dangers there is also choking hazards. Yes a banana is smooth but it is also a lot thicker then milk and can be hard for baby to swallow and digest. Their tummies are not able to handle that. You saying baby was fine for 3 hours and dad was just exaggerating isn't necessarily true. I know my food does not digest the moment I eat! It could have taken time to hit babys tummy. Bottom line I guess everyone is trying to tell you nicely is that the baby is not yours and if the parents cant trust you with a simple rule how are they to trust you at all. That is their babys life. Although everyone is trying to be helpful you are still being disrespectful and rude because it isn't what you want to hear. Not one person is on your side. So take that as a hint that you were wrong apologize and if you want to be a grandmother follow your grandbabys parents rules.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/21/2016

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Are YOU certain that you are a grandparent, with your completely nonsensical and over the to rant about helicopter parents and disrespect?

You don't assume much, do you?

I actually DID stop allowing my mother to have my sons unsupervised until she could learn that she was stupidly endangering them every single time she held them on her lap in the car, and because she was fond of feeding sugary crap to them at hugely inappropriate ages. I did it respectfully, but I did it, and she, UNLIKE YOU, used it as a learning moment, and read up on current laws and recommendations for child raising.

Go ahead. Ask a PEDIATRICIAN. Not your geriatric specialist who will side with you out of sympathy.

You are ranting about disrespect, yet YOU are the one being disrespectful of your son, and his wife, and their directions for watching their child.

Yep, it was "just a fucking banana". What if she had been allergic? Yes, she COULD HAVE had severe issues!

Whatever! You don't really care about your granddaughter's health, or well being. All you seem to care about is the fuss being made, yet you cannot seem to see past being butt hurt about your son's reaction to see that YOU made a poor choice.

Admit that, learn from it, and apologize.

Oh, you may want to grow up a bit. It is not about YOU. It is about an infant, and the safety and security of that infant.

Dove - posted on 09/21/2016

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lol Actually I'm an almost 40 year old mother of 3... my twin girls are almost 15 and my son is 8.5 and they all have excellent relationships w/ my parents because my parents have complete respect for ME as the parent to these children. I am actually a quite relaxed and lenient parent (past infancy), but if my parents ever did something w/ my children that they KNEW I wouldn't be OK w/ and then they hid it from me.... hell yeah they would be severing their relationship w/ my children. Almost 15 years and it's never been an issue w/ any of them... you couldn't even make it more than 3 months before you showed how little respect for your son you actually have.

Grow up... get off your high horse... and realize that you are not the parent of this baby. Granted, a one time feeding is not 'likely' (though it could) to cause permanent damage, but I chose to be harsh in my response because of how deceitful and manipulative you are... I had a grandma like that and I never wanted anything to do w/ her my entire life. So... good luck cuz you're going to need it if you don't take my reality check for what it really was... a caution for you.

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Sarah - posted on 09/22/2016

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They are the parents, they get to decide what their child will eat. End of story. You not only violated their wishes, but the AAP and the AMA guidelines. If you want a long loving relationship with your granddaughter, wise up and follow their wishes.
My eldest is 20 and even then it was "food for fun until age one". It is not deprivation, they just don't need it to survive. To practice and enjoy? Sure, but not a 3 months.

Michelle - posted on 09/22/2016

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I can't understand anything with the typo's!!
The ladies you have accused of being helicopter parents are anything but. They are parents that do the right things by their children. That means NOT feeding solids until a child is at least 6 months. Food allergies can show up hours later and there are a lot of people allergic to banana's
The ladies were more concerned about your deceitful actions in hiding the fact you had fed your Grandchild solids AGAINST the wishes of the parents. That's the worse thing you have done.
I suggest that if you want to still see your Grandchild, you follow the parents wishes to the letter. If you don't, you will probably find that you won't be asked to be around her for a very long time.

Dove - posted on 09/21/2016

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Deciphering through the horrible typos is really difficult, huh Shawnn?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/21/2016

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What is a "bug spoukex child"?

I see you didn't bother to read that BOTH of my sons are adults...and since they had the same feeding guidelines 25 years ago, I can safely say that i won't run the risk with my grandkids!

Barbara - posted on 09/20/2016

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Zero relationship w my this site gmhas wackos on it fir real never have ive ever seen or went on a site w more judgemental people my goidness it was a banana i feel sorry for tbe children never will i entertain one oof these sites again

Barbara - posted on 09/20/2016

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This site us absolutely riduculous and the parents on here ate wayyyyy overprotective helicopter parents smh feel bad for these children ill ask a doctor who has much more cooth

Barbara - posted on 09/20/2016

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And how old are you your my dear are are a helicopter mom overoritective and you completely blew that wayyyy out if proportion i will never go on thus, site agsin conduder the rudeness if you woukd do that to onre of yoyr parenrs act like tgat i woukdnt want to be, around you period cuz you are disrespectful my goodness its a fn banna read up ask youf pediatrican shes not gonna die. You my deqr may have a bug spoukex chikd in your hands fir 18 years plus thete are much vetter ways to to put things tgan the wau you jus did smh

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/20/2016

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What do you mean "depriving a baby of real food for a year is insane"?????

Breast milk or formula IS REAL FOOD FOR AN INFANT!

You disregarded your son's wishes, and every direction given by pediatricians for decades, and you think your son is over reacting? You can actually cause serious digestive problems by feeding solids too soon.

Needless to say, you would not be having unsupervised access to my child, were I your son. You need to study up on parenting. How old is your son? You can't be that long out of the baby game, since my eldest is 22, well old enough to have kids, and pediatricians were not advising starting solids until after 6 months then...

You would do well to apologize instead of making yourself out to be the victim here.

ETA It is also quite obvious that the child is not wasting away by being "denied 'real' food" if she is a chubby happy baby...

Dove - posted on 09/20/2016

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Wow... what a horribly disrespectful grandmother you are. If you were my kid's grandma you wouldn't be alone w/ that baby again for a very, very, very long time... if ever. No baby needs anything in their diet other than breast milk or formula under 6 months and you could potentially cause life long digestive disorders by doing what you have done. Babies most certainly can live and even thrive on only breast milk or formula until 12 months. Even once baby starts eating solids (if under a year still)... they still get all the nutrients and calories they need from their milk source.

Bottom line... this is NOT your child. You need to respect her parents and only feed her what they tell you to feed her... or risk having zero relationship w/ any of them.

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